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Irismammy

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原文章由 Hazel媽媽 於 08-4-9 17:12 發表

唉，有時做人係咁難架啦，肯定比亞媽哩句破壞埋結婚O既心情。

我結婚之後照有比家用，不特止，我一直仲有幫亞爸亞媽供保險，我亞媽有4個仔女，份保險明知係我一個人供，但係佢要寫晒D仔女名，我都是但，因為保額又唔係多，我幫佢哋買 ...

其實，怨自己父母不為自己設想，想唔比家用，咁其實咪証明咗你根本無反轉來為父母設想囉！

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我一定會俾，雖然唔多，因為我媽咪好錫我哋幾兄妹，佢絶對係一個廿四孝媽咪，由其而家我同賤人99一齊住，比較之下，我覺得我媽咪真係好到不得了！

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養育之恩唔係用錢黎衡量, 我相信而家d父母都唔係expect 仔女供養. 唔好下下講錢.
如果要計, 父母恩你呢世都還唔完, 五千蚊係儘下綿力咋.
完全同意唔係你媽媽有無能力既問題, 係責任問題. 只不過媽媽有無能力, 你負擔無咁重咁解. 係咪touchwood 你媽媽有咩事又一個先都無, 要你個個月供養你先至明呀?
你媽媽本事唔係罪喎. 你有個叻媽媽好幸福喇.

如果你問我, 結左婚洗唔洗俾家用, 我覺得唔可以俾之前少tim呀.
如果結左婚生活條件差過之前, 係因為開支大左, 係你自己無好好計劃. 或者你選擇結婚, 你就要接受呢個改變. 做乜拖媽媽落水?
真係有困難, 俾少d 3-4千, 上左軌道再加囉

信我啦, 我相信你媽媽唔係一般屋村師奶, 佢咁做係維護緊自己同你係男家既利益. 今日唔洗你俾錢, 難保第日有需要, 都時你男家大安旨意, 質問你”乜要俾錢你呀媽架咩?” 你就怪自己開錯左個頭. 呢d策略, 你一定要明白.

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fukadahk

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唔係教壞你, 你都未結婚就咁為你老公個邊著想, 唔係唔arm, 不過你都要照顧下自己屋企.
我唔知你老公咩人, 如果俾佢覺得呢個外母貪心, 或者可以食自己, 唔洗我地理. 佢都唔會尊重你媽媽架.

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我亞媽好搞笑,個個月過左數比佢同佢講聲,佢會同我講多謝

我話佢話呢d係我應份架,多咩謝

我比唔到咋,比到我都想比多d佢呀

父母對我地黎講係無價架,比幾多都唔夠佢地養大我地!

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c-wong

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發表於 08-4-11 17:23 |只看該作者

I think it's not a must to give parents. If you have $ and your mum needs the $, then give.

All traditional old mums (like my grandma and my 99) told me that it's 'Ying Fun' that children pay their parents wor. I do not agree lor.

However, I do pay to my mum every mth, and always buy her luxurious gifts because I know this will make her happy. I think if she's super rich, I will not pay her, haha. She's the world's super best mum, so she deserves I pay her good.

There's a case a few years ago in the U.S. that a guy sued his parents of giving birth to him as he does not want to live in this world, and the parents gave birth to him without asking his permission. It sounds ridiculous, but if you think deeply, some children may not want to live in this world because the reality is very cruel (e.g. cannot earn money to pay for family, abandon by parents).

[ 本文章最後由 c-wong 於 08-4-11 18:30 編輯 ]

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就算同媽媽有幾多爭拗唔夾加誤會, 係咪咁就可以連做仔女應盡既責任都可以唔使做? 咁就可以講"俾得唔順氣"?咁咪即係話俾唔俾家用除左睇下自己有冇能力之外, 仲要同父母既表現掛勾?如果係咁, 佢細個o個陣唔乖,佢媽媽係咪都可以諗下唔養佢?

其實睇番樓主寫既野, 睇得出佢係有的憤憤不平既情緒.....但係佢咁大個女,好應該識得冷靜的諗下先講野,唔好咁衝動亂講野, 有時的o野係雙向既,佢發悔氣同媽媽講的敏感話題故意激嬲佢, 咁阿媽都係人o者, 仲要係辛苦養大佢o個個, 你話佢會唔會嬲先? 會唔會講番的難聽既說話佢聽先? 樓主係咪要檢討下同人溝通既方式或者講野既語氣同埋內容係咪有問題?如果樓主keep往依家既諗法或者溝通模式, 我諗其實佢都好難同媽媽改善到關係...簡單講句, 我唔係話要樓主愚孝,媽媽講咩都話岩, 但係基本既尊重長輩同埋孝心係需要既,更加唔可以只係顧往自己或者覺得對方冇需要就唔盡仔女既負任....

原文章由蜜棗於 08-4-11 01:44 發表
大家請冷靜.
就咁睇樓主嘅post,可能會覺得佢好無情.不過其實有時好多嘢係好多面睇.我承認如果單單睇樓主呢個post,不論邊個都會頂佢唔順.但其實之前我同樓主傾過計.其實樓主媽咪同樓主係有很多地方唔係咁夾(而我個人 ...

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原文章由 c-wong 於 08-4-11 17:23 發表
There's a case a few years ago in the U.S. that a guy sued his parentsof giving birth to him as he does not want to live in this world, andthe parents gave birth to him without asking his permission. It soundsridiculous, but if you think deeply, some children may not want to livein this world because the reality is very cruel

我唔知我係咪好怪, 因為我之前都知有呢個case, 而且都幾認同佢某d points, 就係佢出咗世之後要負上好多責任, 而呢d責任唔係佢自己"攞嚟", 而係父母生佢出嚟令佢要揹住呢d責任, 例如讀書, 搵工賺錢, 之類. 中國人有兩句話: 無冤不成父子 & 兒女債. 根本係父母欠仔女, 而唔係仔女欠父母. 做人父母係自願, 但係做人仔女係無得由佢地選擇!

十月變形記: http://hk.myblog.yahoo.com/bibu-fish

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原文章由蜜棗於 08-4-11 01:44 發表
大家請冷靜.
就咁睇樓主嘅post,可能會覺得佢好無情.不過其實有時好多嘢係好多面睇.我承認如果單單睇樓主呢個post,不論邊個都會頂佢唔順.但其實之前我同樓主傾過計.其實樓主媽咪同樓主係有很多地方唔係咁夾(而我個人 ...

我都覺得有d媽咪開始激動, 大家無謂罵樓主, 佢都只係呻吓, 覺得佢諗錯咗咪俾意見, 教佢囉, 唔好惡言相向. 大家咁做同之前個乜k怪先生罵新抱有乜分別?! 嗰時大家就辯護話"一家唔知一家事", "呻吓, 唔鍾意就唔好覆", 宜家又...

十月變形記: http://hk.myblog.yahoo.com/bibu-fish

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c-wong

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原文章由 十月變形記 於 08-4-11 18:20 發表

做人父母係自願, 但係做人仔女係無得由佢地選擇!

Yeah! Agreed!

My C6 said to my tummy in BB a few nights ago: "just because we want happiness (sex), we have created u!"

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原文章由 c-wong 於 08-4-11 18:34 發表

Yeah! Agreed!

My C6 said to my tummy in BB a few nights ago: "just because we want happiness (sex), we have created u!"

十月變形記: http://hk.myblog.yahoo.com/bibu-fish

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多謝咁多位意見,首先唔係我同呀媽講家用先...係我有日問佢.如果結婚,要幾多禮金,因為要儲定.佢就問我仲咩咁快嫁啦,禮金佢話公價係10萬,之後係佢同我講之後家用要照比.冇得減,因為5千已經好小....

不過這幾天同呀媽關係更差.其實又唔可以話差,但係我唔係好想同佢講野....我男朋友買左樓,佢自己比錢自己供自己個名....
咁我有時都會去幫佢睇下間樓因為間樓近我多d...
呀媽知道佢買樓,比意見我就知道一定會啦,之但係我好唔鐘意佢係咁同人講話我買左樓,又叫人去睇...個個aunt都話要去睇下.而家又話問我拎key有個aunt上去睇..我頭先比左key佢,同佢講,你仲咩成日同人講我買樓,間樓唔係我家.佢就話唔係你既,遲d都係你家啦,你冇份既咩,我話冇家,之後把幾火話key我會比返男朋友我唔keep家喇.之後佢又話仲咩唔keep呀,keep返套好d....
間樓又唔係我買,又唔係我供又唔係我名...仲咩4圍同人講我買左樓仲叫人上去睇...婚你又叫我唔好結住.人地間樓你就話係我既...真係搞笑...

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喂喂你呀...點呀生左bb未呀.我記得上次你話你而家大肚家...

原文章由蜜棗於 08-4-11 01:44 發表
大家請冷靜.
就咁睇樓主嘅post,可能會覺得佢好無情.不過其實有時好多嘢係好多面睇.我承認如果單單睇樓主呢個post,不論邊個都會頂佢唔順.但其實之前我同樓主傾過計.其實樓主媽咪同樓主係有很多地方唔係咁夾(而我個人 ...

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回覆 #1 希晴的文章

我宜家8個月,你心情好d未?唔好唔開心.遲吓先同媽咪講你嘅事啦!無謂搞到兩母女面阻阻.係咪?

我未又係咁多嘢煩.老公財政上有問題.可能要好長手尾.有時都會自己左諗右諗,心裡面唔太好受,有時個心又會忟老公屋企人(不過我知忟嚟都多餘,同埋都冇忟出面)覺得自己要幚老公煩好多嘢(佢好似唔多識處理)我都同你講過我媽咪同你媽咪d性格有d相同,不過到宜家我咁樣,佢都冇唔理我.
比d時間你媽咪啦!我以前都係咁架!我媽咪成日問我結咗婚之後會唔會比錢佢?我都係比倒就比!到今日我自己頭家都有事,但我媽咪都唔會開口埋口問我拎錢.佢都會叫我唔好唔開心,所以其實我諗你媽咪都唔會話咩都係錢字行頭,將來嘅事宜家唔好拎嚟唔開心喇!!加油

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原文章由蜜棗於 08-4-12 18:26 發表
我宜家8個月,你心情好d未?唔好唔開心.遲吓先同媽咪講你嘅事啦!無謂搞到兩母女面阻阻.係咪?
我未又係咁多嘢煩.老公財政上有問題.可能要好長手尾.有時都會自己左諗右諗,心裡面唔太好受,有時個心又會忟老公屋企 ...

hi蜜棗

你好，成８個月，唔好諗咁多嘢啦，個ｂｂ直接受你影響，點都好，暫且放低ｄ要煩ｏ既事，留返個ｂｂ出咗世再去整理…過來人，我以前有個囡果時，因為工作長期壓力問題，所以睡眠質素好差，發夢都係公司ｏ既麻煩事，到亞囡家陣２１個月大，仲係無一覺天光架…保重﹗我以都試過都男朋友（家陣個老公）遇過財政問題，真係感受過身上一蚊都無ｏ既滋味，最後都迎刃而解，家陣ｏ既生活都叫做好好，比ｄ時間自己諗個好ｏ既方法去處理。

hi希晴，

其實我之前都有回應過你，我都好明白，亦都明白其他bk媽媽，我自己都係人母，只可以講有時有ｄ情況，要自己親身經歷先會知苦，若然有對好父母當然係一件好事，有邊個人想自己身邊ｏ既親人對住自己開口埋口都係

明白你，因為我ｏ既媽媽都類似，不過我無同我媽媽冷戰，因為點都好佢哋永遠都係我ｏ既媽媽，所以係我仲可以滿足佢ｏ既時候，就"dum"下佢，我唔鍾意同身邊ｏ既人發生爭執…希望你唔好因為一ｄ評價或者媽媽ｏ既冷語影響咗你結婚ｏ既心情，”結婚”每個人得一次，好好享受佢啦

係將來你都想回味一段好ｏ既回憶的…

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IaMMoYY

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發表於 08-4-15 11:35 |只看該作者

ABBC，我都好同意你講法，我都一樣覺得樓主過於計較/計算。

Sigh... I agree. LZ, it's your mother.

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原文章由 ABBC 於 08-4-6 23:41 發表
我覺得你話你阿媽貪錢真係好唔應該囉~~你依家兩公婆搵4萬蚊,8千蚊供樓都有3萬6喇~~人地阿媽你又唔覺得養係一回事~~反而自己阿媽就講埋咁既野~!

LZ, do you hate your own mom? 人地阿媽你又唔覺得養係一回事~~反而自己阿媽就講埋咁既野~!

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咁咪就係雙重標準囉你呀媽.....

間樓真係唔關佢事,你大可以唔比佢地去睇.佢同你分得清.你咪同佢分返清,好正常

原文章由希晴於 08-4-12 17:17 發表
多謝咁多位意見,首先唔係我同呀媽講家用先...係我有日問佢.如果結婚,要幾多禮金,因為要儲定.佢就問我仲咩咁快嫁啦,禮金佢話公價係10萬,之後係佢同我講之後家用要照比.冇得減,因為5千已經好小....

不過這幾天同呀媽 ...

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I see.
I support you.
If I was you, I will tell your mother that you can only chose either 1 or 2.
1. by chinese triditional procedure: 禮金公價係10萬=>ok+ 10 table ($ from guess belongs to your mother). Then, you have already sold your daughter. No家用gives to your parent after you get marry as your $ belongs to your husband's then (this is the chinese tridition)
or
2. by western triditional procedure: no 禮金 + all the gifts given by the guess belongs to you (not your mother). But you are still her daughter and will gives her the same 家用monthly.