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sorry, my desktop was broken down a few days ago, and i need to reply you in english now.

///如果佢係10PM﹣6AM total 8hrs, 咁如果我早O左比佢瞓如8PM，佢會唔會變O左3AM 就醒O家？///
i guess not. it's because 8 hrs sleep is way too little, and she by nature needs more. and i think from now, she can soothe herself to sleep pretty easily even if she wakes up during midnight, and you need not intervene. you should not worry too much.

///如果佢around 8pm 再O黎多個snap 會唔會太多呀？ ///
if she really feels sleepy around 8pm, you either let her sleep through the night or delay her bedtime a bit if you wanna see her more.

///佢今朝都係唔夠7AM 叫，唔係cry，不過我又係懶起身冇理佢，haha, 最後佢又自己瞓返，一直到8：15再醒，我就同佢起身，不過因為我想tune 到佢每日9am 至飲奶，見佢又唔似肚餓咁，所以我一直dum 到 8:45 至比佢食。如果我真係想佢以後9am 飲奶，咁做有冇問題呢？///
i think your daughter is gorgeous! to me, it's perfectly okay for you to set her schedule in this way. i believe a 7 month old baby is not "so" hungry after waking up in the morning.

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binbin仔如果想佢830PM瞓，但佢一D都唔似眼瞓，係O米都照要佢瞓，等佢喊一餐呢？發表於 11-6-7 00:26

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本帖最後由 yuengooluk 於 11-6-6 01:34 編輯

pyjess 發表於 11-6-2 23:51
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yuengooluk (圓姑轆?!)講得O岩, 小朋友係依據日光做人, 天光就醒

///點都要每日見, 每日同佢玩先可以增進感情///

in the past, i also shared the same point of view. however, after i have known some foreigner (father) who only meets his children during weekend but still has a strong bond with them, i start to believe "點都要每日見, 每日同佢玩先可以增進感情" is not a must.

my husband is very busy and comes home at 10:30pm the earliest on weekdays. so basically he only sees our children for 20 min before leaving home. he is busy during weekends too. but my sons (even the younger one) loves him very much because my husband tries his best to play with them whenever he's with them. so i believe quality time is more important.

of course, i fully understand every parent wants to play with their child evey day, especially the helper is the primary care-giver.

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pyjess 每日見唔係每次都要2小時. A book said 15-30 mins quality time is basically fine. 發表於 11-6-8 13:18

pyjess 20min every day solely with the children is ok... 發表於 11-6-8 13:17

binbin仔我老公好掛住佢地O家，太早唔得呀～想問如果係發夢大喊醒，可以抱？發表於 11-6-7 00:28

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發表於 11-6-7 17:14 |只看該作者

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我想問吓，我個仔7個半月，之前一路都可以一覺瞓到大天光，但自從個工人上星期到咗之後，佢就每晚醒1-2次，每次我都因為想佢快啲訓返而抱起咗佢，其實係咪真係錯呢？有幾晚仲因為佢喊得太勁而比佢同我訓！佢同工人姐姐同房，有關係嗎？

我每日比佢schedule 如下
8：00起身
8：30食奶
13：30食粥
18：45食粥
22：30食奶
22：45上床

通常23：15之前會訓着，請問可以點先再一覺訓天光？

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///binbin仔我老公好掛住佢地O家，太早唔得呀～想問如果係發夢大喊醒，可以抱？///

i think it's perfectly okay, especially when your daughter has learned to soothe herself to sleep. i think you can loosen the rules from now on, i.e. you can judge case by case.

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本帖最後由 yuengooluk 於 11-6-8 02:16 編輯

///binbin仔如果想佢830PM瞓，但佢一D都唔似眼瞓，係O米都照要佢瞓，等佢喊一餐呢？///

i suggest your shift the bedtime a bit earlier each day, say 15 min. her body (biological clock) needs time to adjust. it's not fair to her if you exercise a big change to her bedtime all of a sudden.

similarly, i think you are not required to "train" your daughter so harshly from now on.

Ferber once said, "Crying is not something that has to happen."

btw, how is her sleep pattern now?

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vickymok717 發表於 11-6-7 17:14
我想問吓，我個仔7個半月，之前一路都可以一覺瞓到大天光，但自從個工人上星期到咗之後，佢就每晚醒1-2次， ...

as far as i know, sudden change to a baby's life, even for a tiny baby, can alter their sleep habit. i guess your new helper can explain it, although i'm not 100% sure.

if you believe in the ferber method, "holding/rocking baby to sleep" and "mother and son sleep together" are not recommended. i'd suggest you stop it when you feel comfortable, and sort it out in another way - let him learn to soothe himself to sleep. do you wanna try the ferber method we talked about?

again, 22：45上床is quite late for a 7個半月. can you put him on bed earlier?

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Superman-GF 發表於 11-6-6 04:46
唉，我大女跟Ferber method 由四個月開始已睡到天光。但細仔八個月大，由兩個月開始已懂自己7：30pm入睡。 ...

///自問都跟得方法好足架啦，唔通真係個個細路都唔同？/// according to my two sons, i can tell you yes! have you read my earlier threads? my case is the same as yours. so my suggestion is mothers need to adjust the method according to the child's characters.

///用Ferber方法拍最少前後一個小時先得///拍?i don't quite understand. why do you pat him? ferber doesn't recommend patting the back. have you let him soothe himself to sleep during midnight?

///我真係好倦，好辛苦。又心痛，細佬由生長線90跌到30。雖然佢身體精神都唔錯。我們母子關係已有點緊張，我休息不夠，又病，情緒又差，對細佬已有點恨意，跟住又為自己有如此想法內疚。///i fully understood you because i once had the same feeling. i threw him on bed for a couple of times! my husband was so worried that i would throw him out from window! i suggest you calm yourself down and look for a good method for your family and start ractify his sleep problem asap. you're welcome to tell me more about his sleep habit/pattern. we can help you out!

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yuengooluk 發表於 11-6-8 02:15
as far as i know, sudden change to a baby's life, even for a tiny baby, can alter their sleep habit ...

Actually I tried that way to train him before and it was successful before the helper came. Thats why I think the helper is the main reason for his waking up in the midnite.

On the other hand, as I give him the congee at 6:45-7pm everynite, so if i put him to sleep earlier, and he would has another milk before bed, so I worry if the time between is too short and makes him not enuff time to digest?

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yuengooluk 發表於 11-6-8 01:59
///binbin仔如果想佢830PM瞓，但佢一D都唔似眼瞓，係O米都照要佢瞓，等佢喊一餐呢？///

i suggest your ...

佢呢O家既PATTERN 係：﹣
830am milk
10am snap (瞓幾耐唔係好定，有時半HR，1HR，3HR 都有）
1230pm congee/ milk
3pm snap (around 2hrs)
4pm milk
6pm bath
830pm milk
930pm sleep until 7/8am

除O左可以早D比佢瞓之外，我個PATTERN 有冇問題呀？

我相信佢已經識得自己瞓，有時家姐半夜CRY 整醒O左佢，佢叫／CRY 幾聲都會自己瞓返，不過有時SNAP TIME 放佢落床都會CRY 一陣至瞓。TRAIN O左佢呢個幾WK，希兩晚佢好似嚇親咁大CRY，我都有抱起佢呀，希望咁樣做冇問題LA～

打算過多1﹣2WK，妹妹更加STABLE 之後就開始要家姐介奶咀，到時可能又有好多O野問你地LA～ HAHA

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pyjess 其實你想要O既目的已經達到, 唔洗再抱瞓喇~ 發表於 11-6-9 23:21

pyjess 只有一點: NAP唔可以多過3小時發表於 11-6-9 23:20

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你係指1個NAP 唔可以多過3HRS 定係2次既NAP 加埋唔可以多過3HRS 呀？
THANKS！

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本帖最後由 pyjess 於 11-6-13 01:18 編輯

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一個NAP唔多過3小時

唉, 今晚又有一單新聞喇...

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係呀，唉。。發表於 11-6-13 23:30

如果天空總是黑暗的，那就摸黑生存；如果發出聲音是危險的，那就保持沉默；如果自覺無力發光的，那就蜷伏於牆角。但不要習慣了黑暗就為黑暗辯護；不要為自己的苟且而得意；不要嘲諷那些比自己更勇敢熱情的人們。我們可以卑微如塵土，不可扭曲如蛆蟲 - 曼德拉

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真係要help help 我呀，KO o左妹妹呢o家攪緊家姐，同佢介緊奶咀，今晚係第4晚，真係好難攪！

O岩O岩果個sunday，我叫佢張D奶咀拋入垃圾箱，佢又真係肯喎，又應承我唔再食，我仲錄O左movie tim! 我都明佢已經食O左2.5年，突然要佢介應該要長D既時間，以下有D 問題唔知我做得O岩唔O岩～

﹣ 晚晚一要佢瞓，佢就好似好囉囉 LUEN 毒引起咁喊，一定要我同佢講好多O野，我一走又喊，好似好慘咁，所以我都會拍佢，不過都要攪好耐
﹣ 半夜都會大喊醒，又係一定要我，老公入去都唔得，重炆！最後我又要入去攪一餐至走得。。想唔理佢但又驚佢一直叫喊會嘈醒妹妹。。
﹣ 佢好口硬，晚晚瞓覺好想好想講奶咀，但又記得自己應承過，所以忍住唔講，其實我呢個時候應唔應該好避開咁唔提呢？

真係好難攪，一晚喊醒好多次。。。

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仲有如果好似佢咁大，半夜醒係咪都係用tune bb 既2mins，5mins，。。既方式呀？佢係坐喺道喊好醒家！

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發表於 11-6-19 22:48 |只看該作者

姐姐大了,一定好難搞,幸好仍用床仔,否則更麻煩. 所以,常說越早越好.

///半夜醒係咪都係用tune bb既2mins，5mins///方式應該差不多,不過,你已有經驗,可根據姐姐的反應調節一下.

///其實我呢個時候應唔應該好避開咁唔提呢？///無謂提了吧.

其實我覺得你已有經驗,已知如何應付了.不過,真的要時間.

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發表於 11-6-19 22:52 |只看該作者

///pyjess 20min every day solely with the children is ok... ///

hahaha, my husband is not spending 20min every day solely with the children. they just see each other 20-30 min every morning after getting up and before leaving home for work and school. each of us is very busy during these 30 min - brushing teeth, dressing up, having breakfast, etc. so my husband is not playing with them at all, he just "sees" them. :( but since he tries hard to communicate with the sons during weekend. their bond is very strong.

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發表於 11-6-19 22:56 |只看該作者

binbin仔

妹妹一覺到天光了嗎?

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binbin仔妹妹今日比人嚇親勁喊醒，今晚一定醒好多次呀，可以點做呀？發表於 11-6-27 00:23

binbin仔係呀，呢個WK唔個攪咩6點幾就醒，不過有得瞓都好好LA！～發表於 11-6-20 22:55

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