actually my 99 is also from Chiu Chow, when I have no kids, everyone (my husband's family) says I hate kids and love working ..... god knows that I love kids so much.
When I have my 1st girl, everyone says girls only and says I am so "inch" to stay in private hospital..... wasting $$$.
OK, 2nd is a girl again, no more bird nests, no more good things to me........ and also saying I am staying in private hospital.
3rd is boy...... they say "oh..... finally got a boy lor, 2 girls...... hey!"
so..... the conclusion is no matter what you have, what you do...... everyone says a lot of things!