abtgolf,
yes, breast pump doesnt really help if your wife is not determine to make it work. One of my friend give up breastfeeding after 3months as she said the volume of milk is not enough. She worried the baby is not getting enough milk and the less the baby drink, the less volume of milk comes out and finally she just give it up.
Just to let you know that the begining on breastfeeding is tough as we need to find the correct way to do it, but once you find it, then it is so much convenience and I can see how much that benefit to my daughter. She never fall sick for the first year!
However, I total forgot how to do it now and I am looking forward to succeed with my baby this time.
abtgolf,
Oh....your wife is not far away to give birth! Have you found out the gender of the baby? Are you going to accompany your wife to delivery room? Are you going to share the maternity leave when the baby born?
Have you done all shopping? Wash all baby clothes and remove all labels as it may irritate baby.
From my experience, BF is not the biggest challenge as to keep the baby in good health/sleep is far more important. In the past, I pray every night for my daughter to go to sleep without waking up at midnight!
Lily,
I didnt say going to doctor is wrong, but personally I dont take that risk by exposing the baby to the place where full of gems/virus. What happen if the baby catch another disease from the clinic? We know how easy to catch cold when you are weak, right?
Tylenol is very mild and many doctors do recommend it or even tell you to try it first.
I think we all need to consider if the baby is really sick or we are just over sensitive. Anyway, it is your choice and I just share my experience here.
I have Lydia's hand pump. Having a hand pump is handy because you can stimulate the breast at the beginning and also relieve the block duct.
I haven't used other brands except Lydia's, so I can't compare. I think the good thing to get it from Lydia is if the parts are broken, you can buy differemt parts individually from Lydia. If you get the Gerber one, you may need to buy the whole one again.
I am agree with xother that if you already think you may not be able to do it at the beginning, you will give up easily at the end. For me, my daughter is allergy to cow milk, so I am forced to breastfeed her.
yes i think Dr. Ou is a very good OB too...hehe*
Im so busy everyday...just like today, i have to work from 9am to 9pm...im still in the office now. You are so lucky that your co-workers can understand you. I still have to work as usual even more extra works. since this is the peak time during the year. and i have change a new job and will be start working next monday. 31st May will be my lastday in this company. I guess i have to work until the due date and i have to go back to work maybe one month after delivery the baby. I won't have that one year holiday...haha* I have to make more money in order to take care my baby...^^
I will have my second appt with Dr Ou on this friday. I will update you what Dr Ou say to me ^^
OIC...that's good you can stay until BB got the blood test. I am so scared when people keep telling me that if I give birth in the morning, the hospital will kick me out in the afternnoon/evening.
blueberriii:
Wow...you are a busy mom!! How come you will not take the one year maternity leave? You will get paid during the leave from the government Employment Insurance.
I don't think I will take the whole year too...but at least I will take half a year.
Please let us know your updated news!! Good luck!!
blueberriii,
I am curious are you working in Canada? Or it is common for people in Toronto to work such long works? Do you mind to tell us what type of job you are working?
Working till last date and come back within a month?? Even HK mommies wouldnt accept that!
In Vancouver, our rush hour start from 4pm and end about 6pm, so it is hard to imagine people like you work till 9pm?
I still have 3 weeks to due date and I can tell you it is so hard to go to work! Working is fine but traveling from A to B is the killing! Plus you mention you will back to work in 1month, are you sure you can recover so fast?
We paid so much on EI and it is time for us to use it for maternity leave. For sure I will take full year salary but share with my husband, so I will have 10months while he has 2months, not a bad deal after paying so much in the past!
haha*yes im reli pretty bz...my office needs me and i cant leave the office...for me...my work is most important for now...
And im not an employee Im an independent contractor so im not covering by the employment insurance...
hmm...I don't have a family here...and all the stuff is on my own...so i have to take care everythings by myself...but lucki dat i dun hav ne sick feeling haha*
Yes im workin' in toronto...most of the ppl in here wont work more than 40hrs per week...but im not an employee im an independent contractor...so if i work more i will get more...datz y...im now workin' in a real estate company but im not an agent...im doing other stuff in the office...however im goin' to change a new job starting from next week...which will be a footwear company...i guess i will b much more bz since im going to manage everythings in my new company...but my salary will be a double from now...
one of my co-workes...she is lik dat...workin' till da due day...and the next day morning...she called us and said that she had given birth to her baby...and she bak to work after 5weeks...
and my mum was lik that too...she even gone bak to work after 2wks given birth to 2 of my sisters...
our office is open as 9am - 9pm...and if im not that bz i can off earlier or back to work late...but since now is summer...its so bz in my office now...datz y...and all the real estate office open frm 9-9 during weekdays...
I just came back to Toronto since last year...and since that day...im an independent contractor...I dont have to pay EI those taxes...what im earning is those commission...so itz different frm me n u guys...
btw...im a single mother...i dun hav family or husband to support all my other stuff...if im not workin'...i will die...................>.<
blueberriii,
I am sorry to hear your case and I believe you are a tough woman!
Just wonder how long have your been in Canada? As I am living here for 3yrs, my attitude has changed towards working hours as most people work less than 40hrs/week.
Money is not everything in our life and having a balancing life is my first priority, but understand your case is different since you dont have anyone to support you.
I am not sure if it is too sensitive to ask, but just curious why you said you are a single mom as you just pregnant?
The first year of the baby is very important and I hope you will consider to do something on it.
Im here since last Jun...after i U-grad in UK...i returned to HK...and later i think i might can try something new in Canada...so i moved to Toronto...
I don't know...maybe all my works is like my own business...so i don't mind to work longer hours...and i guess i luv working and i enjoy working so much...I feel sick if i don't have to work one day...so weird nei*haha...
My sister will move to Canada in this summer to start her high school...but she joined the student exchange progamme which will be staying in quebec for the first year...so she won't be with me in the first year but she for sure will move to Toronto after the 1st year...so i can have someone around me at lease...
No i don't mind to tell you my story...I was living with my boyfriend before but we just broken up...and after we broke up...i learned that im pregnant...he wanted me to do the abortion but i jz dun wana do that...he is actually so confused now...we can never be with each others since his mum doesnt lik me...his mum is lik if he choose to be wif me she will never be his mum...So........i guess u can undastand now rite?
i kno the 1st year is v. important and i will try my best to do whatever i can to make the baby feel lik the best....dun worri i kno i can make it^^But my new boss is v.nice...one of our co-worker, her baby doesnt hav ne one to take care at home...her baby is jz 3mths...he is letting her bring her baby to the office so that she can take care of her...so i guess i can handle it too...^^
blueberriii,
I assume you are very young and full of energy!
Sorry about your relationship but hope he can do something in terms of bring up that child. I believe money is not the issue, but having a daddy will be very important for any kids in their childhood.
Yes, my boss also allows me to work at home but as I said, money is not the first priority in my life. Yes, you may buy your baby all fancy toys or brand name shirts but you have no time to play with her/him. It is sad case if I am your child. We need to communicate and I do enjoy my daughter very much now. In the last 2 days she was telling me that I am the best mom in the world, a perfect mommy.... and I assume she can sense the little brother is coming and she doesnt want to loose mommy.
I hope you have a healthy child as well as pregnancy, otherwise, it will be very tough to go through it.
hmm...im not v. young but i guess im still young...Im sure that money is not the issue...and im pretty sure that i will hav enough money to take care of my baby...ofcoz i hope my baby can hav a daddy...but if he cannot make it...i cannot after him...he was suggesting me to go for the abortion. Just i refused it...
My mum and step-dad are businessman, they seldom be with me and my sisters when we were young...as i mentioned b4...my mum went back 2 work after 2wks she gave birth my my sisters. We were all look after by the home worker...and we were sent to overseas for school since young...but i don't know..maybe our family are weird..all of my family members are pretty enjoy our life...
If you saying that im young...i can tell you my mum's super young...i was born when she was 17...but still she very successful in her work...Im so proud of her...and actuli i hav discuss with my bf b4...even we get married we will still send our child to UK for school...I like the education there more...I hope my baby can enter the best university.
I don't know...maybe Im growing in a business family, my mum is young and smart who can speak 8 different languages in fluent...my mum was telling me when i was young that the baby who born in our family need to be independent and know how to take care our business later on...I hope i can be successful lik her. I actuli dun lik 2 do business b4...I was doin' some entertainment stuff and that was my dream. But still i hav to go bak to my role in my family.
I hope you can understand that different family will have different situation...maybe i won't have much time to play with my baby that's true...but i guess i needa hav him/her to understand our role in the family. And most of the family in HK is lik that...all the parents hav to go to work frm day to nite...it doesnt mean that they want to be lik that or they don't luv their child. Hope u kno wot i mean. I don't want to be lik this either.
But of coz i will try my best to take time on my baby. Im not going to leave my child alone. But just not going to take that 1year leave only. ^^ Maybe being my baby is so stressed, But i will luv my child da most dat wont b changed...
after reading your story, I find you are so tough! Being a single isn't easy, but I am sure you will have a lot of support here in Canada.
would you have any support person to go to the birthing suite with you? I find it's very important to have someone going there while you are having pain.
If your bf's mom knows you are pregnant, would she change her mind? At least "give face" to her grandchild la.
Have you ever thought to go back to HK? I think your life style is more suitable in HK as you need to have a live-in maid to take care your child since your working hours is so long.
I believe you don’t mind not having your parent around as it is common in HK, but there is no guarantee your child will accept it. Kids are very demanding nowadays and you may have hard time if she/he doesn’t turn to the same way as you.
Yes, different families have different issues, but from my point of view, having a child is not easy nowadays. If your child is healthy and happy, then you will have a easy life. If NOT, it is very hard if you have no one around. As Poohpoohmama said, you need to have someone to support you when you deliver the baby.
Just wonder what is your parent’s reaction towards your pregnancy? How about your ex-boy friend? I was thinking last night if I will do the same thing if I was you….probably NO. I am a tough person too but I know deep from my heart, I am very fragile. I hope you have friends who can help you or support you while you are pregnant. Otherwise, chat with us as we all know it is not easy to be a working mom.
I will go bak to HK for sure after 1 to 2 years...I just came here to learn some experience that will be useful in my own business...but even if i hav a live-in maid here...it might only cost me 2000-3000...it not that much for me...
I guess im totally different from you...so for so many stuff we wont hav da same point of view...i can undastand what you are tallkin' abt...I can tell you that most of my fds are doing sth more or less the same as me...but their children are still happy.
My mum and dad is lik that is okay and they are sure that i can handle it since they kno my style...same as my sisters...my ex boyfriend...he is so worry abt me and the baby but still he think i can handle it even without him but he is still the baby's dad...he will do his part...that what he thinks...
Don't worry i kno wot im doin' jz becoz we got different bkg and personality...we will hav different view on the same things...Nowadays...the girl is more strong...lik my sister...even you ask her to stay home not to go overseas for good...she wont accept it...she was crying when my mum said not letting her go when she was really young...she said"i hav to stay far from family to learn indepenant and i will come bak to help the business...im not scaring to stay away frm mum and dad...im jz scared that i will be a useless gal in this family" by that thime...she was only 5...i hav confident that my baby will be lik others in my family...mayb u will fink our family is so weird...but if u grow in our family u will kno y we are lik diz...we must hav 2 b lik diz...
Just lik myself...i grad in Cambridge's Law...but this is not wot im interested in...i jz lik entertainment stuff...i hav already signed evergthings and i shud hav a v. bright future if i continue doin' entertainment stuff...but i jz given it up since i kno what i shud hav 2 do...for you...mayb it will b so sad...but 4 me...im so glad that im in my family...im proud of it...
blueberriii,
I guess you are a smart girl and do very well in the past. I guess you understand contingent plan, right?
What happen if the IPS result is high risk? What happen if you have depression before or after child birth? What happen if you need emergency C-section while you are in comma? Can your sister make a decision for you? There is no guarantee your child will pick up your character. How about he/she is not happy the way you brought them up and turn to other extreme? What happen if your child keep crying at night and who is going to handle her/his as maid in here are not working 24hrs.
I understand money is not an issue, but bring up a child is not only money. I am not rich but I do think love and care are important for any upbringing.
You sound like a very confident person, just wonder do you cry when you fail on something? Or how you face when you have down moment?
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