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不好意思,手快打錯了你的名字,SandraLO

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bb1.5歲,好大脾氣,常常打人及瞓地....早排唔捨得爸爸出街,好大力打爸爸塊面2下, 我老公好angry, 打佢塊面 (佢地平時感情好好).已經唔係第一次, 好唔開心, 有解釋過俾老公聽bb仲細,打都不可臉部,佢話明....但老公份人好衝動...好怕下次bb再咁,我老公都係忍唔住.....點好???:cry:

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原文章由 tabo817 於 07-12-5 09:52 發表
SANDRO LO:
我之前都post過我個仔的情況,不過,現在有些改變,故不再post之前的問題,麻煩你幫忙給我意見
我最近第二個囡囡出世,由我臨盆前幾天到出院,我個大仔都有異常行為,之前他總是"痴"住工人姐姐,寸步不離,於是, ...

tabo817 :

問題1.
我猜是兩樣嘢也有影響….. 但無論是那一個因素, 處理方法也是一樣.
問題2.
什麼是不對的行為大致上是你去決定的, 有人可以好嚴格(例如15min食唔完就收哂), 亦有人可以好寬鬆 (叫工人攞個飯壺追住嚟餵), 又或者有媽咪(婆婆)好鍾意任何時間都俾零食, 咁唔肯食飯就預咗…….
我覺得唔食飯,刷牙呢d, (唔做一d 嘢)係唔須要用到罸, 响依家較敏感(妹妹出世)嘅時間就要更加小心, 試吓
「造就」一個讚佢嘅機會, 應該可以好快搞掂！例如將飯餐改遲少少, 等佢餓d, 俾少d 食物等佢快d 完成, 再加一個小獎品 (自己食完飯就可以食XX啦, 要佢鍾意的), 到佢自己食第一啖時就即讚：嘩哥哥好乖喎, 自己食飯！
如果佢做錯事, 如出手打人, 先至諗罸啦！

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原文章由 clementwife 於 07-12-5 11:57 發表
bb1.5歲,好大脾氣,常常打人及瞓地....早排唔捨得爸爸出街,好大力打爸爸塊面2下, 我老公好angry, 打佢塊面 (佢地平時感情好好).已經唔係第一次, 好唔開心, 有解釋過俾老公聽bb仲細,打都不可臉部,佢話明....但老公份人 ...

clementwife :

咁其實係要處理你老公先？

睇咗點讚個topic 未？

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SandraLO:

謝謝你的意見,今午我嘗試不用罰的方法叫囝囝食飯,他原本也不肯,我於是同他講,若果他不自己食,媽媽就離開,自己玩玩具,然後,我便離開,詐作玩玩具,他便自己食了一啖飯,我於是勁讚他,他便肯自己食了.
今天雖然囝囝仍有不少不聽話的行為,但已有改善了.不過,今日放學時老師話囝囝用腳踢牆,起初,都有點不高興,唯有告訴囝囝不可這樣做.

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原文章由 tabo817 於 07-12-6 21:44 發表
SandraLO:

謝謝你的意見,今午我嘗試不用罰的方法叫囝囝食飯,他原本也不肯,我於是同他講,若果他不自己食,媽媽就離開,自己玩玩具,然後,我便離開,詐作玩玩具,他便自己食了一啖飯,我於是勁讚他,他便肯自己食了. 今天雖 ...

其實大方向便是這樣了, 必須嚴守"言出必行", 即係你同佢講左"他不自己食,媽媽就離開,自己玩玩具", 如他冇反應都系唔食的話, 你就要由得佢, 繼續玩玩具.....
所以, 講每樣都要肯定做得到至好講 !

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SandraLo:

謝謝你的意見,我仔仔現在已肯自己食飯.前幾天,再重新看你post出來的"如何讚"文章,然後實行一下,仔仔真的乖了很多.真的多謝你.
不好意思,我還有一個問題想向你請教:我仔仔每睡醒都會哭著叫姐姐,有何辦法令他醒來不哭叫呢?因每次也是這樣,難找到機會不哭而讚他.

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Hi SandraLo,

睇完50頁, 好感動:-( 有個素未謀面的人, 可以咁樣share. 幫到咁多人.
小B 25個月, 男仔, 比較怕醜, 細膽, 其他各方面都OK.
由細到大, 我都係用讚去同小朋友溝通, 亦work. So I will keep to do so.
但唔知係咪性格始終天生, 佢唔多鍾意玩玩具, 亦唔多鍾意同小朋友玩,去公園都係自己周圍跑.由出細到而家我地已經每星期返church,都有小朋友一齊, 但情況都一樣.
佢就淨係好鍾意睇書同唱歌,即係自娱就好OK lor.

本來佢進度OK就順其自然, 諗住遲D返K1會改善. 但成日都聽到"從遊戲中學習" , 問題 :
-- 其實咁樣係咪由得佢 ??
-- 就係因為玩玩具玩得少 (點讚點鼓勵都係玩啲啲), 一做唔到就發脾氣.
同佢一齊玩, 佢都係摸吓就走
教佢點玩, 佢直頭費事睬你
點算 ?? Please Help

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SandaLo,

I type in English faster....My son almost 3, my husband and I were seperating due to his affair. He is living overseas, not in HK.

NOw, his father is trying to come to HK once a month to visit our son. Whenever he come to HK, he will request me to bring son to him and son has to stay with him for a week including night time. Actually i don't like the idea coz it affect kid's daily routin and security feeling. But his father is so stubborn, he always say he can't play with son everyday, so when he come, son should be with him every mintues.

My problem is
1. My son in afternoon session, so c6 love to ask me take 2 days off from school for son coz he doesn't want to wait 3 hours afternoon for the school time. I hate the idea coz he make our son no discipline on school.

2. this is the not the first he stay with father alone but i guess he is growing up and understand more. This time when i bring him to father and ready to leave the hotel, he refuse to say goodbye to me and even hit me once. Next day, i went to see him in school, he look at me from the classroom, looks so sad and little angry at me......:-( :-( i try to smile at him and hope he can be more happy..

3. i ask c6 if son's emotion change, but he said no, everything looks fine.

4. when the day c6 left, i bring my son to school with good mood..suddenly c6 call and ask to talk to son, so i pass the phone to him. i know c6 cry on the phone.....after that, my son in bad mood refuse to go to classroom, keep holding me very tight and cry very loud. his teachers nee d to come out and take him from me.... he cried 15 min. after i left.

5. next day, when we show hiim the uniform, he refuse to wear and go to school, i ask my father help to bring him to school, the whole way he keep crying loudly, but i still insist he has to go....after reach there, i hold him 10 mintues then i left...he cried 10 mintues loud.

6. today I purposely go out in the morning then he can't see, hope he can go school without feeling me leave him alone. at last, my maid told me he still refused to wear uniform, my maid need to force him wear it. after down to the street, he already quite. today he behave well in school.

My son was one of the best, most stable, happiest student in school. Never cry, always happy and very 自動自覺.

what can i do to make him love school again?? how to avoid this situation???

My son teacher told me either sleep with him while c6 come or bring him back to sleep at home to keep him feel secure....but they don't know we're seperating........

sorry for long story.....pls help.

[ 本文章最後由 wakeup07 於 07-12-11 01:45 編輯 ]

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原文章由 tabo817 於 07-12-10 09:50 發表
SandraLo:
謝謝你的意見,我仔仔現在已肯自己食飯.前幾天,再重新看你post出來的"如何讚"文章,然後實行一下,仔仔真的乖了很多.真的多謝你.
不好意思,我還有一個問題想向你請教:我仔仔每睡醒都會哭著叫姐姐,有何辦法令 ...

tabo817 :

好多小朋友剛睡醒時以為冇人理/突然冇安全感所以喊, 想即刻有人理, 你不用太著意去矯正, 佢大d 慢慢明白便會自動改善！

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原文章由 orkorkOh 於 07-12-10 16:47 發表
Hi SandraLo,
睇完50頁, 好感動:-( 有個素未謀面的人, 可以咁樣share. 幫到咁多人.
本來佢進度OK就順其自然, 諗住遲D返K1會改善. 但成日都聽到"從遊戲中學習" , 問題 :
-- 其實咁樣係咪由得佢 ??
-- 就係因為玩玩具玩得少 (點讚點鼓勵都係玩啲啲), 一做唔到就發脾氣.
同佢一齊玩, 佢都係摸吓就走
教佢點玩, 佢直頭費事睬你點算 ?? ...

orkorkOh :
25個月bb應該係要透過大人, 先識同小朋友玩, 換句話說, 2歲小
朋友係未識同同齡小朋友玩！
係乜嘢(邊類)玩具會令佢「做唔到就發脾氣」？
你同佢一齊玩d 乜佢「摸吓就走」呢？

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原文章由 wakeup07 於 07-12-11 00:33 發表
SandaLo,
I type in English faster....My son almost 3, my husband and I were seperating due to his affair. He is living overseas, not in HK.
NOw, his father is trying to come to HK once a month to ...

wakeup07 :

抱歉你的問題我應該是幫不到的, 因你囝囝並非有行為上的問題, 而是你們的安排令他不安及適應不到, 即是你和C6之間的協調問題........ 之前特殊教育版Dr. T. 介紹過一個類似婚姻/家庭輔導中心俾我, 我揾揾再俾你睇吓幫唔幫到！

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原文章由 SandraLo 於 07-12-11 22:46 發表

orkorkOh :
25個月bb應該係要透過大人, 先識同小朋友玩, 換句話說, 2歲小
朋友係未識同同齡小朋友玩！
係乜嘢(邊類)玩具會令佢「做唔到就發脾氣」？
你同佢一齊玩d 乜佢「摸吓就走」呢？ ...

未識同同齡小朋友玩. Is that means 可以順其自然?? dont understand what you mean 要透過大人, 先識同小朋友玩, 有乜嘢要注意 or 大人可以點做 ??
"做唔到就發脾氣嘅玩具" : 例如將圓形放入圓形, 幫佢教佢由得佢都試過, 佢就係放唔到入去, 冇耐性去練習就發脾氣唔再玩.
又例如叠高D杯杯, or 要跟顏色或大細, 總之就唔鍾意跟原有嘅方法玩, 鍾意用自己的方法 ( 我覺得比較懶嘅方法 )
例如D杯杯俾佢沖凉時用嚟fill in / throw water 就好開心
例如跟顏色大細, 佢寧願將D doughnut拋落地下, 見到佢會撓圈轉就好開心 lor.
"摸吓就走" 嘅玩具: Except ball and books can last 耐D. 所有喺store見到, 俗稱"玩具"佢都係摸吓就走.Even 去玩具部, 佢都唔會扭買玩具, 樣樣都係試吓/摸吓就走. 都唔知係咪值得恭喜

係有一次玩米奇煮飯仔, 就玩左一日, 第二日已經唔新鮮, 當睇唔到.

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Hi SandraLo,

又係報喜, 我個女終於唔吐口水啦!!!多謝你嘅教路!!!

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原文章由 orkorkOh 於 07-12-12 11:33 發表

未識同同齡小朋友玩. Is that means 可以順其自然?? dont understand what you mean 要透過大人, 先識同小朋友玩, 有乜嘢要注意 or 大人可以點做 ??
"做唔到就發脾氣嘅玩具" : 例如將圓形放入圓形, 幫佢教佢由得佢 ...

Hi SandraLo,
It's me again. Have one more question need yr help. Further reviewed previous pages I found I get the same case as cherryma at page 18-19. The difference that my baby boy is 25 months right now.
Quoted "同齡小朋友攪的生日會, 大小聚會, 一到小朋友大合照他便會開始扭計....開始喊. 如生日會的話, 他會扭到切完生日蛋糕便無事, 開開心心去食蛋糕, 小朋友大合照他不肯影, 甚至連叫他自己企係蛋糕前亦不肯"
Unquoted
His last birthday party we sang "叮噹" i/o "Happy Birthday" 就好D. no cry.
Seems so far I haven't found any follow up so please help. Sorry 時中時英, 手寫板真係好慢. Thousand Thanks

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原文章由 YolandaTam 於 07-12-12 11:43 發表
Hi SandraLo,

又係報喜, 我個女終於唔吐口水啦!!!多謝你嘅教路!!!

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原文章由 orkorkOh 於 07-12-12 11:33 發表

未識同同齡小朋友玩. Is that means 可以順其自然?? dont understand what you mean 要透過大人, 先識同小朋友玩, 有乜嘢要注意 or 大人可以點做 ??
"做唔到就發脾氣嘅玩具" : 例如將圓形放入圓形, 幫佢教佢由得佢 ...

你個問題都要d 時間答, 今晚又夜咗上嚟, 依家被人趕, 聽晚答你啦！

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SandraLo:

我都明白仔仔是沒有安全感所以哭,但是他的情況是當他醒來時,便會哭,就算即刻有個人在身邊,他也要攬住那人睡(尤其是工人姐姐).所以,很多時半夜我會發現仔仔甚至伏在工人姐姐身上睡.連被都冇,這樣,有何辦法?

原文章由 SandraLo 於 07-12-11 22:36 發表

tabo817 :

好多小朋友剛睡醒時以為冇人理/突然冇安全感所以喊, 想即刻有人理, 你不用太著意去矯正, 佢大d 慢慢明白便會自動改善！

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