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Well,
here' s my theory in Maids..
1, if you hire them.. you must learn how to TRUST.
it's the "distrust" that sometimes ruin the relationship.

2. treat them the way you wanted to be treated... I guess, it's good for friends, relatives and colllegues.

3. don't ever think this... " oh.. I always take them out.. and treat them dinner.. I even take her to Disneyland... see how nice I treat her....blah blah blah"...
to them, it's better you DON"T take them.... do you think they enjoy going out , eating with you? to them, it's better for you to leave them home alone ma..... becuase you only take them out when you need their help, right? so.. forget about the " I treat them well" thoughts.
this way, you'll feel better when things doesn't go smoothly.

4. give them some space... sometimes, it's okay to leave them home for an hour or so.... they're not machine.. esp those who take care of kids. sometimes, an hour ( or half day) away from kids.. and have them do something else can refresh the a little.. you just can't burn them out... ask yourself honestly, can you stay with your kids 24/7???

5. be strict.... all of the above perhaps sounds too " kind" .. but trust me, I'm a strict employer.. when I say something, I mean it... and if they don't do it the way I want... I won't let go.. and ask them to re-do again ... again and again ..

6. 8 hours rest( undisturbed). I make sure all my maids sleep at least 8 hours everyday... well, it's a must , right?

7. teach your maid everything.. show her once at least... because even if they have worked before.. every household 's got different standards and background...
I once have a friend who complain her maid not knowing how to make sandwich...and I asked her did you show her how? she said no... and turned out her maid's previous employer was a 70 year-old lady... no need to make sandwich ma.....

8. when she dose something wrong.. don't put up with her.. TELL her!!!!
don't expect her to know automatically.. and tell her everytime when she does it... yeah, it's very " ma fan" but I'm usre after 30 times.. she'll get it... if you put up with it.. you 're creating hard feelings for yourself... and to her, you say one thing.. but you are okay with something else... so no need to listen la....

Well, the aboved are just some quick thoughts... no offends... but as soon as I read Jackie Cheung's story.. I immediately know it's the employer's problem...
I mean, if you're reasonable , ( reasonably strict, reasonably standards) I'm sure you won't change 70 maids in a year....

Yeah.. there are of course some " evil" maids around. but there're evil people anywhere...and maids are workers too... all workers wants to be lazy from time to time.. it's just human nature... I'm sure if you ran a factory... you'll notice the same thing ma....

Final thought... if there's ONE .. I MEAN ONE TRUE good quality that you see in your helper... she is a keeper then... no one is perfect..

my maid who worked for me for 6years... she LOVE my children... but other area... So so.... cooking? BAD!!!!
the other one is an excellent cook, everything I taught her.. she can make better than me next time... but she's not that patient with kids... and kinda rough sometimes ( to household appliances)... but I keep her for 5 yrs la...

[ 本文章最後由 Kalani 於 07-9-29 01:42 編輯 ]

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lastly, some may say... becuase I'm a housewife so I have all the time to train maids... but..
hey, she came when I was working wor.. I've only stopped working for 2 years ga ja...

anyway,
no need to treat them too well...
but treat them fairly...and sometimes.. one spoon sugar.. and one spoon xxxxx.... that's how it works...

hope you don't think I'm too " long gas"

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I totally agreed with you, Kalani. I have a nightmare with this maid issue too. I truely believe hiring bun bun / yan yan it's just like gambling, you need "luck".

My mum's bun bun is on her 13th contracts now (25 years), she even want to follow me when I married (but 99 don't like!). We all treat her very nice, like one of our family members.
So when I hired my last yan yan, I just treat her like my mum's bun bun, 點知, 俾個良心佢當狗肺，she stole 3 LV from me (3 speedy in different sizes) when I give birth in the hospital

.Now, this is my 2nd yan yan, I just treat her like what u said, 1 spoon sugar 1 spoon xxxx. just 對得住良心!!

Fatping1,
Just feel like to buy something yesterday, and couldn't choose between these two. Actually, the 1st bag (1st pic, don't know the name) is quite heavy, but I think is ok for me as I just got wallet, keys, tissues and a small cosmetic pouch, so it's ok la. And the 2nd one is so light and so soft (this can be a mammy bag!!). Can't make up my mind, so bought both of them.
You're right, dangerous place here, I am trying to get rid of my BV and LV too, spare the space for my new Chanel babies.

[ 本文章最後由 tuotuo 於 07-9-29 04:33 編輯 ]

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發表於 07-9-29 00:28 |只看該作者

kalani,

Wow!! I truely love to ready your theory, and for point#3, I sometimes think that way too!! honestly!! becoz IMO, I have never been treating them unfair and mean to her...(well..that's only my thought!) may be she thinks the other way..
I really hate to deal with phone issues, and infact this is a common maid issue!! also..the gossip thing with another maid about how's yr employer treats you blah blah blah...i just hate her to compare...sign....

well..mind me calling you sometime!! haha

原文章由 Kalani 於 07-9-28 23:19 發表
lastly, some may say... becuase I'm a housewife so I have all the time to train maids... but..
hey, she came when I was working wor.. I've only stopped working for 2 years ga ja...

anyway,
no need ...

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well, as to the phone issue... I don't mind this as long as they finish their work...
my maids will not use the phone during the day.. or when the kids are awake..... but I know when they went into their room at night at 10:30.. they just keep " blah blah blah blah....."sometimes even so lound that I can hear in the living room ar... hahaha... but I don't mind ge... because what other entertainment do they have le?

when I 1st went to the US... I had no friends, no relatives... so I can only call HK during the night... just talking talking... and my phone bill was

... heehee..

yes, gossip gossip with other maid can be irritating.. but don't we all gossip gossip our boss too??
but if I hear talking on the phone at 1am... that's when I 'll start to say something...
so..... it all boils down to ... can you see what they see? as long as it doesn't interfere with working.... I don't care

Hope no one minds my BS here about maid... hee hee.

原文章由 kadie 於 07-9-29 00:28 發表
kalani,

Wow!! I truely love to ready your theory, and for point#3, I sometimes think that way too!! honestly!! becoz IMO, I have never been treating them unfair and mean to her...(well..that's only m ...

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Fungwongphie,
Didn't ask my friend what were the bags the maid sold before. But she was lucky to caught the maid before 2 more BVs disappeared.

"有料 pork chop by Kadie's maid"?????

Did I miss anything here?! Kadie, what did you find from the pork chop?!

Threetoone,
Not totally sure if it is the same one, but I saw a quited leather sunnie at the place I told you about before.

If you plan to get one, maybe a good idea to go check it out soon. About my friend, she is a little "spilled a basket of crab" now, but should be better after getting another maid. I don't have a maid staying 24/7 ga. Using 鐘點 is enough for now lu. You have a good one to refer?

Tuotuo,
Your maid did the same thing my friend's maid did! Did she sell your LVs or using them?

Kalani,
It is good to 交流心得 and learn their 蠱惑 stuffs here ah! Won't mind at all. hehehe... of course I'd say that la...I was the one who started the 長篇大論 maid story here.

[ 本文章最後由 arayako 於 07-9-29 01:57 編輯 ]

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發表於 07-9-29 05:38 |只看該作者

arayako,

我係有一日終於忍唔住佢 d 態度，情願補返一個月糧俾佢叫佢走！因我剛生咗bb，費事攪咁多，就叫咗 agent 上嚟計埋d糧 & 帶佢走。當 agent 嚟到同佢講我炒佢，叫佢入房執嘢走，大約十五分鐘佢拉住個 suitcase and 1袋2袋走出嚟，同我講 bye bye！係個 agent 叫佢打開d行李俾我望吓，嘩，嚇c我

！

我只可以話除咗個喼唔係我嘅, 入面所有嘢都係我嘅！包括：mobile phone、tempo pocket tissue、3 in 1 coffee、shampoo & conditioner、香水、牙線、hello kitty stationary、alarm clock、bra、clothes、波鞋 (仲要係 Hermes)、 LV x 3、最乞人憎就係攞咗呀仔個公仔 & 一罐奶粉！

不過我都算好彩，炒得佢早！佢走咗我仲要係佢房揾到三、四本咸書 and 易借易還嘅"邦民"還款通知書！

原文章由 arayako 於 07-9-29 01:53 發表
Fungwongphie,
Didn't ask my friend what were the bags the maid sold before. But she was lucky to caught the maid before 2 more BVs disappeared.

"有料 pork chop by Kadie's maid"????? Did I mis ...

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發表於 07-9-29 12:04 |只看該作者

Hi all sisters,

Here is my Grey Jumbo Flap:

條鏈真係長咗少少, 但我明天會照用架~~

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發表於 07-9-29 12:25 |只看該作者

arayako,
我自己冇用工人, 只係請鐘點番嚟執屋, 所以唔會係俾人偷去賣!! 我諗多數係自己唔小心居多喇~~ 真替你朋友不值!!!

Kalani,
好認同你對待工人嘅手法!! 因我媽咪屋企嘅工人都係我train嘅, 因為我個樣夠惡嘛....

fatping1,
Thank you!! I think so.... 所以我真係好開心呀!!!

Threetoone,
我都幾like皮革鏡眶果款ar, if 你買咗影張相post上來啊~~

Sams,
講就係咁講啫, 但當你試上手之後, 就自然唔記得屋企d展覽品架啦..... Hehehehehee.............

puffpuff, kadie,
有Kalani係度, 你哋可以問佢攞多d心得啦~~

peepee, 320320,
Long time no see.... where are you ar???

原文章由 arayako 於 07-9-28 15:40 發表
Kalani,
The coming season doesn't have anything that attracks me. Unless the coming season will have some nice color patent E/W or jumbo with new chain, Chanel will force me to have an involuntary sh ...

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發表於 07-9-29 12:58 |只看該作者

Gals,

What a nice weather today! Unfortunately, no matter what, my only duty is a "driver".

Winniemama,

Your grey jumbo is very pretty wor! I like the color which is very sophisticated. I'm sure you will enjoy using it today.

Kalani,

I quite agree with your approach in training and treating the maids. Though I didn't train that specifically, but I do treat them like what you said. haha..

Cheers,
Threetoone

原文章由 雲妮媽媽 於 07-9-29 12:04 發表
Hi all sisters,

Here is my Grey Jumbo Flap:
http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/47b7d709b3127ccebc926aba050400000025100UYs2Ldi4Y8
條鏈真係長咗少少, 但我明天會照用架~~

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sams,

我今次主要係Buy我自己d野，因為近日教新工人做野，又廋左小小，個個見到我都話我廋左好多，好開心，所以今次我會狂掃衫比自己．

threetoone,

我下次收到pre-sales card真係要去睇下，今次有８折真係走寶，不過完來see by chole jeans都係２０００幾元，我仲未有時間去LC睇下．

雲妮媽媽，

你又有新袋，我近日無咩target，不過我都心思思想買你個Jumbo flap.

我今次可以同埋爸爸媽媽去旅行當然好開心，有咁多人睇住兩個女，我可以去風狂shopping.

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Winniemama.
very nice bag... very stylish.. you should get yourself a pair of grey shoes ar... hee hee

bobo1,
when are you leaving?
I'm leaving tomorrow for Taiwan lor... I know you will buy buy buy la..... don't forget to go to Chanel ar... I think you'll go crazy ge...

hee hee... today I'm devil

... I made threetoone go shopping with me.. and I tempted her to buy buy buy ar.. hahahha....
we each bought a pair of shoes ....hee hee... everytime she goes shopping with me, she ends up buying more than I do... hahahaha...

[ 本文章最後由 Kalani 於 07-9-29 20:37 編輯 ]

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發表於 07-9-29 19:41 |只看該作者

Gals,

Be careful ar! Kalani is such a devil

.

Kalani,

You know, each time I went out with my friends, it's the norm that they will buy more than I do. Now, you took over my role as a devil huh!!! I won't bring any cc nor even wallet out next time when go shopping with you la. :( :tongue:

Bobo1,

Enjoy your trip in Japan. Happy and crazy shopping!

Cheers,
Threetoone

原文章由 Kalani 於 07-9-29 18:53 發表
Winniemama.
very nice bag... very stylish.. you should get yourself a pair of grey shoes ar... hee hee

bobo1,
when are you leaving?
I'm leaving tomorrow for Taiwan lor... I know you will buy buy buy ...

[ 本文章最後由 Threetoone 於 07-9-29 19:50 編輯 ]

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發表於 07-9-29 21:54 |只看該作者

hello all, just come back from sfo......

There are lots of chanel bags avaiable in NM and shop,but they are not attractive at all :-| , some of them are really

......

There is a good new for us (shopahoic), i got the NM card la!! it's great that NM card don't need a SSN (social security number), i didn't know that....so everyone can enjoy shopping and collect points (esp fatping

)

winniemama, good to see yr new baby!!! very nice are!!!

kalani, juicy got new perfume!!!! i just bought one from US.....and i don't think it is the new favour, as i bought the same thing last x'mas :-(
also the juciy fleece jacket and pants and 40% off @ bloomingdales!!! i bought a set for my sisiter in-law, only us$150, even the new items got 20% off , but don't know if it applys on-line shopping.....check check la
have a good trip to taiwan

bobo, have a nice trip too....happy shopping la.

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tuotuo,
poor u, yr help is

.....

i am quite lucky, my ex-helper was ok.....never steal, only always calling friends/receive calls......
And the current one, she can get along with my girl, and hard working. however she is not smart, that's ok for me....as long as she treat my girl nice....also she has no idea about all the luxuries: one day she "squeezed" my chanel handbag into the closet

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