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SandraLo:

1.佢未上學,只是返咁playgroup,係裡面佢比較不合作,好有自己主見,唔鐘意玩或佢覺得悶或己經識既野佢會選擇唔玩,如果叫佢玩佢會扭計和喊!!鐘意的活動佢咪聽話囉!係堂上佢好古靈精怪,好像想引人注意佢咁..又或者覺得坐係度悶,自己唸d野出來玩..佢性格好像唔可以悶得咁..專注力方面似乎佢對果樣野有冇興趣..我覺得佢比較唔專心囉..上堂佢會好留意身邊的環境有d咩野..係家裡佢鐘意我同佢講故事書..講好耐都得果隻..但佢又唔肯自己一個睇!一定要我讀給他聽!有時我講到口水都乾,就會爸爸接力..(不過爸爸多數講得唔好聽佢就會走..)

2.每日同佢玩的時間都幾長,因我家裡平時只有我和他

3.無

原文章由 SandraLo 於 08-5-12 17:01 發表

小ice :

最後呢幾個問題啦……
1/ 囝囝在校的表現也是這樣？學習情況如何？專注力如何？
2/ 你每天和他玩的時間有多長？
玩些什麼？他最喜歡玩又是什麼？
3/ 家有外傭或鐘點可幫手嗎？

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[ 本文章最後由小ice 於 08-5-13 17:25 編輯 ]

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原文章由 小ice 於 08-5-13 17:15 發表
SandraLo:

1.佢未上學,只是返咁playgroup,係裡面佢比較不合作,好有自己主見,唔鐘意玩或佢覺得悶或己經識既野佢會選擇唔玩,如果叫佢玩佢會扭計和喊!!鐘意的活動佢咪聽話囉!係堂上佢好古靈精怪,好像想引人注意佢咁.. ...

小ice :

我問這麼多問題, 其實是想知道你處理他發脾氣時有沒有做錯, 致令他能夠發三個鐘咁耐；但我問來問去, 都發現不到有什麼出錯的地方, (例如我問你有多少時間和他玩, 是想知他會不會是attention seeking)；我所教的讚+ ignore的方法, 即使是專注力缺乏/過度活躍的小朋友, 也會見到有改善, 而你似乎又是做到的！所以, 你的問題, 抱歉我真不知怎樣去幫！

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anyway,多謝你幫我分析!可能我小朋友另類過人啦!有時會懷疑佢係咪有咩"病"呢?
我都想過佢係咪有專注力/過動活躍症等等果類?

原文章由 SandraLo 於 08-5-14 22:49 發表

小ice :

我問這麼多問題, 其實是想知道你處理他發脾氣時有沒有做錯, 致令他能夠發三個鐘咁耐；但我問來問去, 都發現不到有什麼出錯的地方, (例如我問你有多少時間和他玩, 是想知他會不會是attention seeking)；我所 ...

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原文章由 小ice 於 08-5-15 16:10 發表
anyway,多謝你幫我分析!可能我小朋友另類過人啦!有時會懷疑佢係咪有咩"病"呢?
我都想過佢係咪有專注力/過動活躍症等等果類?

小ice :

專注力缺乏/過動活躍症簡稱ADHD, 你可試吓去特殊教育版問吓Dr.T (佢自已有topic) 扼要咁講吓囝囝發脾氣同佢响街踩人的情況, 記得講埋佢係扭唔到嘅, 睇吓Dr.T點講！

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發表於 08-5-16 16:39 |只看該作者

thx!!!

原文章由 SandraLo 於 08-5-15 21:55 發表

小ice :

專注力缺乏/過動活躍症簡稱ADHD, 你可試吓去特殊教育版問吓Dr.T (佢自已有topic) 扼要咁講吓囝囝發脾氣同佢响街踩人的情況, 記得講埋佢係扭唔到嘅, 睇吓Dr.T點講！ ...

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Hi, SandraLo,
I have been reading your valuable advice here, and I have some concerns rdg my boy here: He is already 4, and it so happen that he's not very willing to participate in any activites(e.g. Music class, etc). When I bring him over, he would not really enjoy being in the class, only if I stay inside w/ him, he would feel a bit secure, but still not really follow any instructions requested by the teacher. We've been in the class for almost 3 months more, and I really have no idea of how to handle it well. Also, per his school teacher advice, he's a very discipline & quiet kid in class, and does not play much around with his classmates. If he sees someone playing madly, he would says they are naughty....my concern is how can I teach him to show up to enjoy more in all classes(no matter it's in school or any extra circular activities)?

Thx in advance,
EC

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hi sandralo,
唔好意思我想問我個仔日系街or 酒樓等大叫大咸,有時會坐系地上,你唔理佢佢就傷害自己,佢"樓計"都系想抱or 想食啲我地唔比佢既野.等...我試過唔理佢(系屋企)結果佢整到撞個頭落床頭櫃流晒血之後我就非常內疚.ignore佢這個方法系一啲地方系用唔到.最近同佢去布吉旅行佢系飛機上就系咁大抄大鬧,攪到全機人望住我地.
唔理佢佢就搵野"掉"發晒脾氣.有一次同佢去食buffet (系布吉)佢唔知想要咩(好多時都唔知佢想點)系度嘈,嘈到坐系度既大陸人出聲話佢好嘈,攪到個大陸話佢食唔到野..我地就同佢講佢只系2歲幾小朋友我地都控制唔到.之後佢啤住我地就轉左位.
sandralo 我地真系唔知點教佢好..而家只有佢一叫就打佢.
打咀.直到佢收..

點算...我地就想死...唔通成世唔同佢出街.
(ps 佢系屋企乖好多).可唔可以教下我地點好...

原文章由 SandraLo 於 07-1-29 23:17 發表

你囡囡响街扭，當然係曾經扭到過，看準你唔好意思嘈住人，即係「冇佢符」，佢實掂！
首先，睇番呢個 topic 第一個 page 近尾嗰度，方法基本上一樣。

用讚/獎 + 講數 + ignore
「讚」成日都講，唔重覆啦，响街度 t ...

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原文章由 elmocookie 於 08-6-11 17:54 發表
Hi, SandraLo,
I have been reading your valuable advice here, and I have some concerns rdg my boy here: He is already 4, and it so happen that he's not very willing to participate in any activites(e.g. ...

elmocookie :

I guess it's kind of "personality"......... What kind of game/toys he likes ？

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原文章由 mw7183 於 08-6-12 12:24 發表
hi sandralo,
唔好意思我想問我個仔日系街or 酒樓等大叫大咸,有時會坐系地上,你唔理佢佢就傷害自己,佢"樓計"都系想抱or 想食啲我地唔比佢既野.等...我試過唔理佢(系屋企)結果佢整到撞個頭落床頭櫃流晒血之後我就非常 ...

mw7183 ：
你囝囝兩歲幾多個月？

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2歲3個月...

原文章由 SandraLo 於 08-6-12 23:09 發表

mw7183 ：
你囝囝兩歲幾多個月？

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Usually, my maid would play w/ him "Lego", train set, coloring, kids exercise- draw lines etc. at home. Since I am a working mom, during weekday, I wont be able to play w/ him much around, only over the weekend that I would bring him to some courses, sometimes meetup w/ other kids(but if he does not see them for a long time, he would not really enjoy much in the play). On & off, I will also bring him downstairs for cycling in the Park(which he enjoys much).
My concern is I think he does not really want to be the centre point(getting all attention on him)For e.g, if his teacher wants him to dance, he won't be moving and swinging a lot, just standing there and told me that he does not know how to do.....but the thing is all teachers are doing together, he can just follow them, not only in his school he does not like to join in any "moving" activities, whenever in some other courses, like Art class, he also does not willing to draw much himself. I am quite frustrate on his behavior, what should I do to help him to improve? Will that situation be better if he grows up more?

Thanks again for your valuable advice, EC

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原文章由 mw7183 於 08-6-13 10:02 發表
2歲3個月...

mw7183 :

唔好意思, 人老咗記性唔好....... 你之前有冇出過post問我？我當時有冇答過你？你睇咗「点讚」個topic未？
停止打佢先呀！唔係佢好快就學識出手架啦！

[ 本文章最後由 SandraLo 於 08-6-13 22:38 編輯 ]

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「点讚」個topic 睇左都試過系無用.我無出post 問你呀..我個仔真系唔打唔得.我忍到老公都忍唔到.佢真系太嘈..成日大叫大咸.

原文章由 SandraLo 於 08-6-13 22:35 發表

mw7183 :

唔好意思, 人老咗記性唔好....... 你之前有冇出過post問我？我當時有冇答過你？你睇咗「点讚」個topic未？
停止打佢先呀！唔係佢好快就學識出手架啦！ ...

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原文章由 elmocookie 於 08-6-13 12:36 發表
Usually, my maid would play w/ him "Lego", train set, coloring, kids exercise- draw lines etc. at home. Since I am a working mom, during weekday, I wont be able to play w/ him much around, only over t ...

elmocookie :

可能這真是性格問題, 特別是如你和daddy都是靜態和timid type. 試吓多d 同佢玩d 顛d 嘅嘢, 你們都必須參予, 讓他容易些投入; 看你描述他的退縮, 又似乎是信心問題, 他在校的成績如何? 喜不喜歡和小朋友玩?

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原文章由 mw7183 於 08-6-14 15:19 發表
「点讚」個topic 睇左都試過系無用.我無出post 問你呀..我個仔真系唔打唔得.我忍到老公都忍唔到.佢真系太嘈..成日大叫大咸.

mw7183 :

你讚嘅情形係点? 幾時讚? 會唔會係錯咗timing ?

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佢一乖既時間就讚.

原文章由 SandraLo 於 08-6-14 18:34 發表

mw7183 :

你讚嘅情形係点? 幾時讚? 會唔會係錯咗timing ?

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當佢乖既時候就讚

原文章由 SandraLo 於 08-6-14 18:34 發表

mw7183 :

你讚嘅情形係点? 幾時讚? 會唔會係錯咗timing ?

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原文章由 SandraLo 於 08-6-14 18:30 發表

elmocookie :

可能這真是性格問題, 特別是如你和daddy都是靜態和timid type. 試吓多d 同佢玩d 顛d 嘅嘢, 你們都必須參予, 讓他容易些投入; 看你描述他的退縮, 又似乎是信心問題, 他在校的成績如何? 喜不喜歡和小 ...

Sandra,

My boy is just attending K1, and he does not have much homework at this moment, usually he would prefer to stay in the reading corner(to read books) more than playing w/ his classmates. He seldom hang around w/ kids in his class. I also think about the "self confidence" issue, how can I help him to get improved, esp in his daily lives?
Thanks so much for your valuable advice.
EC

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原文章由 mw7183 於 08-6-16 10:11 發表
當佢乖既時候就讚

mw7183 :

如用讚嚟矯正壞行為, 應該係佢冇做嗰個壞行為時讚, (例如冇大叫) 而唔係「乖」先讚, 因「乖」係冇一個明確的定義, 快d温一温先：
http://forum.baby-kingdom.com/viewthread.php?tid=1094774&extra=&page=4
第一個post

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