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Natmama,

When I knew my girl only weighs 6lb 12oz, I thought she's very little. Considering the sizes of my husband (5'9") and myself (5'5"), I think she should be weighing more than that.... As a first time mom, when I saw her so skinny and dropped weight for the first couple of days (I knew it's normal), I really wanted to cry. I was thinking if I wasn't eat enough or something when she's still inside me.....

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Zic,

I knew I need to rest more, but I have problem sleeping during day time. Do you have any suggestion for me? Talking about eating more, I have tried to eat more already, but I don't know if the depression makes me losing weight. I gain 30lb during my pregnancy and I have lost 22.5lb within 3 weeks already. Do you think it's normal?

I'm feeding her breastmilk by bottle during the day (once a while at my breasts) and feeding formula at night as I want her to sleep a little longer so that I can sleep a little longer too.

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Hi CarinaMa

,

Welcome here! After hearing your story, I think u are in the right place here in BK! Here all the mom are very nice and we will support u to fight against the depression

Well, I am a first time mom-to-be, so I don't have any experience of fighting the depression (and I hope I need not, but who knows? It's the hormone that's the problem!) However, my experience of fighting against the 24 hrs morning sickness in the first 3 months is: sooner or latter it will go away, just hang on and u will be fine soon!

So happen that last X'mas I bought a HK magazine "

regnancy" having a special issue on depression before and after pregnancy. If u want a photocopy of it, just email me your address and I will mail to u when I have time (sorry, it may takes some days because recently I am busy at work). My email address is [email protected]

Hang on gal! Win a beautiful battle!

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Zic,

Long time no chat here la! Your boy is BIG now! Remember to share with us some of your latest photo! Must tell u this: my parents got their visa la - 10 yrs multiple entry!

They said the whole process is easy and they even did not need to show account book etc. They will come to US Sep 22, about 2 weeks before my due date.

Greentree,

Glad to hear that your boy is doing fine after the operation!

I can imagine how scary for parents to wait outside the surgery room with the kid inside.... Last time I arranged kids to have surgery if their hearing were really poor, and I could see the fear from the parents' eyes.

My due date is Oct 4

LA mom,

So good to have gathering with u gals again! When I told my parents and my hubby told his friends about our gathering, they just cannot imagine how we HK mom can get together thro' "

laying on the web"! :mrgreen: Poor that we missed babygigi this time!

And I found out from a friend here that I am not the only one who cried and shouted with the UCLA housing. His wife did exactly the same last year when she was pregnant and did not get the larger apartment on time!

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發表於 05-7-19 08:15 |只看該作者

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Carina

Nice to meet you and let me introduce myself first.
I live in south San Jose and my baby girl will be 6 month old tomorrow.
I feel so sorry for you cause I understand it must be hard for you to take care yourself and baby at the same time. Cause after I delivered my baby, I felt the same but luckily my mother came over to help me for the first 6 weeks. Even though only six weeks, it really helps!!
Do you have anyone helping you here? But I can feel your husband is very caring person cause I found this website myself.... :-( But your husband is right, you can meet more mommies here and get some support.

By the way, your baby Carina is 80% like my baby Chloe when she was born. Haha...my baby Chloe was very demanding when she was newborn and I felt depressed and worried at that time, but when she grows bigger, she is better. You are lucky cause my Chloe did not smile until she was 4 month old and that was the time I felt enjoy my motherhood.

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發表於 05-7-19 09:25 |只看該作者

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CarinaMommy,

Welcome you! Nice to meet you! Although you bear the hormone change, it makes you cry a lot. Believe me, this is very normal and no worries much. You remind yourself, this tears is not things, just hormone make you cry, isn't your actual thing make you cry. This cry period will over very soon, but you must not scare when you cry. When you cry, you online to BK la..... ok! Keep smile!

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發表於 05-7-19 09:25 |只看該作者

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leohannahchan,

Is your last name "Chan" too? Me too, actually that's my husband's last name, and I follow his last name.

I live in east San Jose and I used to live in south San Jose too, nearby Bernal and Santa Teresa. Now, I live by Alum Rock and Fleming. Do you know where is it?

My mom didn't come to help as my sister-in-law will be coming to deliver her baby in August and they will come together. Even though I live with my parent-in-law, they can help with all the cooking and everything, but they are still parent-in-law. Do you know what I mean? I didn't tell them my situation actually because I don't think they can help me. Anyway, it's lucky that my husband really supports me; otherwise, I think I would become crazy.

Actually, when I did the 3D ultrasound in May, I saw my girl smiling already!

Wow, is that true? Maybe just that face looks like your daughter. She has too many facial expressions for her age.

This is her normal look.
[img align=left]http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/carina626/detail?.dir=e0fe&.dnm=6661.jpg&.src=ph[/img]

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發表於 05-7-19 12:40 |只看該作者

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Dear moms,
Just want to check in and let all of you know that I'm still alive!!

I've been very busy with work recently. BB Marcus was so funny tonight, he was dancing with TV commerical music and walking backward for a long!

Dear LA moms,
My husband left for L.A this afternoon to meet some clients and he will come back tomorrow night. He was eating "big fish big meat" around Monterey Park for dinner when Ying E E(our nanny) was eating left over food and Candace & I were eating frozen "Siu Lone Bao" :-(

CarinaMommy,
Welcome to BK & the lovely motherhood!
I'm a mother of 2 (5.5 yrs old daughter and a 16 mos. old son) and I work full time. We live in Castro Valley. I used to live in San Jose long time ago. I took my road test at the DMV in Santa Teresa "N" years ago.
All moms here at BK are very nice and caring. Chat with us whenever you have time and hopefully, you will feel much better soon! I cried a lot and I was very emotional right after my 1st child was born. Please don't feel alone, we are here to support you!

Nillie,
How's work? Do you miss the old days when Amanda was with you all the time?

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發表於 05-7-19 15:05 |只看該作者

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Hello Carinamum
Wellcome!
我有2個仔女, 大個女係fremont出生,個時係呀妹道住, 我現在係hk住架. needs to work

我個陣係us stay 左 4 months, 唔知算唔算有 depression,都好唔happy架. always cry, 不過, 我依家都好正常. 你都好, 有bk 傾下計, 我5年前, 想搵個hk 人見下都要weekend 先得.

LA MOMS
你地就好啦, 有gathering.

Shiba_Inu
I remember I had gathering with the "net friends" for the 1st time, it likes dreaming, unbelivable.
I have a brother, 都係icq搵左個wife.

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發表於 05-7-19 23:58 |只看該作者

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各位, 好耐無見, 你地好嗎???

Baby_Alex,
我煮餸都係咁架, 一鑊熟, 快趣方便!!! 好在到而家老公都無乜埋怨...

我地呢個州D 幼兒園都慢慢改變晒全日制, 我好擔心時間太長, BB會好辛苦.

Greentree,
我都想去NYC玩呀, 不過揸車真係路途遙遠, 上次要成5個鐘, 仲要遇岩放工時間塞車, 老公揸得好辛苦呢! 我都好掛住NYC D野食, 諗起都流晒口水呀! 你奶奶把口咁勁既? 你都係少理少睬佢為妙, 佢話乜都由佢唔好鬼理佢囉, 你會開心D. 你BB仔而家緊係咁, 邊個就佢就鐘意"痴"埋邊個到, 遲D佢就會好清楚你係照顧佢果個. 開心返D啦! :lol: :lol:

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發表於 05-7-20 01:26 |只看該作者

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meeemeee,

You are the second person who I knew living in Castro Valley. How do you like there? From what you said, you must be living there for a long time. You know what, I also took my road test in Santa Teresa. It's happened 12 years ago, the next year after I came to the US. I chose there because my boyfriend (now my husband) said the streets were very quiet there. Well, it was and I passed it.

I really feel very warm here at BK. I can't believe there are so many people responding and showing care to me. Thank you everyone here.

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發表於 05-7-20 02:16 |只看該作者

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Zic,

Thanks for the clarification. Since we are on the topic of "growing husbands"....when I first met my hubby, he was a skinny/tall HK dud. His waist size was 33 inches for jeans. As we dated for longer and ate and ate....his waistline grew to 36.

Similar to your hubby, if we eat too much, he has to unbutton his pants in the car...hehehe... :-P :-P :-P

Clarab,

Long time not see la...I wanted to icq you...glad to see you again

How is big and little Evie doing

Are they both treating you well

Leohannah,

Have you started packing yet

How's Miss Chloe doing

Greentree,

Your 99's theory on eating more salt in the summer is so wrong

I think salt actually makes you dehydrate more quickly :cry: :cry: :cry: I don't understand why the older generation has their own way of raising kids and will not accept our ways ?-( ?-( Even so...there is no need for her to put you down.

CarinaMommy,

Don't get stressed out about your crying...it's very very normal. I was crying for the first 2 months after Natalie was born. My husband would call me from work and he could tell that I just cried :-( :-( :-( As the baby gets older and on a stable schedule, things will definitely return to normal :wink: :wink: Is your mom or anyone helping you...if not, call up some friends...they will make you feel better :lol: :lol: :lol: I don't think your daughter is small at all. My husband is 6'1 and I'm 5'3...my ob/gyn didn't wanted my baby to be more than 7 lbs. They will plump up

So you are thinking about returning to work. I quitted my job after Natalie was born and I so miss my working days. I'm hoping to go back when she's a little older

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發表於 05-7-20 02:26 |只看該作者

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mrsyip,

Thanks for your support. Actually, after I have talked to more and more people and chatted with more and more people here about my situation, I start to feel better now. I will never forget what was happened to myself in the past 3 weeks. Before, my husband and I want to have 2 kids. But ever since he saw me being like that, he said he didin't want any more as he didn't want me to suffer again. I haven't make up my mind yet even it's that tough to me. Do you think I might feel better when I have the 2nd one since I have experience?

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發表於 05-7-20 03:22 |只看該作者

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hi all moms,

i gave valerie egg yolk this morning and she just ate 1/3...hope she will get used to eating it.

CarinaMommy,

hi, i am a stay-at-home mom living in san francisco. i have a baby girl called valerie who is 9 months old.

your postpartum depression will be over soon, just take it easy and don't blame yourself for all the emotional problems you are having...it is the hormone that makes you cry.....you will be fine. my friend's friend in hk had depression during and after her pregnancy and her case is much worse... but it finally got over. my husband is 5ft11 and i am 5ft3, and valerie was 6Ib7 and 19inches long. I had gestational diabetes, so i need to have a low carb, no sugar diet to control my weight and the weight of valerie. my ob also told me to have valerie below 7Ib. so Carina is perfect in her birth weight. i gained 27Ib during pregnancy and i lost 20Ib during 'sit moon' period. so it is not uncommon that you lost your weight fast. *sigh* 1 month ago, i only need to lose 3 more pounds and i would be back to my normal weight...but my mom is here again and she cooks a lot of yummy food....i put on 4 pounds....so my new target is to get rid of those 7Ib 'pig belly meat'

if you can find someone to help you out during the first 6-8 weeks, it's be better. my mom came over from hk to help me and i feel so relieved and comfy. glad to here that your mom is coming over soon....you will be sooo happy when your sis and mom get here, hehe

greentree,

is the 斜視 problem corrected after the surgery? i can feel his pain during and after the operation. haha, if you are 排尾二, your老公排最後, who is on the top of damian's list? your mom-in-law ??
drinking salt water will only dehydate and affect the body saline level... and it will also overload the kidney if damian consume too much .....btw, your bb is called damian???i thougt i saw you mentioning it somewhere.

Natmama,

How is your little bro doing? staying in the hospital is no fun at all, hope he can go home soon. val was about the same size as natalie when she was first born wor. how tall and heavy is she now? val is 18inches and 19Ib last week and the pedi said she is 'siu siu' skinny at her height........*sigh* val doesnt have the appetite....

zic,

ppl in hk like to bring their baby to studio to take photo... i saw it other hk baby website. so how is the photo quality taken in walmart? can i see some of them, hehe.. is it hard to make valerie smiles in front of the camera, she will just stare at it and look away from it most of the time. maybe i will bring her to take some studio photo when she is 1yr old.

muimui,

we spent out 1st anniverasry in hawaii, it is so relaxing and fun ... maybe we will go there again on our 10th anniversary with valerie.

shiba_inu,

valerie was born on 10/3...exactly 1 week before the due date. you better have your 'mama' bag packed at least a month before your due date. i still remember my water bag broke when i got up from my bed and i am so scared... i just sat in the toilet and wait for my husband to call the pedi....haha, it was so funny looking back.

leohannahchan,

hi, i cant recall if we have chat before, anyway, hihi.

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發表於 05-7-20 03:44 |只看該作者

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LA moms,
My husband and I had a great time in our gathering. his only complaint was the weather was too hot.. When we went back to LB, the temperature meter in the car showed only 69 degrees and also it was cloudy.

After buffet, I bought 2 tilapias for mini-matt's congee..
I forgot to ask you all about slippers. Have you ever seen the size 14 ? A few weeks ago, I asked the lady who works for the clothes store at 99 ranch. She said to me , " 你老公係鬼佬呀,但係鬼佬都一定只係著到size 12, 無理由著 size 14." I thought why she knew that for sure."

meeemeee

you're not the only one, I always eat frozen foods for my dinner.

CarinaMommy

nice to see you.
I'm a stay-at-home mom too..I also could see my bb smile and angry when I had 4D ultrasound. it was amazing.
I gained 50 lbs while I was pregnant, but I lost 30 lbs in a month after giving birth.. I can understand to take care of brand-new baby is very tough job. At the beginning, I was so depressed too.. Fortunately, my husband was supportive and my brother helpped me out a little. I said to myself, I could get over it. Now there's 12 days until he's 1 year old.. I'm very happy with him ..

..just take it easy...everything will be fine..

Natmama,

I forgot to bring you back the container.. Hopefully, I can remember it next time..
Today I fed mini-matt noodles for lunch. Unfortately, he didn't like them . I chopped them up in little pieces, but he's still the same.

Now his temper is getting worse, he started to wiggle if I don't let him touch the remote..he will scream and pout.. I hate that kind of attitude..

He woke up three times last night, he just wanted to sleep with us .... sigh, HELP...

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發表於 05-7-20 04:15 |只看該作者

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whalebb,

多謝你讚我老公喎..he just pretended to be nice..

..你真係好嘢, 煮得一手好菜..你一家上下, 一定好為你自豪呀..

valbee.

我記得你上次話你囡囡, 食粥嘔返出嚟,,唔知有無比佢再食呢? 其實你有無試過煮耐d或者係煮之前, 浸一浸d米呀? 出嚟個效果會有d 唔同..

greentree,

好耐無見你啦..mini-matt 又係鍾意daddy 多d 架.因為daddy 同佢玩呀嘛. 我就成日叫佢唔同個樣呢樣...梗係啦,亞仔攪嘢,佢daddy 第一時間,就叫我stop 佢..咁,我咪做咗衰人囉. 佢連daddy 係bathroom 剃緊mustache, 都係張床,望住daddy 實一實, daddy 叫佢,就即刻四萬咁既口..都唔知咩世界..

希望你囝囝早日康覆啦.如果你悶,記得得閒上嚟傾吓計呀.

shi-bu

fight for it 啦.唔好give up 呀..做一個勇敢既中國人..

(真係辛苦, 亞仔係我身邊煩到屎.又攪個樣呢樣, 攪到我打兩隻字,又要去捉番佢..激屎啦)

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發表於 05-7-20 04:33 |只看該作者

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Valbee,

Natalie was born exactly 1 week before her due date too...what a coincidence :mrgreen: :mrgreen: We weighed her a week ago at the doctor's office and she was 22 lbs. Let me measure her length tonight and let you know.

Little Fat Man,

Just keep the container, I have 3 more at home

Speaking of bad attitude, Natalie is the same. She would throw a fit if she couldn't get her way. I hate it when she throws herself backwards and ends up wiggling on the floor. If you can hold it, I suggest letting him cry. I get so pissed off, I just let her row on the floor and cry...I pretend to close my eyes and sleep sometimes :tongue: :tongue: :tongue: What kind of noodles did you give Mini-Matt? I've tried rice noodles and macaroni for Natalie but I noticed she only eats a few spoons. Maybe becuz it takes more effort for them to chew and swallow. I noticed she really likes eating rice. Last night, we went out to eat "clay pot rice" and eventhough I fed her a jar of bb food, she still ate a lot of rice...maybe the soysauce is flavorful to her. Does Mini-Matt like rice

I believe they can start eating regular rice after turning one...just add more water when you cook it. Regarding the slippers, my hubby wears size 11 or 12...I think it's hard to find anything over size 11 at chinese stores. I found some size 12s plastic ones for my hubby at jcrew and they were on sale for $5/pair.

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發表於 05-7-20 04:44 |只看該作者

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jaan,

Which hospital did you go? Washington Hospital? This is the only hospital that I know in Fremont. Did you have a chance to visit anywhere here during that 4 months?

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發表於 05-7-20 05:57 |只看該作者

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Carinamommy

Yes, we both are stay home Chan C9!! I know Alum Rock cause Chloe's pediatrician is in Alum Rock. So, we went there every 1 or 2 month. Also, another BK mom Marble lived in San Jose East close to Capital. So, you guys are more close than me. I live in Blossom Hill Road now but before I live in Cottle Road.
I understand your situation cause I had the same feeling why Chloe was losing weight in the first week and blamed myself (ate too much chocolate and junk food in pregnancy.) Anyway, I felt so guilty cause she did not latch my breast and I had to pump my breastmilk and bottlefed her. I couldn't remember how can I make through the first 3 months but I could tell you defintely not easy!!!

So, what you can do is to share your problem with BK mommies and get more support. By the way, we will have another gather in 7/26 go to TODAI in Cupertino. Wellcome all San Jose(Bay area) mommies to join. I know Marble and I will defintely will go and wish you can join us and let us meet Carina

Valbee
Nice meeting you !! We did not chat before cause I am lazy BK mom....watch a lot but write a few only.
I guess I can learn a lot from you cause valerie is older than chloe for 3 months. What kind of food you gave valerie when she was 6 month old? Cause I want to give her some meat but scare she will chok...

Natmama
The mover will come on August 17 and load on August 18. I guess we will fly to NC on August 19. We don't need to pack ourself, they will help us to pack and unpack. Cause we bought a new house in NC and expect to move in April 2006. So, we will live in the townhouse for 6 months and keep most the thing unpacked and then move in to the new house in 2006. (I don't want unpack and then pack and then unpack....you know what i mean....

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