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Re: Any Mom lives in USA Part III

Natmama,

Did you cry everyday for the first 2 months? Or, just once in a while? What did you do to overcome the situation? My mom is not here.... my mother-in-law is living with us. She helps with cooking and all the housework, but she can't help my depression. I don't really feel comfortable of talking to her. She's a traditional person whom I think she won't find this (hormone/life changing) as an issue. Why I feel my daughter is small because the babies of the people who I know are all big. I mean they are all at least 7lb.... Anyway, I have accepted the fact already. That's ok as long as she's healthy.

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Shiba,
I am so glad for you that your parents got a multiple entry visa. My birthday is Oct too. This is a good month and the baby will be smarter (這是我個人的偏見和愚見),haha.

LA-moms,
I am so envy on you gals. I hope I can join you someday.

Do you see a doctor or not? 我對postpartum depression認識不深, 但我知這跟荷爾蒙的分泌有很大的關係, 需要食藥控制。So, don’t blame on yourself. You are not weak. Do you believe in God? You can try to pray when you are depressed. God bless you!!! To share more feelings with friends, family members and us. 千萬不要鬱在心裡。

Leo,
For my son doesn’t like formula, so I cook congee for him since he was 5 mons old. You can give your daughter chicken breast and beef. Use blender to puree the meat.

Clarab and Natmama,
我奶奶常以bb黐她而沾沾自喜, 我由她la, 她今天放假, 我由得她湊孫, 她話我亞仔精力十足, 令到她好攰。

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發表於 05-7-20 08:30 |只看該作者

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Valbee,

I really think a lot of people here were very lucky as their moms came to help them. Well, I had asked my mom to come but she said she will come later with my sister-in-law as she will come to deliver her baby here. On one hand, I can understand it's hard for her to come by herself as she doesn't know English. But on the other hand, I really felt sad when she told me that she won't come to help me. I always think all the moms like to help their daughters for their deliveries. Well, it's gone now.

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發表於 05-7-20 08:41 |只看該作者

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Carinamom,

正如大家所講: 係賀爾蒙影響緊你嘅情緒, 所以你根本講唔出點解會喊... 不過你雖然講唔出個原因, 但可以嘗試講出個感受... 你老公就係最佳嘅聆聽者 (冇人可以代替) 因為佢可以一邊聽你嘅說話, 一邊攬住你, 一邊拍拍你個膊頭...
身體上嘅照顧, parent-in-law可以幫到你, 但你精神上嘅滿足, 只有你同你嘅hubby先可以俾到大家...放鬆啲, 對你自己&你個honey 都會好啲...
你可以同老公講: 可唔可以放工後, 返到屋企, 剩係得我哋兩個, 一個小小"二人空間"呀(bb可以俾grandmother揍住先）揾番以前兩個嘅甜蜜...你需要, 你老公更需要 (因為佢都係第一次做人爸爸)

至於你日頭瞓唔到, 唔緊要o架... 你唔晒一定要瞓覺... 至更要放鬆心情, 得閒上吓網... 攰喇先至喺張床伸下腰骨... 可以聽下歌啦... (唔知點解聽返香港嗰啲特別有共鳴) ?-(
你有冇用花灑沖涼?(有啲人坐月剩係用薑水抺身) 淋下個人真係舒服好多 (呢種感覺同平時沖涼好唔同, 我冇誇張, 真係好似前世未沖過涼, 好爽o架) :mrgreen:

其實我同你一樣, 一個月到我已經減晒磅lu... 你唔好唔記得你餵緊人奶, BURN SUPER 多calaries, 加上後生, 好鬼快輕番...所以你唔需要太過擔心...我就苦惱緊, 我條士啤呔

你有啲咩唔開心, 就上嚟同我哋傾計啦!!我哋支持你!!

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發表於 05-7-20 08:46 |只看該作者

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leohannahchan,

Who's your pediatrician? Mine is on McKee, Jenny Saw. How many moms do you know at BK that they live in San Jose? Do you know Marble at BK too? Carina is one month old on 7/26 actually, so I can't join the gathering...... too bad...... unless we go there to celebrate..... We will go out to have dinner on 7/26 and have a causal party on 7/30.

Actually, I'm doing the same thing as you did before, pumping out the breastmilk and bottlefeed her. It's not because she won't latch on, but she falls asleep so easily that I'm afriad she doesn't drink enough.

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Natmama

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發表於 05-7-20 09:53 |只看該作者

Re: Any Mom lives in USA Part III

Greentree,

I think your 99 feels very sweet deep in her heart that her little grandson is so attached to her

So I guess it's okay to take her "shxt" once in awhile :lol: :lol: :lol:

Nillie,

I was just thinking about how you're doing at work. There are so many philipino nurses in CA too...and they love speaking in their own language while working

Babygigi,

Glad to hear your grandpa is doing well. I couldn't read chinese thru yahoo on my laptop. I have to recheck the email you sent me...

Carinamommy,

I know people used to believe the bigger the baby is the healthier they are. But I'm glad that my baby did not give me too much problem during delivery since she wasn't too big :-P :-P :-P The first 2 months after giving birth, I usually cried when I felt exhausted from lack of sleep and not knowing how to handle the baby (maybe 3x a week). I'm usually better on weekends and evenings when my hubby was around. I found that calling my old coworkers and talking to them helped me a lot. My sister and cousin also came to visit more often (every other day) and took care of the baby for me so I can take a break

I also found that going out alone while my husband watched the baby helped me unwind. You can try going out alone while your 99 watches the baby...even for an hour or 2 will help a lot. :wink: :wink: :wink: As the baby gets older and you can both go out together, you will realize the joy of motherhood. Like today, I took Natalie to the mall and we ate at the foodcourt...then walked around for 2 hrs.

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發表於 05-7-20 10:24 |只看該作者

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Hello all moms,

I'm currently in HK now, the weather is super hot and humid since the day I arrived here. It's not so good to go in summer time as kids can't actually enjoy much outdoor activities. My boy was okay as he didn't have the jetlap problem but my girl only could get back to her normal pattern on the 5th day, we finally have some good sleep now.

For myself, I enjoy the shopping and food pretty much, many shops are at final sale and very cheap on the clothing and shoes

my favorite....

Talk to you gals later

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發表於 05-7-20 10:32 |只看該作者

Re: Any Mom lives in USA Part III

greentree,

my boy has his 1st teeth at 13 months old, don't worry la as my girl is 9 months old now but she has no teeth too. I've tried the A+ formula in HK but seems she has no difference to drink more, so i'll keep on the japan brand formula as the taste is actually much more tastful than A+, it's more like fresh milk and smooth to make. Which brand is your son drinking? I'm making the congee for my girl in Hk as well but we don't have a blender to puree the meat so it's very hard to chop.

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發表於 05-7-20 13:01 |只看該作者

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CarinaMommy
BINGO!

During the 4 months, just sit & wait. :-(
But that was my 3rd time been USA.

智仔mommy
You are in Hong Kong!

好鬼死熱呀!
行街街時點算呀你, 慣唔慣呀!
Will you let your son to have summer course for chinese learning. Cheaper than USA

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發表於 05-7-21 02:00 |只看該作者

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Carinamommy

係呀, 唔係"BB大就一定好",呢一個唔係正確既觀念嚟架..最緊要係"健康"..我亞仔初初出世,都係BIG BABY (8.6 lbs, 21") , 但係依家佢既重量都追唔上其他BB囉.但係我醫生話佢健康,長度正常, 問題巳經不大..
仲有,我十分懷念佢初初出世時架, 我都有d後悔,個時, 無日日抱佢架,因為依家我想抱下佢,佢都唔比囉..所以你要好好享受, 依家可以比你"為所郤為" 既時刻呀, 抱多d佢, 錫多d佢, 同佢講多d計.影多d相咁呀..可能有時你會覺得佢好煩, 又喊,又杻計,但係諗多d positive 既嘢,呢d就會變成一種樂趣..

natmama,

我禽日到咗dinner, 又再試比佢食noodles , 佢又肯食喎..我今次又係chop 得好細粒, 咁比佢食..但係個soup,我就用咗 ground chicken, salmon嚟整,都幾好味..
我發現咗一樣嘢,唔知你有無試過,或者你會唔會有胆去試吓..
話說如果我同亞仔係我哋張床玩, daddy 係另一邊, mini-matt 會爬過去佢daddy 度..咁我哋試吓唔抱佢,睇下佢會唔會自己由床上面"鍾"落地下..點知,佢到咗床邊,停住唔郁, grab 住張床單, 伸個頭望下個地下, 跟住,佢就好自然咁轉身, 想用腳落地先..

..咁我哋梗係唔比佢咁做啦, 雖然姿勢正確,但係佢隻腳唔夠長, 到時,一定跌落地下..
我老公著size 14,所以唔係咁多鞋有佢既size, 如果mini-matt 有佢既外型,絶對有可能遺傳佢既大腳..

亞仔依家發癲,我大多都唔理佢架,由得佢叫囉,依家就算reach 唔到個remote (唔係我搶走去個隻),佢都尖叫..我都費時理佢呀.
但係佢禽晚,又想同我哋瞓, 一放係個crib,又喊..我忍唔住yell 佢"shut up." 佢停一停,仲叫得大聲,係叫破口嚨個隻.唉, 咁我就好後悔咁又氹,又say sorry 囉..到最後,試咗好多次, 先可以比佢瞓番crib 咋..

智仔媽咪

你諗住係香港住幾耐先走呀? 囡囡有無杻大計呀? 一諗起,同亞仔上機,我又有點煩..

Zic

我條士啤呔係勁大條,個日出去同natmama, mrsyip, 同埋whalebb 食lunch,佢哋一個二個都唔知幾fit,攪到我成枱至樣衰個隻添.不過,好彩,亞仔幫我攞番唔少分咋..

babygigi

唔緊要啦,,咪下次囉..最緊要你grandpa 無事,就得架啦..

Nillie_Mami

返工最緊要開心和揾錢..其他人,可以唔駛理..希望你工作順利啦..

leohannahchan

聽你咁講,你就嚟會好忙喎..乜嘢都可以唔理,但係個電腦記得第一時間去unpack 呀...

whalebb,

我唔記得同你講, 我要做一個" 全職奶粉媽咪"啦.我呢幾日,無乜餵人奶, 個boobs 都無谷奶呀..有d唔捨得,但係我巳經did my best,所以都算功成身退囉.. :-( :-(

jaan.

係呀,聽人講, 香港天氣好熱呀,有d反常喎..唔知係唔係呢?

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發表於 05-7-21 02:10 |只看該作者

Re: Any Mom lives in USA Part III

Nillie_Mami,

Sorry to hear your story. I really appreciate you share your story with me. I understand what you were trying to tell me. I will try my best to be stronger. My situation is getting better now I think.... only cry once a while, not everyday any more. But, I still can't adapt the feeling of tired all the time. That's why I lost my temper this morning. I asked my husband to adjust his alarm clock as it woke me and Carina up instead of himself (he's always like that.... he can ignore the alarm clock very easily). Then, he said he will sleep in the office tonight. I know, he's tired too.... and he has said sorry to me later, but I cried after he left to work. Actually, this is the first time that we lost temper. What do you think we should do to avoid something like this happened again?

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發表於 05-7-21 02:13 |只看該作者

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各位,

比樣嘢你哋估吓呀..

話說,有一日, 同老公去grocery, 見到一對couples (鬼+唐人), 咁我老公就講咗一句" AMC "..問題就係" what does "AMC" stand for ? "

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發表於 05-7-21 02:49 |只看該作者

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Little fat man

I guess AMC stand for American match Chinese??

Anyway, I guess I will unpack computer and apply for cable and telephone line...no connection how to log on to BK ?? :-(

Carina
My pedi is Perry Lim and I just found out Marble and I were having same pedi Perry Lim yesterday. Cause they came over to my house to celebrate 6 month birthday of Chloe and Kyle (they born at same day!!!)
Yeah...I knew Marble from BK and you can meet many nice mommies here....I guess there is only 4 San Jose mommies but I will soon move to NC on August and so only 3. But you should meet Marble and I guess you guys really close to each other and can talk over the phone also.

You know Carina has same birthday as my husband and that's why we go to Todai cause he can eat free...

Maybe you can join us next time if you like. I will email my phone number to you.

You can talk to me if you want someone to talk...

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發表於 05-7-21 04:07 |只看該作者

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Lately I feel very tired and sick, no mood to do everything. Next week, my hubby's relative will visit and stay at my home a few days. I think I will exhaust. help help !!!

Little Fat Man,

I guess - American Married Chinese. I bought the rice last time, my father said " it's good rice!" hee...hee... Are you plan birthday party for mini-matt?

Natmama,

How's your brother? Did he recovery fast? I hope so. What style of birthday cake did you order for Nataile? It is a wonderful first birthday! Let she eats more her first cake by herself!

Clarab,

I just check my pm and I saw your old message - so I entered to see your album. Elive is growing up more. How's your belly? When is your due date?

Shi_Ibu,

Are you still busy? I also busy, but home chores and spend time with my father.

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發表於 05-7-21 04:12 |只看該作者

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Shiba,
好登你開心呀

你父母會唔會陪產??嗰時99都睇住kurt出世... 大家都十分感動... 真係好寶貴嘅一刻!!
希望大學可以快啲俾到屋你啦... 如果唔係又要再一次

你開始買材料整薑醋未呀?? BabiesRus Summer Sale 呀...可以去掃貨 :mrgreen:

valbee,
阿仔都係全程得第一張識笑... 其他

因為佢眼瞓囉... 唉!影相都要揀啱時間... 難為個攝影師...有扮聲, 有攞晒啲鴨仔, bear bear出嚟, 阿仔都係 :lol:
唔晒太擔心, 到時valarie 一定會笑... 因為佢哋好專業... 你又可以帶定啲佢鍾意嘅玩具o架嘛...
我唔知啲quality點...因為我仲未攞相, 不過望個digital版本都唔錯... 十分期待:mrgreen:
有相就send俾大家睇!!

小肥佬,
真係俾你笑死... 學你話頭, 生完第二件, 一齊減囉!! 士啤呔

natmama,
你個細細佬好番未呀??

natmama &　小肥佬,
預祝你哋兩個小寶貝"生日快樂... 快高長大...聽教聽話!!"
話咁快就一歲, 你哋會點同佢慶祝呢??

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SY_Mom

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發表於 05-7-21 04:24 |只看該作者

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CarinaMommy,

I also live in SJ (north). I've also experienced PPD, til now I'm still fighting with it although my little boy is 2.
I think yr case might be even less serious than mine.
LittleFatMan is right - big babies at birth doesn't mean they're in big sizes as they grow up. My boy was also over 8 lbs and 20 inches at birth (ob doc. always said "small mama big baby", cos i'm only 5 feet. my hubby is 5'8" only and med. size). before he's born, ob doc estimated he's 6+ lbs only and said it's good size for me. however ... what a surprise!!! and maybe that's part of the reason that I had a tough labor (induced for 31+ hrs and ended up with c-section with 2 times vacuum extraction).

btw, our boy's weight had dropped to 25%-tile at 6m after two major sicknesses at 3m and 5m (although it's at 75%-tile at birth). then even dropped to 5 to 10%-tile at 1yr. now i don't even remember what's the %-tile for his weight at 2-yr (somewhere between 10 to 25%-tile, whatever ...)

meanwhile, several of my friends' bbs who were birth at 6+ lbs or even 5+ lbs ended up jumped to the 90-95%-tile by 6m.

having a loving and caring husband to support you for PPD is very important. so, i think u'll get over it pretty soon.

u can email me yr phone number and i'll call you sometime if u don't mine.

leohannah,

are you gonna meet at the Todai in East SJ or the one in Cupertino?? I might or might not be able to make it.

u know what? Dr. Perry Lim go to the same church as ours. while he goes to the English session and we go to the Cantonese session, we don't know each other personally. How do u like him?
He's not our pedi. but he used to work for our pedi. but now he got his own practice.

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發表於 05-7-21 04:57 |只看該作者

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CarinaMommy,

You ask me " Do you think feel better when .....you have the 2nd one .......you have experience?" My answer is " it must better than 1st one, but I think the hormone change is not control by us. I can say if the tears come again and let the tears fall down and no need say see you again! heee...heee...
I am also a postive person, but some situration will make me recall some unhappy thing. I only let the time pass, " tomorrow will much better"

Your bb is a newborn. It is a treasure moment. Let you hold more your lovely bb. Time goes very fast! Like me, my first experience is 2 years la... Although I am very treasure my bb stage, but she is grows more la. Go to next step very fast!

Nilie_Mami,

Work work work= $$$ yeah!!!
When you talking about your story to CarinaMommy. I also recall your story. My tears just fall down, lucky, my father and bb have a nap time. Now, you have a healthy mommy and wife la..... happy ! I still have sick, so moody la!

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