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pyma,
personally, as I was a child care worker before I become a nurse.. I will not let child attend day care before 2.. (suppose not to be .. before 4, but it was impossible for me).
Because they will be very aggressive and either be too independent or will be a very troublesome child.
I sent Amanda to daycare when she turns 2.. as everybody suggest me to go back to workforce, it will help me to recover from postpartum depression and it did.. since Amanda attends daycare.. my swinging mood got settle. Also, day care teachs Amanda for many living skill and social skill, but same as pyma.. she learnt to hit others and bit others when she was 2-3 years old..
I did not blame her, as I know that is the way to growth up.. I just teach her to say "sorry", when she feels upset or if she needs attention, tells the teacher.
as she has "kind of" gifted child, she was noticed and named on the second day of her school life. so when she was 2, she attends 3 years old class, when she turns 3, she attends 3.5-4 years old class, now, she was stuck.. because by new york law, child must be clarified as gifted, to attend 5-6years old class (if they are under 5), Amanda took the exam and we are still waiting for the result.. although, even she is a gifted, too late to attend kinder (for 5-6years old), but we will send her to gifted school for appropiate education.
Is your the only asian in the class?
Gonna tell you, even Amanda did the same thing.. we took her for school interview (kindergarten), and on that day, she told me that she wanna study in the new school. on the following monday, she cried so mad (she is 4.5years old), and told the teacher that she is leaving and going to the new school.. it was a mess and took a few days for her to settle down.
sometimes, not just praise a child, Ignore may be the key to teach the spoiled and dependent child to stop the behaviour which is not acceptable.
For me, when Amanda means to do some naughty thing just wants to catch my attention (when she was young), I did ignore her in some situation.. to stop her, after a while, she will just stop it, as she lost the interest as well.
relax, pyma.. remember, only smart child knows how to make trouble.

原文章由 xother 於 08-3-3 05:20 PM 發表
Nillemami,
Yes, I am skin to skin breastfeed my son. I never use any pump and I dont know how to squeeze it out. Do you still have livein nanny and how much you pay?
I cannot afford to hire a livein ...

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發表於 08-3-4 23:32 |只看該作者

Xother,
our live in nanny is working 6 days, we don't have time frame... as we woke up together.. she will prepare breakfast for Amanda and my husband, after Amanda went to school and my husband went to work, then we will eat breakfast together (if I am off)..
we work together.. we paid USD$1500 per month, and we give her public holiday.
when we have gathering. we will pick her daughter up.. when we travel, we all go together.
she sleeps at the basement and she got 2 bedrooms, one for herself, and one for her and my son.
Now, my nanny is having her long vacation, she is in china.. she will be back at end of this month..
for day care.. I will let my children to attend daycare at least after 2 years old.. (if I can be stay home mom, I would rather send them to day care at their 4 years old..) but.. I can't make it.

hum.. I use the breast pump with Gabriel.. as I returned to work on Gabriel's five months old.. it helps a lot.. and I can reserve all the breastmilk..
hey, as you can stay home for another 2 months.. when will you start to wean skin to skin??

原文章由 xother 於 08-3-3 05:20 PM 發表
Nillemami,
Yes, I am skin to skin breastfeed my son. I never use any pump and I dont know how to squeeze it out. Do you still have livein nanny and how much you pay?
I cannot afford to hire a livein ...

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winnie..
Japanese trip again.. 好羨慕.. ok.. let's when you come back, then we will know.. it is related to the weather and air pollution from hk.

原文章由 winnieyiu 於 08-3-3 09:11 PM 發表

Nillie

我月尾月去日本1 week,睇下返黎會吾會好d就知係 HK 問題定我問題。

Twinsgirl

咩野樹幹呀 ? 哎 ! 天下C6一樣衰。真係前世欠佐佢地嫁。吾好鬼彩佢,我次次嬲 C6都係當佢透明。 ...

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發表於 08-3-5 07:11 |只看該作者

Pyma,
from what I see, your daughter is jealous. Try to talk to her and make sure you tell her that you love her very much and care for her. Regarding to school, you need to tell her that teacher cannot pay too much attention for everyone and since she has grow up alot, then she can take care herself....to make it further, tell her to take care of younger kids as she is a big girl now!

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Nillie
係呀, that’strue, smart kids make troubles.

講樣野你知, kick 兒好底死,係婆婆到住左一輪,返黎識得鬧人痴線,不過我次次聽到都叫佢吾準講,佢再講我就打佢個嘴,所以我係到果陣佢吾敢講,但係我吾係到,或者佢知我聽吾到果陣就鬧 daddy, 不過佢daddy又係衰,成日撩佢。

有一次,daddy 又攪佢,我係kitchen, 當kick兒鬧左個痴字, daddy 就叫 “Mami” Kick 兒望下我就收聲,跟住 daddy 入房, Kick 兒吾份氣, 跟住入去,係 daddy 耳邊細細聲講痴線。

Daddy好衰,仲話佢好 smart。

激死

原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-3-4 23:19 發表
pyma,
personally, as I was a child care worker before I become a nurse.. I will not let child attend day care before 2.. (suppose not to be .. before 4, but it was impossible for me).
Because they wi ...

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winnie,
owyn真係好鬼衰喎, 係都要鬧到daddy痴線至罷休

:;pppp:

nillie,
好啱呀, smart kids make troubles, 相信我vv都係好鬼"聰明"果類, 佢真係超級troubles maker嚟架! 3歲啫, 就識講"我好唔開心"嚟大我地, 日日沖涼前就同我講數話唔洗頭, 又日日都話唔洗返學, 問佢係咪唔鍾意返學又話唔係, 個個老師都好錫佢(婆婆同我都有時去學校"裝"佢), 問佢返學開唔開心佢又話好開心喎, 就係唔答點解話唔返學?!

vv呢兩日喉嚨發炎無返學, 佢又真係好似開心過平時喎, d行為冇平時咁難控制, 真係唔明點解~

原文章由 winnieyiu 於 08-3-5 11:12 發表
Nillie
係呀, that’strue, smart kids make troubles.

講樣野你知, kick 兒好底死,係婆婆到住左一輪,返黎識得鬧人痴線,不過我次次聽到都叫佢吾準講,佢再講我就打佢個嘴,所以我係到果陣佢吾敢講,但係我吾 ...

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pyma,
我都俾唔到咩意見你呀, 事關我vv一樣日日有新煩惱俾我, 不過一有唔開心, 抽d時間上嚟呻吓, 攞吓意見, 睇吓呢度d媽咪嘅睇法, 自己就自自然然過渡左d難關, 尤其是nillie, 佢講左好多關於小朋友成長嘅info我聽, 聽完佢講讓我更了解囡囡每每做出d曵行為背後嘅訊息, 至於點處理, 我個人認為要睇你小朋友受邊套囉, 但係打就一定得唔到長遠嘅效果囉(雖然我都有打過vv

), 有時佢好曵, 激親我, 我會趁佢同我都平伏左, 同佢沖涼時(喺廁所得我地兩個而佢又走唔甩)同佢講道理, 好多時佢都受嘅, 起碼會答我'知道'or'OK', 不過又唔好奢望佢真係唔會有下次喎, 喺佢重犯時咪提吓佢應承過D乜, 俾D耐性去等同埋俾多D時間佢囉, 相信自己嘅小朋友會乖嘅, 自己會好過D架......sorry呀, 有d唔知自己講乜, 不過都係我零零碎碎嘅心得~

要

喇, vv同我兩公婆都病左呀, nite nite~

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發表於 08-3-6 07:09 |只看該作者

Nille,

It is good to know that you have nanny to help you and she has no specific time limit to work. If she is Chinese, Amanda should be easy to pick up Chinese, right? Regarding on breast pump, since my son is 8mth old, I am not planning to have it as it wont last long on breastfeeding. My plan is giving him formular during the day time in daycare and breastfeed morning and night. My daughter was the same before and she was doing fine. I like breastfeeding at night as I can sleep while breastfeeding. Now I can even do it without getting up whole night!

Regarding to daycare, from my personal experience, I prefer to send kids as early as possible, ie, just over 1yrs+. I am opposite to Nillie on this. Kids start learn new things from that time and I prefer them to learn from professional daycare unless you think you have excellent skills. I just visit a daycare today for my son and I am so amaze how much activitivies she offers to kids. Besides kids can easily pick up from kids's eyes. The longer I keep my child at home, the more he will depend on me. Just like my daughter, she was so independent before, but after stay home with me, she went backward!! It is her to ask to go back to after school care!

As my daughter started daycare at 14months, she has no problem to adapt to school. She was telling the other kids to calm down as their mommies will come to pick them up later. It is so funny to see her become a housekeeper/assistant in daycare!

[ 本文章最後由 xother 於 08-3-6 07:11 編輯 ]

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發表於 08-3-6 13:44 |只看該作者

winnieyiu,

我都希望女女係過渡期, 好希望呢個過渡期可以快d過。

Anyway, thanks a lot

pyma

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發表於 08-3-6 14:11 |只看該作者

nillie, xother, jovababy
多謝你們詳細既解釋。我曾經同老師傾談過,老師都說我女在學習上是好好,但當遇到老師照顧其他人而忽略她時,情緒上就會顯得不安,老師說因為女女smart 才有如此反應, 我當時即時和老師說我零願她唔好咁smart, 老師告訴我如她可用這些聰明用在其他事上,如學習等, 會有唔錯既表現, 或者等她大些少,我比好去學下繪畫,音樂等,希望可以有所改善啦。我有想過生多過,等她可以好些, 我真係好想生, 雖然托時好辛苦, 但我c6話無錢, 要等中六合彩先喎, 唉, 我就快到高齡產婦啦..... 算啦,唯有努力工作吧。

謝謝大家, 有個地方比我傾迎訴下真係開心好多。

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發表於 08-3-6 23:18 |只看該作者

pyma,

我都非常想生多一個, 等佢地大個d時有個伴嘛, 我老公都想, 不過我一諗到若果真係多一件, 都唔知可以'失'佢喺邊, 又冇人湊, 我亞媽淨係湊vv一陣(佢返全日幼兒園)都嗌困身, 好似呢幾日vv病左, 雖然唔嚴重, 但我同c6就覺得病梗就唔好返學, 抵抗力低 + 會傳染其他人嘛, 但我亞媽就吟喇, 話我地白交學費喎....如果生多個, 一係就我唔做嘢全職湊bb(半年前試過4個月, 我係癲左, 完全搞唔掂), 一係就請人湊, 種種都係$$$先解決到嘅問題, 所以我都好似你hubby咁講, 等中左六合彩啦, 仲要1注獨中喎, 夠一次過買層樓, 夠養我唔洗做, 喺屋企指揮工人做, 夠.....

.....

都係早去

發返個好夢先~

原文章由 pyma 於 08-3-6 14:11 發表
nillie, xother, jovababy
多謝你們詳細既解釋。我曾經同老師傾談過,老師都說我女在學習上是好好,但當遇到老師照顧其他人而忽略她時,情緒上就會顯得不安,老師說因為女女smart 才有如此反應, 我當時即時和老師說我零 ...

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Hi Nillie, Lorry, Winnie, Louise, Jovababy and all lan c9,

Haven't talked to you for ages. How have you been?
Will go to Tokyo for few days this Sunday.

Winnie, Lorry, Jovababy: shall we get together for lunch before Easter holiday?

I miss u all

avalyl and Nivana

原文章由 jovababy 於 08-3-6 23:18 發表
pyma,

我都非常想生多一個, 等佢地大個d時有個伴嘛, 我老公都想, 不過我一諗到若果真係多一件, 都唔知可以'失'佢喺邊, 又冇人湊, 我亞媽淨係湊vv一陣(佢返全日幼兒園)都嗌困身, 好似呢幾日vv病左, 雖然唔嚴重, 但我 ...

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發表於 08-3-8 10:26 |只看該作者

Avalyl

No problem. Let me know when will you available.

Ohh... Tell me how is the weather in Tokyo then, I will be going on 20/3.

原文章由 avalyl 於 08-3-7 17:18 發表
Hi Nillie, Lorry, Winnie, Louise, Jovababy and all lan c9,

Haven't talked to you for ages. How have you been?
Will go to Tokyo for few days this Sunday.

Winnie, Lorry, Jovababy: shall we get toge ...

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無人
??

等我UP 下野先

放完假,好似咳少左,希望快快好返。

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winnie,

vene都病左個幾兩星期喇, 上星期只係mon有返學, 之後就一直sick leave到今日, 聽日我都唔會俾佢返住, 佢好多痰, 唔肯食中藥, 清唔到, 驚佢返學會傳俾人同埋呢劑未好又野其他病返嚟呀!
c6同我都病埋, 感冒大傷風, 我今日先睇左醫生, 我呢個月都睇左4次喇, 身體真係好差, 以前一年都冇一次傷風, 今次喉嚨發炎睇4次醫生都未好得晒....我d同事都話我weak, 成日病, 有係喎, 嚟左呢間公司做, 肥左兼身體差左....好慘!

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發表於 08-3-10 23:26 |只看該作者

dear all..
All of us are sick in bed
me, gabriel and Amanda..
so.. I did not go online for a long while since last wednesday..
haha.. about second child, you need to have luck..
remember, once 1 of them gets sick, it will spread to the other.. and it is a bad cycle.
Every one knows to keep good hygiene can keep germs away, however, how many moms can make it? Be honest, I tried my best but i couldn't stop it 100 percent.. This flu season is a bit different as I caught flu this time (touch wood, I did catch a flu for so many years)

Good on you guys with the easter holidday..

原文章由 winnieyiu 於 08-3-9 08:52 PM 發表
無人
??

等我UP 下野先

放完假,好似咳少左,希望快快好返。

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原文章由 jovababy 於 08-3-10 23:16 發表
winnie,

vene都病左個幾兩星期喇, 上星期只係mon有返學, 之後就一直sick leave到今日, 聽日我都唔會俾佢返住, 佢好多痰, 唔肯食中藥, 清唔到, 驚佢返學會傳俾人同埋呢劑未好又野其他病返嚟呀!
c6同我都病埋, 感冒大 ...

jovababy,

Hope you husband, Vv and you get well soon....

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原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-3-10 23:26 發表
dear all..
All of us are sick in bed
me, gabriel and Amanda..
so.. I did not go online for a long while since last wednesday..
haha.. about second child, you need to have luck..
remember, once 1 of th ...

Hope you and two smart kids get well soon....

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