我都有讀過吓d課程關於adolescent. 我個女都係14歲, 我又有homestay students, 所以都有一d體會. 就算你待佢如朋友, 但佢又會唔會當你如朋友先,
呢點先重要. 你要知peers對佢地影響係最大嘅,
咁佢同d peers最大興趣係咩呢?
你識唔識呢?
如果你跟本都唔知,唔識或跟唔上, 咁就算你話同佢係friend, 佢都將你排到最後啦, 因你lead唔到佢呀嘛.
係人都知通常佢地同d peers都係傾潮流嘢,
吃喝玩樂, 八掛嘢,
網絡資訊, 電玩, 運動etc, 唔通講學習咩. 如果你知道佢地d 喜好, 又不妨自己都update吓呢方面嘅資訊, 如果有機會同佢講開, 佢發現你識得重多過佢, 佢就算唔同你再講, 但佢內心都一定對你另眼相看. 當然如果可以對電腦方面識多d又係好, 如佢地用用吓部電腦死咗機,但你幫佢救番呢(呢個係我exco-worker 同我講嘅, 有呢d head住佢地, 就冇噤hill張, otherwise they think the parents are very outdated,generation gap, nonsense, etc). 學業上教到佢地更好啦.
發脾氣呢個係自然現象, 佢地一路testyour bottom line. 佢地發第一次脾氣後, 如你就咗佢, 好快佢又會發第二次, 如又就佢,就會第三次etc. 當情況係咁時, 你就要嚴肅d同佢講 (我上次都同我女講) enough, I don’t like it. I’m not your friend, I’m your mom, you need to respect me.
From now on don’t let me see your grumpy face. I don’t need to see it. I need to go outside to cool myself down now before I get mad.