My little ones did not start kicking till about 20 weeks. That's about the time you find out about the sex too, although it doesn't really matter to you. Research actually shows that it's better for the family to have girls than boys. So, I don't understand why some families love having girls. Research show that the worst case scenario is have 2 boys.
About your "family" ... the story is... don't go so far just because you are pregnant. Now, it's backfiring on them. If you have 100K, save it for your own baby. Tell them... please... don't ask for the money... as a give to the your baby's cousin. Use their own words for them. Besides, they have 600K cash from the old place la... use that money for redocoration... Anyways.. SHE won't understand all these, it's in ENGLISH !!! HAHA