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help: how to handle one new born baby and one trouble two kid at the same time

cowcowmama

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發表於 04-4-10 16:55 |顯示全部帖子

help: how to handle one new born baby and one trouble two kid at the same time

hi every experienced mama,

I have just delivered a baby and have a two years old daughter. My mother is taking care of the elder daughter since she was born but she came home every night and slept with us. Now a new born baby comes, she seems understand something wrong, so she always plays her bad temper like crying, throwing the things around and shouting. I feel difficult to take care two of them espeically when she is angry, I need to take care the new born baby like feeding, change diaper, I also need to take rest as i have just discharge from hospital two weeks, it is tough for me to wake up in the mid night and feed baby. I have a maid but she is also a new comer, she also takes me a lot of time to teach and monitor. she only handle the household and cooking the meal. Since she is doing everything in slow motion, it seems she cannot help me to take care the baby and I also don\t dare to pass the kids to her at this moment. My mother will take my elder daughter to her home at night, and take her to my home next day as my husband miss her very much. I feel hard to take care two baby at the same time. I need to work after maternity leave, at that time, my mother will take my place. I just worried she may have same problem. Pls teach me how to do if you have any similar experience.

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JimVan

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發表於 04-4-12 07:52 |顯示全部帖子

Re: help: how to handle one new born baby and one trouble two kid at the same ti

cowcowmama,
先恭喜你生左個新 bb, 一個湊兩個一 d 都唔容易, 而你又要休息。你有工人幫手料理家務同煮飯, 其實已經好好多, 你囡囡而家係夜晚返你度訓, 定係日頭o係你度呢？如果你真係擔心佢既情緒問題, 我建議你, 如果可行的話, 在你坐月期間, 畀佢多 d 係你身邊, 一來佢而家做左家姐, 小心靈可能覺得自己已失寵, 所以行為表現會希望得到你既注意, 多 d 畀佢係你身邊, 等佢睇下你點照顧 bb, 同時解釋畀佢知點解你要多 d 時間照顧 bb ; 二來, 初生 bb 好多時都訓, 趁呢 d 時間, 多 d 同大女玩, 傾談, 等佢知道你仍然好珍惜同佢一齊, 又一樣好錫佢。如果佢一向都係由你媽咪照顧, bb 出世後, 佢既感覺唔同左, 會以為你唔理佢......
我細女出世時, 大仔兩歲半, 妹妹出世前, 我已經同大仔洗腦咁, 話佢知妹妹出世後既各樣情況同轉變, 但小朋友始終未必完全明白, 到妹妹出世後, 真係要更多時間畀大仔, 至能令佢唔會覺得媽咪畀妹妹搶左去！

珍惜生命、把握今天，因為仍活著不是偶然，也不是必然！ :-P

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cowcowmama

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發表於 04-4-20 18:45 |顯示全部帖子

Re: help: how to handle one new born baby and one trouble two kid at the same ti

hi Jim Van,

Thanks a lot for your advice. I am also thinking the way to have more time with elder daughter. Her reaction is understandable as she is now staying with my parents. when my mother takes her to my place, sometimes I am taking care of little one, sometimes I talk to my mother this and that, frankly speaking, I don't have private time with elder one. I think she must feel being ignored.

But when she is around with me, she always make me at a loss, she will beat little one, disturb her sleeping etc. she also will shout and cry that make me very unhappy and ask my mother to take her to leave. I have tried my best to talk to her but she seems not understand and happy.

I will take her to dinner outside tonight although I am still in "sitting moon", I feel very sad when I see her leaving me in tears. It is really a difficult problem to me now. I am so scared when I face her playing bad temper but I will try my best to give more time to her. I really hope this month pass quickly.

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