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非常硬脛, 死不低頭, 怎樣教?

呢兩日, 我個仔又開始發癲:

1. 我將佢d玩具放係個櫃, 每次佢玩時, 會將所有玩具一件件掟出黎, 掟到成個廰都係. 叫左好多次唔可以掟野, 但佢當你無到, 繼續掟

2. 掟完後, 有時就去玩下d玩具, 但都係玩一陣

3. 過一陣, 叫佢個名, 唔理你, 叫足5次, 都唔理, 繼續叫(開始變成大叫), 10次可能有一次會望下你, 但唔會過黎你果度

4. 開始叫佢執好d玩具(係好聲好氣), 佢就"唔"你, (即唔執), 再叫佢, 佢都唔理你, 再叫再叫, 佢就開始唔老黎, 發脾氣, 喊, 再叫佢執, 唔執, 死都唔執, 到最後我發火閙佢, 佢就喊大聲d, 到最後都冇執

5. 有時我仲係心情ok時, 我都會拿住地下d玩具, 放係佢手, 之後等佢再放返落個櫃, 但都不是萬試萬靈, 就算我肯幫佢, 佢都死唔肯執就唔執, 死不低頭.

6. 心情唔好時, 真係閙佢一身, 最後都係自己執左d玩具,

但事情無解決過, 佢又重覆再掟野, 我可以點做? 好聲好氣佢唔聽, 甚至唔理我, 要我發惡佢至肯做少少野, 我頂唔順有一日會打鍋佢甘!

有咩方法可以話佢知(1.5歲男仔)掟野係唔啱, 唔可以掟? 有咩方法可以教佢玩完要執好d野?

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Re: 非常硬脛, 死不低頭, 怎樣教?

sa2501 說得對對對....都係嗰句, 要做俾佢睇

我個仔2歲4個月, 都係一樣, 你越大聲佢越大聲, 我試下細細聲, 得左! 又試下我地自己執, 一路執一路話媽咪真係乖, 邊個真係真係乖, 咁佢又走埋黎....

但係, 我係完全明白佢唔應唔睬你既時候既忟憎~ 真係唔係下下做到咁calm架~~

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Re: 非常硬脛, 死不低頭, 怎樣教?

好火

我今日教佢識mirror, 咁咪囉塊鏡出俾佢睇, 佢又要囉黎玩, 玩左一陣叫佢俾返我, 唔肯俾, 就一手掟落地下, 塊鏡就咁爛晒, 成地玻璃.

我收拾好後, 立刻罰佢企, 開始時唔肯企, 之後企左一陣, 但我完全唔知佢有冇悔意, 只知佢企企下笑, 所以我覺得佢以為冇事發生. 我覺得呢個情況要打至可以令佢明白事情嚴重, 佢掟得一樣, 又可以掟另一樣, 佢去到人地屋企都係咁掟人地d野, 不可接受既可惡行為.

但最後我無打佢, sa2501 你唔讚成打, 你認為可以只靠講道理可以教好個仔, 我覺得唔係好work. 因佢太細個, 只講道理, 佢唔會明, 只會以為係小事.

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Re: 非常硬脛, 死不低頭, 怎樣教?

SErisson,

You know what, I was like you when my daughter was smaller and she was exactly like your son. She throw things and doesn't want to clean up, doesn't listen to me. I was soooooooooo "mung" when i tell her things nicely and she ignores me. i started yelling at her and hit her. Right now my daughter is 2.5 yrs old and her temper is even worst than when she was 1.5 yrs old. I really regret I hit and yell at her just because I can't control my temper before. She did learned all my temper right now and it's really hard to train her back even I am now trying to talk to her nicely. What the other mom said was really true, her attitute and temper will get worst if you hit and yell at your BB, right now I am suffering from all I've done. I know it's really hard to control our temper but I guess we'll have to try our best to do it. Even now I'll get sooooooooooo "mung" that i really want to hit her and yell at her too (well......sometimes I still can't control myself and did that), but I guess there's nothing we can do other than controlling our temper and reason with your child. Try your best, it's really hard.

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sa2501,

So good you can control your son. When I bring my daughter to the supermarket, I put her in the shopping cart and she can just jump right out !! I scared to death. Even in strollers or carseat or highchair, she can unfasten the seatbelt and just out of there (she can jump out even the seatbelts are still on, remember the seatbelts are already the 5 points style seatbelts). Also my daughter is very strong, she can pull out the tray on the highchair(without pushing the buttons on the sides)and jump right out. Many times she pulled out the tray and dropped all her food on the floor. The worst time was pasta in tomato sauce :-( :-( :-( , the tomato sauce was all over the carpet and I cleaned like hell.

Even my doctor said she is a FIGHTER !! Anyways, I'm using SandraLo's and your method to teach her now and I'll keep on doing it. Even tho she ignores me. I'll still try my best.

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Yeah !! right now when I bring her out to the supermarket, I'll bring a small pack of pocky sticks (not the chocolate ones) so I'll have to hurry do my grocery shoppings before she finish the whole thing !! Once she's done with it, she will jump out.

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我個仔上星期感冒, 非常痴身, 我又大緊肚, 行開一步都唔得, 都算啦, 依家連我都被佢傳染左, 勁流鼻水, 佢又流, 我又流, 我病到死死下, 仲有心情同佢玩野咩!

佢一少少唔順意就喊, 發脾氣, 有次頂唔順, 打左佢一鍋, 因為佢又掟野, 我都好想發脾氣, 病左仲要照顧佢, 又煲呢樣, 又煲果樣, 成晚瞓唔到, 瞓瞓下佢又喊, 一晚起幾次身, 根本無人幫到我, 我老公瞓到隻死豬咁, 早上問佢尋晚聽唔聽到阿b係咁咳, 佢話"冇喎"! 我情願做我老公, 唔好咁醒瞓, 聽唔到算, 起碼有得瞓先!

我老公話佢細個時都係非常硬脛, 呢d咁既野, 我要留返俾佢教, 因佢阿B未出世時佢大大聲話會教佢野, 我負責照顧起居飲食, 佢依家乜都唔做, 我實唔放過佢!

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我諗如果我唔使分分鐘見住個仔, 應該會脾氣好d!

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SErisson,

Yes, being a full-time mom is more stressful than other ppl think. Others will think they have to go to work and they should be the one that has more stress. In their eyes, we don't need to work and we can rest. But the story isn't like that. I wish I can go back to work too, I'm so stressed out by my daughter too. I guess you'll have to relax a bit, try to go out with friends sometimes and leave your son to your husbund. Before I was scared that my husbund will not be able to handle my daughter when I'm gone, of course he will not do the best job out of it but we all need to let go sometimes. Just twice a mth will be a relief for you too.

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SEricsson,

我係舉腳反對打仔既, 真係架, 你信我啦, 我同sa2501既情況好似, 我從來未打過我囡囡, 佢依家就快三歲啦, touch wood, so far ok 喎. 當然佢都會有發"din"既時侯, 但係坦白講, 真係好少. 我覺得兩歲前既小朋友仲係好細, 集中精神既時間好短, 我地yeeyee umum , 佢地唔知媽咪做咩係咁瓜瓜嘈, 更加無可能明白大人講既所謂道理, 所以我地要簡單d講比佢知, 同一件事要講幾十次, 你個仔仲咁細, 放寬d對佢既要求啦. 我囡囡到依家都唔係好肯執玩具, 我會幫佢執, 叫佢幫吓手, 我又扮到好似好tired, 好辛苦咁 .. 一路執, 一路講吓笑, 自己娛樂一下, 唔駛咁認真.

好似我個女有次掉晒d毛公仔落地, 仲走埋去用腳踩, 當時佢大概兩歲. 我即刻抱起d公仔, 問佢地痛唔痛, 跟住同囡囡講 "佢地喊喊, 你整到佢地痛痛呀, 佢地唔開心啦, 你hor番佢地啦". 佢答 "我制" 跟住再掃晒佢地落地, 踩踩, 我又抱起d公仔, 問佢地痛唔痛.. 如是者重複又重複. 我全程都係冷認真咁同d公仔講野 ... 跟住我話: "媽咪hor番佢地先, shek晒佢地啦, bb得番一個人囉, 無公仔同佢玩囉, 公仔驚驚bb, bb打人既, 媽咪都驚驚" ... 佢嘩一聲就喊左出黎, 我抱住佢, hor番佢, 同佢話媽咪最shek係bb, 好乖既bb, bb要乖乖, 唔好蝦d公仔啦. 一陣之後佢就無事啦. 之後都有一兩次掉公仔落地 ..不知不覺咁佢就無再蝦d公仔啦. 我覺得佢最怕媽咪唔彩佢, 我就用呢樣野黎慢慢教佢啦. 同仔女既親蜜關係, 係教導佢地最好, 最有效既工具. 所謂公欲善其事, 必先利其器, 要小朋友聽你點, 首先你地之間既關係要好. 打 .. 係好錯架, 直接破壞大家既關係, 傷害感情, 結果 ... 越來越難教.

SEricsson 寫道:
我個仔上星期感冒, 非常痴身, 我又大緊肚, 行開一步都唔得, 都算啦, 依家連我都被佢傳染左, 勁流鼻水, 佢又流, 我又流, 我病到死死下, 仲有心情同佢玩野咩!

佢一少少唔順意就喊, 發脾氣, 有次頂唔順, 打左佢一鍋, 因為佢又掟野, 我都好想發脾氣, 病左仲要照顧佢, 又煲呢樣, 又煲果樣, 成晚瞓唔到, 瞓瞓下佢又喊, 一晚起幾次身, 根本無人幫到我, 我老公瞓到隻死豬咁, 早上問佢尋晚聽唔聽到阿b係咁咳, 佢話"冇喎"! 我情願做我老公, 唔好咁醒瞓, 聽唔到算, 起碼有得瞓先!

我老公話佢細個時都係非常硬脛, 呢d咁既野, 我要留返俾佢教, 因佢阿B未出世時佢大大聲話會教佢野, 我負責照顧起居飲食, 佢依家乜都唔做, 我實唔放過佢!

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Re: 非常硬脛, 死不低頭, 怎樣教?

I'd choose another approach, if you don't like your toys, fine I will give them to those children who have no toys. AND I'll choose the toy you loke most because you have too much and some children have nothing.

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Re: 非常硬脛, 死不低頭, 怎樣教?

ChloeMammy,

其實我係咪真係太緊張, 要求太高呢? 有個朋友同我講, 話我個仔呢個年齡最鍾意掟野, 所以佢叫我買d可以掟既野俾佢掟.

係咪真係俾佢掟夠佢就唔會掟呢? 定係由得佢掟, 但係每次掟就話下佢呢?

我依家咳到死, 都冇乜氣想出聲, 有時真係連講句野都唔想講, 但係我覺得唔理佢, 唔出聲只會變本加厲. 定係我自己執返d野算? (有時我真係想自己執左佢冇咁勞氣, 但會唔會"種"佢呢?)

都唔明一個豆丁點解搞到咁煩, 如果你問我, 出去做野, 遇到d衰人我仲容易搞, 但遇到呢個豆丁, 有d綁手綁腳既壓力!

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b9lingling,

我諗住生埋呢個, 2年後會送細b讀書, 讀full day, 咁會有多d時間做下自己野, 有時都會諗返起返工既日子, 雖然返工有返工既問題, 但放左工就係自己時間.

我諗我都會按排阿仔每2個星期去99度玩一日, 咁我就可以休息下, 做下自己野, 依家夜晚我要做freelance, 所以壓力會更大, 如果夜晚我瞓得唔好, 我知自己第二日精神差, 會好容易忟, 阿仔通常都會成為受害者 (我認呢樣係我錯, 所以要諗辦法解決)

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