I'm also thinking of divorce recently. My husband is also a good man outside the home but he's actually v. bad tempered. Being a working mother, I have the pressure of working, look after my 2.5 yr old daughter, my maid and family. My husband only has the pressure of working (he works at China). When he's at home (1-2 days a week), he kept scolding me of everything and is getting more n more bad tempered. He even yelled at me using bad language in front of my daughter. I think I need my man who appreciate my effort to the family and hug me at nite and not a 'big man'. But I'm just concerning my daughter....
I tried to be calm for the past few mths and reminded him when he lost temper. But he seemed to be even more crazy w/o regret. He has great pressure on his work, but I also has dignity.