I actually have the same thinking as Vkwan and HKU_LLM, I think the problem actually lies between Pegbrian and her husband. This 3rd woman might leave, and the next one might come along. It is like a cycle. He definitely has the upperhand.
Has pegbrain been complaining about the life in Indo? And constantly reminding her husband how much she gave up to come here? And always talk about how civilised and advanced HK is?
I see many men (fininacially sound) in SE asia keeping second wives and mistresses (some even have children with them) but they don't divorce their first wives. They still support both families (somehow they see it as their responsibilies) Almost all of the time the first wives will accept things as they are.
I am not sure what has happened between Pegbrian and her husband but I do not think it is a good idea for Peg to return to Hong Kong, unless she has decided to leave her husband for good. I can see that the moment she leaves, her place will be replaced. (By doing so she is giving up her position. In Indo it is not appropriate for the wife to leave. Her husband might even heap the blame on her for destroying their marriage. Nobody will know why she left, they might think it's her fault in the first place and that's why her husband has to find another woman etc etc)
Clearly, people's thinking are very different. Women assume a more submissive role in Indo. Just like women in HK 40 years back.
Right now I sense that Peg's husband is still very angry with her. Pegbrian, You have to choose: The only choice you can make is to leave him and get a divorce OR stay with him but swallow all that. Secure your future and make sure you have properties and money etc. If you choose to stay, there is a chance he might not get better. All you can do is to wait for the affair to die out and hope that the third woman is not manipulative and money minded, else it is going to be a tough battle.
As you are aware, many women are willing to be mistresses if their lifes are well taken care of.
就算你傷心，都要為現實問題而籌謀，所以"Secure your future and make sure you have properties and money etc."
我老豆件事要5年先解決到，唔多唔小都係"wait for the affair to die out "，雖然對你講事實可能好殘忍，但你都要面對現實。男人已變心，好難回頭，e+問題係我地唔確定個c6 angry with peg的成數居多？還是變心的成數居多？如果只係angry，而出面果件只視為逢場作慶，其實可能有機會save。
路過，個人意見：
我覺得無人老公會為左嬲個老婆or要罰個老婆而去攪婚外情既....除非Peg老公咁好戲，佈一個局黎測驗Peg，想Peg改改喇，否則Peg老公個心已經響第二個女人個度就已經好明顯喇！我諗亦無謂爭論or研究係因為Peg對老公唔夠好，老公先去滾or老公根本係衰人而推波比Peg，反正Peg老公出面有女人已經係鐵一般既事實，而依家對Peg既態度又衰到咁，我地無謂再叫Peg做d咩去討好個老公喇，因為一定係會嘥氣之餘，又難為Peg(正所謂江生易改，品性難移嘛)....我地要明白當老公個心唔響你度時，你做咩都係無用架，仲會衰到你做咩都會乞佢憎tim！至於佢仲唔提同Peg離婚，可能其中一個原因係為左面子，因為佢自己係生意人，唔想比人講閒話，又或者個情婦仲未夠power令佢要同Peg離婚, etc...不過點都好，我覺得Peg依家做咩都無用架喇，如果仲抱有一絲希望既話，依家不妨咩都唔做，照舊同個仔好似以前一樣咁生活，老公如果返屋企就比個仔同佢玩下咁，自己唔使特別對老公好or衰，當佢透明咁，靜觀其變，因為有時有d人係咁架，你進佢就退，反而你退時，佢可能會進都未定....當然Peg私底下一定要同律師check清楚自己有咩權利可以攞到，因為真係要為以後既生活打算一下(知多d，就算第時好彩可以響返埋一黎都無蝕底嘛)。
我見過好多做情婦既，其實一d都唔似係情婦，唔講仲以為係工人tim...所以老公外面有女人好多時唔係因為個老婆唔夠好，而係'機會'問題....咁啱果刻雙方有feel，而當事人如果搵到excuse 去convince自己咁去做係啱or no big deal既話就會出事....Peg同老公當年有愛情蓋過一切，老公就可以包容or忍Peg，依家好明顯愛情已經過左期，剩低既感情又唔能夠蓋過對方既缺點or抵禦外間誘惑....
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