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發表於 05-7-12 08:00 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

我明白你意思. i and husband seems only have 感/親情. i never think i need to find the best, but my husband couldn't give me the feeling which i really want from the beginning. until i knew this guy, he really can give me that feeling which i expected even he's not handsom. my husband was my colleagues in secondary schcool, we were together and broken down at that time because he can't gave me the special feeling even i knew him love me very much. Before i got married with him, i had 1 guy who was my 1st real boy friend and we kept on for 5 years and then broken up because he had a other girl friend. At time time, my heart was broken and painful. My husband was still besides me and cared me. I knew the feeling was different, but i didn't think i would love another guy again, therefore i tried together with him. Normally we got married after 5 years since my mother was starting to push it. After i got married and my job had something changed, so i planned to go to Canada for english studing for 3 months as i told before. In before, i really didn't think i still had love to another guy, i only wanted to find a person to my listener. So i knew him even before i went to Canada. Actually i didn't know why/when i was starting the special feeling to him. maybe 不知不覺i let him in my heart which i didn't know. of course i didn't expect we had chance before because he knew i already got married at the beginning. but how come ??? i really can't control myself at this moment and i know the boy is good to me therefore he need to stop this relationship. maybe you are right, it's a habbit. but how can i do at this moment ????? i can see him in msn or icq (he's in canada now), but when i see him i can't not calm down myself even i'm trying to calm down now. Suddently i feel lonely......if i were a wish, maybe i wanted to come back before got married, then i think everything could be changed. Timing is really important..................he told me that he need to stop and control himself but he will not force to put me down by himself because it's his memory which nobody can take it out...i think his EQ is better than me...

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發表於 05-7-12 09:48 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

感情這回事, 的確是知而行難. 很多事, 按理性去分析, 都會明白是不應該和不對; 但感覺這傢伙, 不到你去控制. 很羨慕這裡有很多媽媽都活在幸福和愛中......

我也在學習控制情感, 叫自己不要在感情上放縱.

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發表於 05-7-12 11:40 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

blueberybb,

每一個女人都很喜歡被愛, 被關心, 他能夠以"我為中心"的感覺, 我想這種feel便是愛情。
我以前也有這種feel, 我覺得同我老公沒有這種感覺, 那時我和他互相的感覺都很強烈(我和他各自有children和一向都是朋友), 正如你所講不知不覺開始了，這種無花果的愛情很快便結果。思想上我知要放棄，但行為上我做不到。

如我再選擇, 我寧願將這種feel藏在心中，其實愛情都會
隨時間而變成感情。

請考慮清楚你的小朋友, 既然他都選擇放手，你便抽身吧。初初一定不習慣，心情不停起伏，放多些時間落小朋友身上，時間一"定"會令事情冲淡。

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發表於 05-7-12 11:56 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

Eana,

妳完完全全說出了我的感受和想法.
把這感覺藏在心中, 會保留得比較美好.
在這刻, 如果問我在離開這世界時最想見到的是誰, 我知道會是'他'.

'最愛是誰', 是一首很觸動我心的歌. :cry:

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發表於 05-7-12 13:36 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

then what's your result ???

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發表於 05-7-12 13:38 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

eana,

then what's your selection ? could you mind to tell me ?

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發表於 05-7-12 13:45 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

after discussing with him, he said he will still care of me..still want to be my listener. do you think he can do this and do you think i can do this ???? i just know i can't do this at this moment.

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發表於 05-7-12 14:41 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

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發表於 05-7-12 16:49 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

我不再哭了. 執筆寫著信, 我要告訴他, 我終於搞清楚我們的感情. 我被他的文字滋潤了枯井, 被他聲音溶化了冰心. 我終於相信丈夫不是我的MR. RIGHT, 奈何我沒先認識跟我心靈相通的他.

在道德的枷鎖下, 朋友好言權告, 叫我不要愛下去. 他們不願看著我成為不貞的女人. 在精神上背叛了丈夫, 我想我是該死的. 更該死的是我那麼早就決定了終生大事. 為什麼...我不能預知未來, 或是讓我早點遇上他.

命運真會玩弄人...為了責任, 我不得不放下他. 我又哼著歌,
"吻下來　
豁出去　
這吻別似覆水
再來也許要天上團聚

再回頭　
你不許　
如曾經不登對
你何以雙眼好像流淚"

這次, 我沒有哭, 已欲哭無淚了.

(故事寫完了.)

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發表於 05-7-12 19:10 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

blueberrybb,

我們已各自返回我們的伴侶身邊, 我們的一齊會影响到我們兩個family(4個人), 小朋友影响最大。而我都不想對不起我老公(他沒有錯的)。如果我們一齊, 我們要面對很多問題。

而你們的感情只會越來越深, 你只會感到越來越辛苦。 :cry:

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發表於 05-7-12 19:27 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

blueberrybb,

我明白感覺呢樣嘢真係好難控制既...不過,始終都要理智啲去諗問題,要知道若然同第三者發展進一步既關係,你將來既後果會係點,講得衰啲,個男人冧你時梗係講盡好話,唔係話佢一定同你講大話吹水,而係情到濃時,好多時人就會响唔諗清楚既情況吓不斷許下承諾,講真,你老公都係一心諗住養你照顧你愛你一世至會同你結婚,依家佢為咗糊口而少咗時間陪你,但都唔係佢錯,我同意人响寂寞既時候遇到個傾到心事既人係件好事,但係如果大家都對對方有FEEL,我覺得為免做錯決定誤咗自己甚至仔女,你同佢應該唔好再繼續來往,我知道初頭你會好辛苦要適應又要時間令感情轉淡,但係總好過就咁俾自己沉迷落去,令到日後有更多更痛苦又麻煩既事發生...

你試諗吓你老公平日對你點,剔除佢要成日番大陸工作既問題,查實佢都係一個好爸爸好老公,好坦白講,個個男人都係差唔多架咋,差在有無去滾同埋傷害你,呢刻你梗係只會睇到對方既好,睇唔到佢既缺點(我指第三者)啦,講真有邊個追緊人/拍緊拖時唔會收埋自己唔好既缺點.到你真係得到佢又點,佢會唔會好似依家咁珍惜你,一世都對你不變?有時响適當既時候要自己學會點去理智點.

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發表於 05-7-12 22:07 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

marthana,

我也很喜歌"最愛是誰"這首歌。

有時得不到的愛情是最完美的，最值得懐念的。我和他現正"天各一方", 但當我再見他時, 那一刻我是很想念他。

人的感情真是很難想像和控制, 雖然明知是不應該做的事, 都不能控制地發生。

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發表於 05-7-12 22:31 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

我細心想過
停在今天這一處也不錯
越過知己的親密然而未有擁吻過
共你這麼的曖昧已得到甚多

無論你喜歡誰請你記住留下給我這位置
時常在內心一隅空出幾寸為我堅持
同度半生亦有張椅子是否愛還是其次
只想你依然亦想得起我不是任你處置

若你珍惜我不如從來沒有愛戀過
互有好感的尊重更加可貴麼

無論你喜歡誰請你記住留下給我這位置
時常在內心一隅空出幾寸為我堅持
同度半生亦有張椅子是否愛還是其次
比不上戀人
但廝守一輩子

無論你喜歡誰
請你繼續留下身邊這個位置
時常在內心一隅剩低幾寸
留給這女子
誰共你好都不礙事
我都會衷心支持
未必所有關係亦受得起刺激
但我可以....

虔誠地熱戀一輩子
共你也許真的不容易
喜歡你最好不要講
安守這位置

:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

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發表於 05-7-12 22:55 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

blueberrybb,

我知你捨不得離開他，正如我當時和他一起的時候，我每曰都想聽到他的聲音, 他溫柔，細心, 和我老公比較完全兩種style 的人。雖然我知背叛了我老公, 我不能控制自己。我試過半夜起身喊，我真是很辛苦。

現實歸於現實, 初初是他喜歡我多過我喜歡他，後來我發覺我對他的感情越來越深，我感到很痛苦和矛盾，感情放了出去便很難收, 男人和女人不同，男人得不到你，他便會永遠想念你。

沒有結果的愛情，請放手吧，就在心中永遠留着最浪漫的回憶。

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發表於 05-7-12 23:15 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

Eana,

i know i should 放手. This month i cried a lot and really tired. Even now, i only can cry during get on the bus or taking shower because i afraid someone aware it. you know 5 years is not short time. When i was prenant, i went to my mom's house for dinner everyday, then he could wait for me at downstair of my mom's house and pick me to my house afterwards. He really good to me at that moment. Maybe i think he will good to me forever, therefore maybe i can't accept he decided to give me up. He said that no one can know what's going on in future, but i can feel this time he really so hard to me. Anyway, i only can try to leave him. But how can i still keep the friendship with him at this moment ??? i think i can't stop the contact to him.

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發表於 05-7-12 23:16 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

Eana 寫道:
blueberrybb,

我們已各自返回我們的伴侶身邊, 我們的一齊會影响到我們兩個family(4個人), 小朋友影响最大。而我都不想對不起我老公(他沒有錯的)。如果我們一齊, 我們要面對很多問題。

而你們的感情只會越來越深, 你只會感到越來越辛苦。 :cry:

Eana 幸好你回頭是岸呀. 同我之前既做法一樣.

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發表於 05-7-12 23:22 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

blueberrybb 寫道:
Eana,

i know i should 放手. This month i cried a lot and really tired. Even now, i only can cry during get on the bus or taking shower because i afraid someone aware it. you know 5 years is not short time. When i was prenant, i went to my mom's house for dinner everyday, then he could wait for me at downstair of my mom's house and pick me to my house afterwards. He really good to me at that moment. Maybe i think he will good to me forever, therefore maybe i can't accept he decided to give me up. He said that no one can know what's going on in future, but i can feel this time he really so hard to me. Anyway, i only can try to leave him. But how can i still keep the friendship with him at this moment ??? i think i can't stop the contact to him.

blueberrybb
勸你一句, 你而家唔放手, 到最後傷得最慘個個一定係你自己, 我好明白你感受, 因為我都試過. 時間真係可以幫到你的.

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發表於 05-7-12 23:34 |只看該作者

Re: 愛上別人

do i really 放手 ? for my husband, i don't have any feeling with him right now. i afraid that i probably still will separte with him even no this guy.

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