i already got married for 5 years and i have 2 childrens who are 4 years and 2 months. Recently, i found i loved a guy who i knew him 5 years already. We met in interent before i got married. At that time, we only use email for contact as normal friend. After that we talked with each other by phone. Almost 1 year later, we had a feeling with each other. However, suddently i was prenant of my 1st baby. We knew we should keep control the feeling, but he cared me and helped me a lot as my husband because my husband always go to China for work. After my 1st baby born out and bigger, he still good to me therefore we still kept as best friend relationship each other even i knew he loved me.And he said he will wait me because he know i and my husband which the relationship is so far so good. Suddently i had 2nd baby which i unexpected, but i still born out because baby is innocent. And i believe i will put him down because he loved me more than i like him. Recently he told me that he need to give me up because i need to keep my baby in normal way to growth up. Suddently, my heart feel pain and i know i can't forget him. Pls advise your opinion for me.
請恕我直言,我覺得係你俾機會佢先會大家有had a feeling with each other,你話"he cared me and helped me a lot as my husband because my husband always go to China for work."可能你老公唔0係你身邊先會發展成咁,反而我覺得佢比你理智.
I have this experience 2 years ago. A guy who studied in Australia and I knew him through ICQ. As that time, I felt lonely cos I had broken up with my ex-bf. Therefore, I was easily built up the relationship with the guy. I always told and shared my bad feelings with him via ICQ or long-distance call. He gave me a warm feeling so I though I fell in love with him. Finally, it was a wrong feeling turly.
Do you understand why you feel fall in love with your net-friend? It is because you share your feeling with him, not your husband. Your net friend is a listener or closer-friend only in your real life. Actually, you can change the sharing object to your husband in the future.
Please give clear of your mine and treasure your family.
thanks for your opinion. i think i need to explain clearly. After i got married, i wanted to improve my english therefore i went to canada for 3 months. During this period, we got a very good relationship even he was in HK because we talked everyday by phone. After i come back to HK, we had first met and then build up the relationship very fast. Although we didn't have affair relationship, but the speech and feeling are as boy friend. He cared me more than my husband. We always go out as best friend. We had kept this relationship for 4 years lar...he also good to me/my kids and always besides me whenever i need. That's why i feel so touching for him. At the beginning, i guessed i had put him down already, it maybe i can find him whenever i need him. Therefore i ddin't think i care of him. Until he went to Canada(he will come back after 3 months) because his family is overthere. When i can't hear his voice or receive his email, then i feel i miss him so much. At that time, i'm starting to know i still care of him. Even i know very well i can't do it. Of course i know i need to care my kids, that's why i can't do anything unyil now. But i afraid that i can't control my feeling at this moment.
This kind of fantasy is not real. Please keepit as one of your good memories and do not ruin this by continuing the affair.
I am sure that you will have very very bad result if you keep on loving this guy.
You both have a family ,please turn back to your family as soon as possible .
Time may cure your pain if there's any.
i did think my husband and my kids. I know very well which i must to do and not. But hope you understand i also did control myself before. If i met him 1 year eariler (before i got married) or i loved my husband more, i think everything will be smooth. Actually, i'm now still remind myself always even my heart feels very painful and i can't control the tears come out from my eyes.
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