Happy Birthday and wish you all the best throughout the year!
Maybe Im wrong, but I hope you understand for nearly 9 years' marriage, you shouldn't be angry for this simple thing, just as he said this is him and you can't change his character. Why not spend more time to celebrate with daughter all together and make a wish?
Later on, you can express your feel on this case and sincerely request him to compromize with each other to success.
" Tender love is blind and it requires a dedication "
For you a love song : Islands in the stream (Kenny Rogers)
Be happy and see you next time^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^