Don't give up and don't feel too depressed lar ... I fully understand your situation, feeling very helpless since you have no choice, your husband relies much on his parents and I assume you live with your 6299, if it is the case, it's indeed very difficult to change. RELAX .. you can't change your 99 but you can change yourself, right. I believe LOVE is the most powerful tool (weapon?), what you can do is to stick to the method that you feel confortable (no hitting at all) and apply it to your son ALL THE TIME, no matter when & where .. 你改變唔到你９９唔緊要架， 講真， 好難改變上一代人既思想， 始終佢地所經歷過既野我地唔知， 亦唔識． 改變其他人難， 只好改變自己． 你唔需要理你９９點對你個仔， 你只要做番本份， 用番係既方法去教． 小朋友會ｋｎｏｗ the ｄｉｆｆｅｒｅｎｃｅ ．．真架， 佢一定會ａｐｐｒｅｃｉａｔｅ你個套多ｄ． 當你地關係再好ｄ， 而你奶奶依然係咁， 你可以開始輔導你個仔， ｅｇ ９９打佢， 如果你在場， 一定要保護佢， 阻止你９９打佢， 又或者帶佢離開現場一陣， 可以話落公園坐一陣． 跟住就安撫你個仔， 問佢痛嗎， 當然要ｈｏｒ番佢． 跟住同佢話 ”ｇｒａｎｄａｍａ其實好ｌｏｖｅ你架， 佢打你因為你太ｎａｕｇｈｔｙ， 佢想你聽話 ．． 因為ｇｒａｎｄｍａ細個佢媽咪都係成日打佢， 所以ｇｒａｎｄｍａ就學左佢囉． 但係媽咪唔會打你架， 我知道打你你好痛， 會唔開心架． 你乖乖地， ｇｒａｎｄｍａ就唔會打你架啦． 你聽話個個都會ｌｏｖｅ你， 唔會打你架． 媽咪都會同ｇｒａｎｄｍａ講， 唔好打囝囝呀， 好痛架． 媽咪ｌｏｖｅ ｙｏｕ very ｍｕｃｈ”． ｗｅｅｋｅｎｄ 你盡可能一家三口出去玩 （離開一下）， 去下公園， 商場咁， 親子樂． 而平日你盡量多ｄ落手照顧囝囝， 例如晚餐一定坐你隔離， 由你喂或睇住佢食． 食飽飯你陪佢玩， 同佢睇下書． 或者帶佢落街行一陣． 你同佢仔越ｃｌｏｓｅ， 佢越聽話． 當然你要付出所有既時間 .. after 9 hours ｏｆ office work ...再start另一份more ｄｅｍａｎｄ ｗｏｒｋ． 信我啦， ｉｔ works. 細佬仔係好簡單， 你ｌｏｖｅ佢， 佢ｌｏｖｅ你， 你聽佢話， 佢自然聽你話． 我囡囡兩歲幾， 我從來無打過佢． 佢歲半至兩歲其間， 打過三幾次手仔， 係因為佢去ｔｏｕｃｈ煤氣爐， 有危險． 自從幾個月前去惠ｘ幼兒學堂聽左一個兒童心理學家既一席話， 自此連打手仔都無． 我自己覺得囡囡都幾乖， 而且好聽我講． 當然係婆婆度就ｎａｕｇｈｔｙ一ｄ． 係婆婆度我通常唔會鬧佢， 除非真係好過份． 婆婆超ｓｈｅｋ佢， 唔會打． 呢方面我比較好彩， 始終上一代既湊法同我地既ｌｕｍ法有距離． 我明白湊仔真係好辛苦， 所以好ａｐｐｒｅｃｉａｔｅ 我阿媽既付出．
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