從你既形容，我始終都係覺得你老公唔會係 d 好絕情既人，不過可能係個專情既人（即一次只能鍾意一個人），對你可能係仲慘。 我老公都係呢仲人，ex-bf 都係 （都係東南亞華僑，都 plan 過嫁過去架，所以見你咁樣，真係好大感觸），係令人覺得好老實果種啦，唔會沙沙滾，不過一鍾意左第個就好難maan。 當年我就係sense 到我 ex-bf 開始有小小唔對路，我即時發難，仲一走了之（當年年少氣盛嘛），點知佢真係無追返我，3 個月後同個女仔一齊，後來結埋婚，我諗而家應該仔都生埋好幸福果隻咯。
如果你會選擇唔走 （仔仔可能係主要原因），可能都有一段長時間你要好努力好努力，無人欣賞，只能靜靜喊，日日對住個個心已經飛走左既人。 你老公而家係好似剛失戀咁，好痛苦，好delicate，如果你選擇繼續，就千祈唔好走，唔好返香港，你一返香港佢就會全心全意咁tum 返個女人架喇。 始終覺得你老公就係響你離開香港果兩個月陷左落去，之前有你日日見住，日日提醒佢，佢係有老婆既，始終有種約束； 所以佢都想你而家返香港，咁佢就可以嘗試重尋果兩個月果種快樂。 其實做個負心人都好難過，雖然係咁賴係你既錯，但佢都知係衰，唔係都唔會話自己自私啦，可能當日同你攤牌時，已經諗住你會帶埋仔走（你一直都話你係比較剛烈果隻，有同佢講過唔會容許佢有第二個），咁佢就唔洗揀，你走佢就自然可以同個女人一齊。 而家，你唔走，個女人走喇，sorry 講句，呢個唔係佢最希望既情況，我估佢仲會嘗試同個女人maan 返，所以呢個時候你更加唔好走。 試下同佢冷靜d 好好傾下：話知到佢愛上左第個，唔再愛你（好傷心），但你兩個始終有個共同的家，有個仔仔，this is an unchangeable fact. What you two decide now not only affect the two of you, but him also, and the impact will be so great that it will affect his whole life. Tell him that you're hurting so much but you are still here because you love this family, you love him and you love your son, you are trying all you could to hold you 3 together. Tell him that you know he's hurting too, but this is his home too, can he just try to give this marriage one more chance.
Be frank with you feelings, tell him what you feel these days. Probably you should also take this chance to tell him, if he believes that he can't go on, and he wants to end the marriage, you will respect that but you will have to take your son back to HK.
(當然仲有陰謀論，就係你老公無同個女人分開，只係知道你有離意，就話分開左黎留住你---- 呢 d 都係可能性，但最了解老公性格既係你，佢有無咁狡猾呢？只有你先知道 -- 變左心 je,本性唔會忽然變得好離譜 ）
If he really tries to get back together, other than being nice to him, like someone else have said before, you should also try to upgrade/update yourself a bit. Seems like your hubby likes the intelligent type of women (probably that's why he fell in love with you in the first place, coz' you are smarter than normal Indonesian women). 記得睇新聞，睇報紙，你以前讀咩科架？可以再進修下，或者係你老公做果行既科目呢？ 印尼有無d 理工/大學 有 award-bearing 既 cert/dip 可以讀？ 一來可以令你地有多d 話題，二來有起事上來搵工都多 d 咋拿嘛。 雖然話你老公變心多多藉口，不過佢講得啱既係，兩夫婦如果只有一個不斷向前，個gap 會越來越大。
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