Today I bring my BB (14 mths) to see doctor because she has flu. Doc said she need to take the steam for 15mins. To be frank, my BB is very afraid and thus she continue to struggle and cry for the whole 15 min.
After that I have to change diaper for BB, she continues to cry and cry because I have to let her lie down on the bed.
After all these, I am already very exhaust and feel very upset (because my BB is not happy). I suppose the nurse and other mami will feel pity for me and my BB and will try to comfort both of us. Even if no comfort, they can just take it as it is normal.
However, after I come out from the medical room, the nurse said the followings to me:-
"As a mom, you should control your BB's tamper. You cannot let her cry and scream. You should provide enough punishment in order to make her behave."
At the same time, there is another mon (with 4 yrs old boy) join in the conversation and said that my BB is too naughty and she never allowed her BB to be like this. She said that I should spent more time to teach my BB.
To be frank, I am a full-time mom (I quit my very good paid job and take care BB since she is 6 mths). I already spent most of my time with her and try my best to teach her to behave.
But, recently, my BB is really troublesome. She always try to do things her own way, she starts to hit other people (including me), scream when she is not happy. She also try my limits if I said No to her to something.
My understanding (from books and other mom) is that it is part of the growth of the BB. Although we try our best to lead her to the right way, she still need somewhere to release her ego.
I feel very upset with those comments from the nurse and the other mom. My feeling is that I am a "Failure" full time mom.
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