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大宅

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發表於 07-6-1 12:32 |只看該作者

我工人揍開bb,依家唔比佢揍佢唔開心,比d意見吖?

各位姊妹,
我工人係我度做左3年,一直好乖, 好盡責,我囡囡1.5yrs old,出世到依家都係佢揍,最近我見囡囡大個左, 想自己揍多d,敎下佢野,同多d親子時間,如自己帶囡囡出街,係屋企就會盡量自己揍,點知工人因為咁唔開心。

佢有次喊,我同佢解釋媽媽同bb係最親ge,講完一輪佢話明,之後都無喊,但每次佢見到我同囡囡玩得好開心,或者我霸住bb揍,佢都會無晒心機,小小面黑咁。

依家問題係我下個月開始會全職自己揍,唔知佢接唔接受到,我有同佢提過,佢緊係無出聲,但係我知道到時佢會好唔開心,但我知佢唔會自己辭職, 我又唔忍心炒佢,你地可唔可以比d意見呀?


男爵府

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發表於 07-6-1 15:56 |只看該作者

Re: 我工人揍開bb,依家唔比佢揍佢唔開心,比d意見吖?

tanganastasia,

is it so serious that you need to 炒佢??

I think you should talk with your maid that now her job assignment has changed and you should assign other task to her ... so that she still can keep the job and her time will be occupied with other task instead of watching you play with your daughter.

do it gradually.. don't take away her responsibility on your daughter totally at one time lar... I guess it's very uncomfortable gei .. but on other hand, she should understand she is only a maid lor...


大宅

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發表於 07-6-1 16:17 |只看該作者

Re: 我工人揍開bb,依家唔比佢揍佢唔開心,比d意見吖?

eshiro:
多謝你意見!其實如果係去到最worse我都唔會炒佢,雖然都有d無記性,但其實佢唔差ge。最大問題係同我掙揍bb啫。

雖然我仲未全職揍,但呢幾個月尼已經一路部署緊,兩個月前我開始出街唔洗佢去,呢個月叫佢星期日放假我自己揍(佢係屋企見到我揍會唔開心)。

經過好多次同佢傾,依家平時我放工返去同放假佢都做到"放手"比我揍。但我唔做野自己揍晒就唔知會點啦。

我其實有叫佢做其它野,但你知啦,家務有洗衫(洗e機洗),熨衫,抺地,煑飯(晚歺)一歺,尼的唔會做成日,抺窗,換床單都係一星期先一次,所以佢都會有得閒ge時侯。


大宅

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發表於 07-6-1 16:30 |只看該作者

Re: 我工人揍開bb,依家唔比佢揍佢唔開心,比d意見吖?

咁其實都不至於要炒佢. 佢咁鍾意湊BB真係開心都來唔切啦. 其實當你真係自己全職湊時, 你都會有唔得閒的時候, eg出街買下o野,做facial,剪髮,約下人食飯都要啦. 咁樣都係須要一個好的工人去睇住佢. 其實係可以同佢講清楚. 話你都知道工人好錫bb, 主人都好開心.不過如果主人係到時想自己同下bb玩下. 工人都可以幫下做其它o野......工人可以餵bb食o野,沖涼啊....等等. 如果唔係日子耐左, 佢又可能會覺得湊bb唔係佢的責任....係mum自己做番晒咪仲死

小叭係06年12月5日出世時重3.23kgs,1個月4.55kgs,2個月6.40kgs,3個月7.72kgs,4個月8.20kgs,5個月8.80kgs, 6個月10.00kgs, 7個月9.55kgs, 8個月10.00kgs, 9個月10.16kgs, 10個月10.45kgs, 11個月10.91kgs
(4個月第一次反身, 5個月坐, 8個半月爬, 9個半月出牙(上面兩只),10個月出牙(上面兩只)12個月7只牙, 11.81 kgs

細叭係09年1月26日出世, 體重6磅半.
4個半月轉身, 5個月識坐, 7個半月出第一只牙(下面)


大宅

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發表於 07-6-1 21:37 |只看該作者

Re: 我工人揍開bb,依家唔比佢揍佢唔開心,比d意見吖?

i will consider fire her


複式洋房

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發表於 07-6-2 11:19 |只看該作者

Re: 我工人揍開bb,依家唔比佢揍佢唔開心,比d意見吖?

fion2504 寫道:
咁其實都不至於要炒佢. 佢咁鍾意湊BB真係開心都來唔切啦. 其實當你真係自己全職湊時, 你都會有唔得閒的時候, eg出街買下o野,做facial,剪髮,約下人食飯都要啦. 咁樣都係須要一個好的工人去睇住佢. 其實係可以同佢講清楚. 話你都知道工人好錫bb, 主人都好開心.不過如果主人係到時想自己同下bb玩下. 工人都可以幫下做其它o野......工人可以餵bb食o野,沖涼啊....等等. 如果唔係日子耐左, 佢又可能會覺得湊bb唔係佢的責任....係mum自己做番晒咪仲死


Agree. 我是第一次請工人,記得初時工人時常和我爭住和bb玩,當我冇到咁,仲不時在我面前插嘴和bb講嘢,終於我好婉轉同她講,我同bb一天的相處時間很少,我希望我同bb有一個close bond, 希望我們獨處時不要打擾我們,leave us alone, 有嘢我會叫她幫手,我亦叫她不要在我面前插嘴和bb講嘢,因為我怕他分不清誰是媽媽。自此,她終於識做,亦明白她自己的role.

假如你的工人是好的,可以婉轉D和她講,同時你可以強調她的重要性,說雖然你會多D湊BB,但其他方面極需要她幫助,令她覺得好受一D。

唉!其實對住工人,仲慘過對住自己老細,時常要顧住她們感受,都咪話唔累。


男爵府

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發表於 07-6-2 11:38 |只看該作者

Re: 我工人揍開bb,依家唔比佢揍佢唔開心,比d意見吖?

tinker,

thanks for your sharing.. your experience is exactly the situation that I'm facing!!

What is the best time to talk to her on this nei?

"唉!其實對住工人,仲慘過對住自己老細,時常要顧住她們感受,都咪話唔累" <--- AGREED!!!!!


複式洋房

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發表於 07-6-2 13:15 |只看該作者

Re: 我工人揍開bb,依家唔比佢揍佢唔開心,比d意見吖?

Hi eshiro,

Sometimes it needs a little bit of acting. Just talk to her that u are afraid the baby is not attached to u and doesn't recognise u as the mother, so u need her help - just give u some private space for u and yr baby and u will shout for her help if u need her. And tell her not to distract the baby when u are playing with the baby cos' u're afraid the baby will not recognise your voice and be confused by two overlapping voices.

At the same time, praise her work and said u really need her help for u to develop close bonding with yr bb. Tell her that it doesn't mean that u don't like her playing with bb. it's just that u want more private time with bb, that's all. I think eventually she will understand.


大宅

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發表於 07-6-4 18:15 |只看該作者

Re: 我工人揍開bb,依家唔比佢揍佢唔開心,比d意見吖?

Dear all,
Thanks for your advice, I have done what you said actually. In fact, she follows my instruction but sometimes the face seems unhappy.

I also feel trouble everytime have to concern her feeling before what I do. Now hope the time will solve every thing as you said.

Actually, i also don want to fire her as her 本性 is good.


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