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大宅

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發表於 04-3-25 12:25 |顯示全部帖子

有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

開始覺得有沮喪的感覺, 我囡囡開始有脾氣, 會有打人的情況, 但係佢知咁樣係唔啱架,但又控制唔到自己


別墅

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發表於 04-3-25 13:58 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

妳的小朋友已兩歲, 佢發脾氣通常是有的野是佢想做但自己又做唔到所以發脾氣, 妳可以平時多的留意下佢, 在佢第一次做唔到的時候就從旁幫下佢, 做到小小就讚下佢,鼓勵下佢自己再做, 但妳要留意比佢玩的玩具是適合佢玩, 減小佢的失敗感就唔會發咁多脾氣. 如果佢想發脾氣打野, 妳可給佢打一個小枕頭, 等佢發洩完就同佢事後檢討, 問佢為什麼發脾氣. 幫佢解決問題,不過要佢明白妳講野先至得.


大宅

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發表於 04-3-25 15:46 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

My Duncan is 2 years old already. 佢發脾氣通常是有的野是佢想要但I don't want to give him, such as open the window. Normally, he will cry laughly until we give what he want. Sometimes, I will ask him to looking for soemthing that he always like in order to draw his attention to the other things. Or, I will try to explain to him that how come I don't let him to have the thing that he want. I think that 2 years old BB is starting to understand a lot from elder people. So, I always highly recommend other parents that they should talk with them a lot.


大宅

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發表於 04-3-25 16:06 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

[size=small]vleon,

唔洗沮喪,個個小朋友係呢個階段都差唔多係噤架,當然,有D 小朋友(因為個性問題)唔會噤容易發皮氣, 無情緒問題未必係件好事 , 亦有種小朋友好似"豆腐"- 無皮氣之餘仲成日"lum pat pat", 慢吞吞~~~

呢個age 既小朋友唔係好識點樣"情緒控制"架,唔好比任何"壓力"比妳/妳先生/小朋友本身 - 要知道:[size=small]小朋友本身自己都唔想架 - 佢地係唔識得點"舒發"想講,想做,想要 & 想聽既野比大人知~~~

我個女差唔多 3歲喇,都有[size=small]TERRIBLE / TROUBLE TWO 既問題出現(仲係時常TIM...!) 呢個階段好快會過,過左後妳可能會"回味" (miss) tim 架~~唔好氣餒!

之前我係呢個topic 度有講關於: 如何處理孩子情緒(孩子情緒的背後)(now, maybe 跌到去第2-3 頁lu...) ,妳有無睇過呀?通常佢地發皮氣/打人....等等,都係有個"動機/目的"架,了解觀察多點呀,做家長唔好只係鬧/打/喝 - 唔[size=medium]WORK架!大家共勉之~~~

  Love your family!


男爵府

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發表於 04-3-25 16:07 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

Hi vleon,

我都好有同感丫!唉.......

我女25mths old, 由佢20 mths 已經進入trouble two la :-( :-( :-(

好似唔肯著衫,唔肯著密,唔肯食飯.....好多唔肯.......,佢由20mths 開始返學,我而家覺得佢有小小進步。

好似昨晚她在玩公仔,我同她說就快沖涼la,我一陣入來叫你la。於是較好水後,我入去叫她,她不肯,於是我便抱她去沖涼,女女大哭大叫仲亂踢tim。

但我沒有發皮氣,我同她說mama已事前同你講左la,但女女仍不肯。

最後我想她需要1點空間平靜1下,我同女女講不如我地1切入去收拾完d公仔,再返黎沖涼丫?女女話好!

入到房收拾好d公仔,我再問她不如去沖涼law?女女竟說:唔好,我想咸多1陣。(女女竟會說這種話!!!!)


最後我唯有叫Bear Bear 出場,代我鍚番女女這才冇事,然
後沖涼都冇再扭計!

希望多d mama share 你地的心得交流下丫!!


大宅

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發表於 04-3-25 16:49 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

真係好多謝你地既鼓勵, 因為我要返工, 平時由婆婆帶佢, 星期五我才可以湊佢, 老人家平時比較"就"佢。

我重發現原來小朋友同小朋友交往都會有夾同唔夾, 同埋佢地玩既過程裡面會有好多事情, 大人係唔知發生過既。

試過我個friend帶佢個囡(3yrs)黎同我個囡玩過2次, 可能我個friend個小朋友o係大人面前識扮乖, 我個女o係呢2次活動中發晒脾氣(同另外d小朋友就無咁既情況出現), 本來我都以為係我個囡唔啱架, 但之後同我囡囡講番剛才咁樣發脾氣係唔啱既, 點知佢雖然得26個月, 但係佢話番比我知剛才既姐姐關左佢件玩具, 佢叫佢借佢玩, 佢唔比。佢重強調佢有講唔該。

原來小朋友只不過係表達唔出佢想講既野, 如果我當時罵佢, 可以想像佢應該點解會發脾氣o羅。o係o個一次之後, 有d乜野我都會問過佢發生乜野事。


大宅

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發表於 04-3-28 00:39 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

我囡囡2歲一個月,都有出現失控的情況。有次見咩就掉落地。連架豬仔車都唔放過,拎起再掉落地。我第一次見佢咁,最



別墅

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發表於 04-3-28 05:00 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

"瑩瑩"係講到好多有關問題..... 兒童心理學內有關發皮氣/打人....等等行為, 是多於小朋友未能表達到有關事項才引發出的, 只要你知道佢想要咩, 你教他講出或表達, 他便會在經驗中吸收~

至於不停將物件丟掉, 佢可能見到一件佢更想要, 或者更心急去做的事而引發..... 日後回想.... 係好可愛的行為

事關日後佢冇可能再咁真情流露...
我們應該感恩 神的話語令人清醒


大宅

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發表於 04-3-29 15:19 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

我囡囡都係, 今個星期返屋企出奇地乖。


侯爵府

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發表於 04-3-29 17:21 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

昨日我地一家去反斗x, 本來係想買亨x果d買一送一梨汁的. 因為時間還早, 甘入邊有副好大副的thomax 火車剋, 阿仔好開心甘拿左佢最心愛的綠色車仔玩, 玩到甘上下, 我同佢講要同火車講bye bye, 我們去買野啦,

本來相安無事, 不知行多幾步, 佢忽然大喊, 要行返轉頭去搵車仔, 平時我同佢講bye bye, 佢會即刻返轉頭搵我, 尋日不肯, 我叫佢爸爸不好跟住佢, 由得佢, 等佢無甘大謄走左去, 但係佢爸爸驚, 係都要跟住佢, 甘佢越行就越大謄, 越行越遠, 又搵不返車仔果度, 所以越喊越大聲.

我初時有d心軟想買架比佢, 但係佢係都不要, 係都要display果架, 買其他車仔, 糖mug都不要, 甘我唯有抱起佢強行走.

走到甘上下, 佢就收聲啦.

但係好戲在後頭, 行到去sogo, 佢爸爸去幫佢家姐落藥, 我自己帶住大女同細仔去sogo 的supermarket等佢, 甘我得一個人推住架bb車, 拖住個女, 甘緊係不再推sogo的車仔啦! 甘佢又喊啦bor, 係都要落地, 自己由收銀果度走去自動電梯果度望住d sogo車, 係都要坐上去.

甘好啦, 諗住佢坐前面個籃度, 家姐坐後邊啦(其實好危險, 但諗住等到佢爸爸返黎先算), 但佢係都不比佢家姐坐, 要自己一個坐, 甘我叫家姐推住架bb車, 我推sogo車, 佢又不肯, 要我推住兩架車??? 甘我點拖家姐?

一路喊, 越喊越大聲, 最後走人.

佢家姐兩歲時都係麻煩, 但係呢個還麻煩, 不通男仔真係惡d? 好氣餒, 講佢又不識講, 話佢, 佢又喊, 真不知點算??

成條街的人望住佢笑, 有d好似話我不買玩具比佢甘.


大宅

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發表於 04-3-29 17:57 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

hinhinmummy, 我可以想像到你有幾咁狼狽, 但係小朋友同大人都一樣, 有時真係有d情緒, 我咁大個人有時都唔知自已想點, 何況小朋友呢, 我諗唔係關乎男仔定女仔既分別, 我成日都話家下d奶粉實在加左太多營養, 在加上我地陀仔時又有葉酸等等的幫助, 家下d小朋友真係醒好多。

好有同感既係monster inc.入面話世界上最可怕既就係人類既小朋友。但係佢地亦會為你帶黎歡樂播.....hehe


洋房

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發表於 04-3-29 18:42 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

我個仔都係, 專家教路係想辦法轉移佢地視線,或比佢地選擇. 不過呢個方法對我個仔都係時work時唔work.所以我依家面皮越來越厚.


侯爵府

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發表於 04-3-29 21:41 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

decoma

你個仔都有時work呀! 佢係點都不肯, 要果樣就要果樣, 比其他野佢, 佢會'定'落地, 發脾氣.

還有, 佢覺得阿媽係佢的, 阿爸係家姐的, 不比我掂家姐, 家姐一行埋黎我度, 無論佢做緊mug野都好, 佢都會推開家姐, 或者拖家姐去佢阿爸度, 如果阿爸不係度, 就拖佢去個工人度.

甘我成日陪住阿仔, 阿女又覺得我偏心, 錫晒細佬, 連佢爸爸都話我只掛住阿仔, 但係我可以點呀!

都不知點算!

幾時先過呢個麻煩期呀! 阿媽得一個, 不如撕開兩邊, 一人一邊啦!


男爵府

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發表於 04-3-29 22:54 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

我細仔廿個月巳發脾氣掉嘢落地啦!佢可以一唔鐘意,走去推跌啲小椅都得!
佢要個樣你比第二樣佢,佢都係會掉咗佢!

致於扭買嘢,我大仔就唔會,細仔........都好似無乜.因為無論佢哋點扭,我都唔會買,就算個樣嘢我想買比佢哋,都會特登唔買住,等佢哋唔再扭時先買.
所以最重要係面皮厚,唔好理人點睇.
係百佳我細仔試過唔比佢搞嘢,佢發晒脾氣咁勁大喊,我都只係企係度睇佢喊咋!

不過兩個細佬真係好難同時顧到.我老公都成日話我偏心鍚晒細仔.但又真係無辦法,有好多事大仔能自己做到,細仔就係一步都要跟實,點同.我又唔可以分身!
有時都覺得大仔好慘,我老公又唔多會同佢玩(佢係一個超給無內性的人,連同兩個仔去街都未試過.),我一同佢玩個細又會來搞搞震,所以都無同佢玩.我知佢好唔開心,不過真係無辦法,唯有等細仔大個啲識得聽話時先慢慢補返數啦!
唉~~~~~~~~~~~


大宅

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發表於 04-3-30 00:01 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

想起都有D驚因為之前我個女係比人湊到兩歲自己湊番,開頭真係湊到我都傻,講又唔聽,鬧又唔驚,"仲比人話我個女好頑皮你要認真想辦法教好你個女以"當時比人話完我,我真係覺我自己好慘,不過之後我有時間就去圖書館租D湊仔書,不過大約就到三歲我個女就慢慢無以前


大宅

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發表於 04-3-30 10:02 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

我都試過比人咁講, 雖然真係好尶介, 但係諗深一層, 我又覺得人地唔知我個囡脾情, 每個父母有佢一套教仔方法,佢地唔應該亂下判斷。

hinhinmummy, 你唔洗咁沮喪既, 我個囡之前有一排都唔跟爸爸, 重叫佢走, 無論去玩, 抱佢食野都係跟住我, 當然瞓覺一定搵mummy(差唔多個個小朋友都係),甚至乎我去沖涼都要一齊入埋去厠所。 但係宜家佢都跟爸爸架, 小朋友都係每段時間都有唔同表現既。
Hochingman 寫道:
仲比人話我個女好頑皮你要認真想辦法教好你個女以"當時比人話完我,


複式洋房

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發表於 04-3-30 17:57 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

我大囝兩歲半,但算OK,除了未訓醒、想訓、餓或病外,很少發俾氣。最常發生的情怳是,佢好想做一D事,(eg由佢關上本來自動關的門


大宅

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發表於 04-3-30 23:33 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

I think every mum of a terrible two child goes through the same hard feeling. But we must understand diff children are born to have diff character, whether boy or girl. We have to accept that some are more mellow, some are not. As long as we are doing the right thing - staying firm & calm, explaining to them constantly, setting their expectation before the event - we should not blame ourselves despite what people say. Keep doing the right thing & our children will learn to behave. Once u let them win over, they will only be more dominating. Parenting is definitely a EQ lesson to learn.


大宅

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發表於 04-3-31 15:25 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

The reason why they are getting terrible two are kids at this age start knowing that they are an individual having their own thoughts, try to explore by doing all sort of "experience" to discover more about what's going on around him and our response to his acts. The worse thing is 2 years old kids cannot express themself good enought for adults to understand, on the other hand they wouldn'd understand and compromise with us.

My son used to drive me "really mad" before, at that time I always blaming myself of "what have I done wrong" until I read several parenting book and learnt the skills of being positive parent.

Try to analyst your kids behaviour as you were them, handle things that match their age, i.e. you cannot treat a 2 years old like how you treat your friends and relatives.

There is a free "ossitive Parenting Programme" organized by Department of Health, SAR. You may try call up the child clinic in your area and see if there is still space left.
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洋房

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發表於 04-3-31 16:35 |顯示全部帖子

Re: 有小朋友踏入Trouble Two的階段請進入談談

說起這問題,亦身有同感,囡囡兩歲半,大致上亦不算太曳,但有時,她的脾氣卻很大!

試過一次,放學回家途中,她很開心,想下地走,但剛好下著小雨,我便不給她下地,要抱著她,於是她便發脾氣,踢腳,「咬」腰……,弄至肚池也露了出來,但那時氣溫又低!結果,我一方面不可給她下地,另一方面又要不繼把她的衣服放入褲內,又怕她給雨水點濕, 我便像一個傻瓜一樣在雨中與囡囡糾纏,那一刻是我有生之年感覺最悲慘最想哭的一次!

前天,囡囡又來料,在上學途中,她要爸爸抱,一般,只有在過馬路/地滑/囡囡倦等環境下才會抱她,所以,那天我沒有應允她的要求,因此,她便發脾氣、哭、坐地下,我堅持,她亦堅持,這膠著狀態過了很久,因那裡是個商場,所以有很多人看,過程中也有老師及同學經過,任我用盡軟硬手段,她便是不肯行……,雖然,最後她是肯行了,但我知囡囡在那裡已成了名人!

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