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有沒有mami或準mami 有2個bb或將會有兩個bb, 可分享下照顧兩個小朋友的心得?(心理上, 時間上,....)
bryan 現在16個月(0612), 妹妹3個月(0801), 我要如何安排盡量不要哥哥jealous? 又不會疏忽妹妹.

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嘩你差不多兩年抱兩好厲害我就真係無勇氣!
我諗你可以多o的叫哥哥幫手照顧妹妹當佢做得好時你又讚多o的佢等佢覺得自己係大哥哥有責任照顧妹妹又會錫妹妹多o的
至於妹妹依家咁細個你一定會花好多時間o係佢身上所以都唔洗擔心會疏忽妹妹啦
反而真係要小心處理哥哥盡量唔好俾佢覺得你會為左妹妹而罰佢罵佢 eg佢玩時嘈聲左妹妹訓覺你就罵佢
咁佢一來覺得妹妹剝削左佢玩o既時間二來媽媽有左妹妹之後就成日罵佢佢會愈來愈討厭妹妹的...

我其實唔係兩個小朋友o既媽媽不過自細已經覺得因為細佬而俾媽媽疏忽左同埋媽媽成日都話我係大o既唔可以教壞細明明兩個一齊百厭媽媽都係怪我教壞細佬打都係打我攪到我o個時好唔開心成日覺得媽媽偏心
再加上身為老師o既我學生當中有太多依o的爭寵或者因為媽媽生多左個而攪到我個學生有情緒問題o既case
所以同你分享下o者希望有用啦~

湊兩個小朋友好辛苦唔好俾太大壓力自己加油~

原文章由 JOANHUI 於 8/4/2008 19:33 發表
有沒有mami或準mami 有2個bb或將會有兩個bb, 可分享下照顧兩個小朋友的心得?(心理上, 時間上,....)
bryan 現在16個月(0612), 妹妹3個月(0801), 我要如何安排盡量不要哥哥jealous? 又不會疏忽妹妹. ...

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Joanhui,

I'm 準mami將會有兩個bb in August ar~ hm... 16個月BB can't understand much yet ar... so, I think you just need to spend more time with 哥哥 .... 妹妹only 3個月.. probably know nothing yet ... so, should first handle 哥哥 first and let him adjust the change gradually ....

well, I know it's not easy in the real situation .. coz' my baby (16個月(0612)) is already quite jealous when other toddles approach me or daddy ar....... so, all we did was keep telling him he can't push or hurt the other... and share everything lor......

btw, do you have maid at home or you are full time mami ar??

原文章由 JOANHUI 於 08-4-8 19:33 發表
有沒有mami或準mami 有2個bb或將會有兩個bb, 可分享下照顧兩個小朋友的心得?(心理上, 時間上,....)
bryan 現在16個月(0612), 妹妹3個月(0801), 我要如何安排盡量不要哥哥jealous? 又不會疏忽妹妹. ...

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tks yr comments.
<<盡量唔好俾佢覺得你會為左妹妹而罰佢罵佢 eg佢玩時嘈聲左妹妹訓覺你就罵佢>> u r right. bryan is always shouting or screaming during the daytime, so mui mui is difficult to fall asleep even i close mui mui's bedroom. i don't scold him, but also don't know how to teach him not to shout or to scream.

原文章由 maggieddie 於 08-4-9 01:06 發表
嘩你差不多兩年抱兩好厲害我就真係無勇氣!
我諗你可以多o的叫哥哥幫手照顧妹妹當佢做得好時你又讚多o的佢等佢覺得自己係大哥哥有責任照顧妹妹又會錫妹妹多o的
至於妹妹依家咁細個你一定會花好多時間o係佢 ...

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eshiro,

congratulations. u should b feeling hot carrying a summer baby. take care.

being a working mom, taking care of 2 young bbs are really tired (not just care their physical but also psychological development..) no matter how busy i am, i will try to reach hm b4 9pm, so i can read bks w/bryan b4 he sleeps. after he sleeps, i take bath for mui mui and feed her (just want to be fair for 2 kids)

guo guo doesn't know how to play w/mui mui at this age, but for sure, they will be gd fds/ companions if c6 & i handle their relationships well. when guo guo was abt 7-8 mths old, i felt he knew the existence of mui mui (we always held his little hands to touch my tummy, telling him mui mui was inside). most of the time, he needed him to carry even the helper who had long hours with him couldn't settle him down....

when mui mui was born, he didn't accept her, trying to push her away if we put them together. he is very emotional when i am carrying mui mui. am i right if i passed mui mui to sbd and fulfil bryan's needs? is that unfair to mui mui? c6 said i am not fair to the bb girl?

>>do you have maid at home or you are full time mami ar??>> i need to travel quite often. hv 2 helpers

原文章由 eshiro 於 08-4-9 10:12 發表
Joanhui,

I'm 準mami將會有兩個bb in August ar~ hm... 16個月BB can't understand much yet ar... so, I think you just need to spend more time with 哥哥 .... 妹妹only 3個月.. probably know nothing yet ...

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我都有兩個小朋友, 不過, 大仔已經8歲, 如果佢地兩大小一齊係度(大仔唔使番學, 而我老公又唔放假, 要返工), 甘我就慘啦. 而且, 大仔好呷醋. 所以, 都好辛苦. 不過, 你就好d, 兩個隔得近d, 我唸會好d, 因為由細就灌輸要同細佬/妹分享, 隔得太遠, 真係唔係甘好.

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我仲以為兩個小朋友年紀隔得近才有呷醋的問題, (因為大的不懂性, 無法向他們解釋), 原來任何年紀都會產生jealousy!!!!

原文章由 k_wong7 於 08-4-9 17:36 發表
我都有兩個小朋友, 不過, 大仔已經8歲, 如果佢地兩大小一齊係度(大仔唔使番學, 而我老公又唔放假, 要返工), 甘我就慘啦. 而且, 大仔好呷醋. 所以, 都好辛苦. 不過, 你就好d, 兩個隔得近d, 我唸會好d, 因為由細就灌輸 ...

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其實依家當我隻狗仔o係房訓緊覺謙謙去敲佢門我就會細細聲shu佢同佢講豆豆訓覺覺唔好嘈醒佢做個手勢 shu...
依家佢自己抱住個公仔玩時拍拍拍"愛"個公仔訓覺佢都會放隻手指係咀邊 shu我叫我唔好嘈住公仔訓覺好好笑...

原文章由 JOANHUI 於 9/4/2008 16:12 發表
tks yr comments.
u r right. bryan is always shouting or screaming during the daytime, so mui mui is difficult to fall asleep even i close mui mui's bedroom. i don't scold him, but also don't know how ...

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gd training....

原文章由 maggieddie 於 08-4-9 22:57 發表
其實依家當我隻狗仔o係房訓緊覺謙謙去敲佢門我就會細細聲shu佢同佢講豆豆訓覺覺唔好嘈醒佢做個手勢 shu...
依家佢自己抱住個公仔玩時拍拍拍"愛"個公仔訓覺佢都會放隻手指係咀邊 shu我叫我唔好嘈住公仔訓覺 ...

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joanhui,

thanks ar~

btw, does your babies sleep in the same room with you or with the maid ar? since my 16-month old is sleeping with us in the same room... we are now thinking maybe at the early stage, 4 of us will squeeze in one room la..

hm.. 2 maids in the house... is it easy to manage them since you need to travel quite a lot bor?

Actually, we still need to plan more for the arrival of the 2nd one........ however, I get tired easier now... so, after work, just no energy to think more of it....

原文章由 JOANHUI 於 08-4-9 16:29 發表
eshiro,

congratulations. u should b feeling hot carrying a summer baby. take care.

being a working mom, taking care of 2 young bbs are really tired (not just care their physical but also psycholog ...

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b4 mui mui was born, bryan was sleeping with us. i was thinking if one of us was sick, bb were easily got transmitted, esp bryan will be easily to get sick after going to school. also, when one cries, the other one will be affected.

also want to train the kids discipline & reading habit, so bryan can hv a book shelf & toy boxes in his room. 2 of us will go his room to play & to read after dinner.. when playtime is over, of course he needs to put the books back to the shelf. If he shares room with mui mui, he will be distracted by lots of factors.

the helpers so far ok. if i travel, my mom & mother-in-law come to our place during the daytime.

原文章由 eshiro 於 08-4-11 13:20 發表
joanhui,

thanks ar~

btw, does your babies sleep in the same room with you or with the maid ar? since my 16-month old is sleeping with us in the same room... we are now thinking maybe at the earl ...

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joanhui,

is bryan sharing a room with one of the maid or by himself only? how long did he take to adapt to sleep in his own room?

we have 3 rooms in our flat... one master room, one room as the maid's room and storage, and one as for our computer room...... actually, I hesitate to let the maid to share a room with enoch as she already spent almost the whole day with him..... however, if need to transform the computer room to enoch's room.... it seems a lot of effort.....

how did you start back then??

原文章由 JOANHUI 於 08-4-11 15:00 發表
b4 mui mui was born, bryan was sleeping with us. i was thinking if one of us was sick, bb were easily got transmitted, esp bryan will be easily to get sick after going to school. also, when one cries ...

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eshiro,

yes, bryan is sharing a rm w/his yaya.

we moved into this apt on the day i discharged fm the hospital after charmain was born. that was completely new for all of us. bryan even didn't want to go to his rm and his bed. i felt very guilty taking his crib to mui mui and gave him a junior bed. surprisingly, bryan only took 2 days to get used to his new rm. at first, i played with him in his rm, let him feel relax in this new environment. 1st couple days, i accompanied him until he slept. now, bryan doesn't want to go into his crib, n enjoy playing in his rm.

eshiro, don't worry too much. bb is very powerful and u couldn't believe they can adapt new changes in such short time. if u finally decide to let enoch sleeping in 1 room, u better to start b4 yr delivery, coz u r the one he can rely the most.

bryan sometimes is very jealous-- doesn't want the little bb sharing his belongings. yesterday, he was so sweet. charmain had saliva, guo guo went to the tissue box, taking a tissue and wipe mui mui's mouth.

原文章由 eshiro 於 08-4-11 16:13 發表
joanhui,

is bryan sharing a room with one of the maid or by himself only? how long did he take to adapt to sleep in his own room?

we have 3 rooms in our flat... one master room, one room as the mai ...

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joanhu,

thanks so much for your sharing. haha.. and Bryan is really sweet to Charmain~ hopefully enoch will be a sweet brother, too

well, we are going to stay in the current place even after the 2nd baby is born..... however, to make the change for the rooms now seems too much task for me at this moment.... that's why i was hoping when we settle down with the new born and ready for such room changes... enoch will be okay with it.

in fact, I kinda worry about the week that I will be staying in the hospital for labour... as very often, enoch only want me when he wakes up in mid-nite............. and I can't imagine not seeing him days as well~~

原文章由 JOANHUI 於 08-4-12 22:49 發表
eshiro,

yes, bryan is sharing a rm w/his yaya.

we moved into this apt on the day i discharged fm the hospital after charmain was born. that was completely new for all of us. bryan even didn't want ...

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