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大宅

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發表於 05-1-30 21:31 |顯示全部帖子

bb跟菲多過跟自己,想辭退她

我在想這問題,因我是全職媽咪,經常在家陪伴女兒。她由一歲後才跟工人同房,但是她在不開心,喊就只要工人,生理上我當然好舒服,但心理上很難過。始終希望自己女兒在需要時我可以安慰她。我為這事還哭過數次,希望有媽咪可給我意見。


水晶宮

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發表於 05-1-30 22:12 |顯示全部帖子

Re: bb跟菲多過跟自己,想辭退她

elodie

你工人來你家有多少日子? 你的囡囡有多大?? 你們家庭樂時會不會帶工人?

做媽媽的很多時很矛盾. 首先是怕工人對小朋友不好. 但是如果小朋友很鐘意工人, 自己又會有點兒嫉妒. 現在你囡囡這樣 '痴' 個工人, 我會先是恭喜你, 因為你工人是對你囡囡好, 你囡囡才會這麼喜歡她.

至於心裡不好受, 不如先從好的角度想 (如我上述的想法), 再看看平日生活中, 怎樣跟囡囡建立更深一層的親子關係, 例如睡前跟她說故事, (如她已懂得表達自己)鼓勵她向你講出心裡事, 而你又跟她分享你的開心和不開心事情.

此外, 小朋友受父母責罵, 會常找其他長輩訴苦 (or '撐腰'). 可能你囡囡亦有這個情形出現, 而你工人就成為她的 '避難所'. 如是這樣, 你可工人商量, 要她配合你所要求囡囡的行為標準. 要不然, 工人跟你背道而馳, 你就會很難管教囡囡了.

我的bb現在還小, 以上話無疑對我來說, 是有少少理論成份, 但是, 這些都是集家中有小朋友的朋友的生活經驗. 希望會幫到你.



大宅

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發表於 05-1-30 23:16 |顯示全部帖子

Re: bb跟菲多過跟自己,想辭退她

Hi birdbird,

Thanks for your reply。
My baby 17thmonth old.我當然明白菲菲是很愛護bb,我亦很高興。平常家庭樂不常bring菲菲,而每日我也有一段頗長時間和bb一齊(單獨)。我會繼續努力,因為bb是我最愛的人。
您的bb多大,以後可以多多交流。


大宅

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發表於 05-1-31 02:08 |顯示全部帖子

Re: bb跟菲多過跟自己,想辭退她

I had experience like you before.

I think babies are very clever, they would find a person who never punish or shout at them. Maid don't teach them but parents do.

In my case, my maid is not too good to my baby but my baby still wants her always and doesn't approach me whenever I punish or shout at him. At last, I found a solution.

I ask my maid must stand at my side (that means ask her not to be the one to comfort the baby and do nothing for the baby) when I'm teaching or punishing my baby. Then when my baby approaches my maid later, my maid ignores him then. It really works! I'll let my baby cry for a long time (after he knows nobody help him). Until he is tired and calms down, I shall go and comfort him and make him sleep. He then kisses me and willing to sleep with him. Before he only allowed my maid to sleep with him whenever I punished him.

I think it just like mom and dad. Somebody would say one parent should pretend to be kind and another one should pretend to be strict to children. But at last, children will approach the one who are not strict. Therefore, I think it's very important for both mom and dad to stand at the same side so that you can teach your children successfully.


別墅

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發表於 05-1-31 10:00 |顯示全部帖子

Re: bb跟菲多過跟自己,想辭退她

elodie,
其實咁代表個工人對你bb好.所以你唔好太擔心.始終bb都係最鍾意父母 只不過當你鬧bb或佢唔開心,佢知工人一定攬佢,所以佢先會

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