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大宅

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發表於 05-7-19 11:50 |顯示全部帖子

If I become full time mama, should I ...

Hi everyone, if I become a full time mummy later (may be a few months later), should I employ a live in foreign maid to help me? I have a 1 year old baby.

Do you have any helper? Part time or live in? Can you share your experiences? Thanks a lot.


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發表於 05-7-19 12:51 |顯示全部帖子

Re: If I become full time mama, should I ...

hi,
I have been a full time mother for 2 years since my bb borned. If there is no financial problem, you must have to hire a domestic helper (Bun or Yan), otherwise you have no spare time to do anything even those go to toilet/taking bath, go out for a while.
But if your bb is easy to take care (sleep a lot/eat well .. etc), you can hire the local part time to do some general housework.
this is only my own opinion


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發表於 05-7-19 19:59 |顯示全部帖子

Re: If I become full time mama, should I ...

I just became a full time mom for few months only. I have the same opinion as ngchunyeemama. With the helper doing the housework, I can spend most of my time with my baby. If I have to do the housework, I may be too busy and get angry with him easily. Then, I rather go back to work.


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發表於 05-7-20 10:36 |顯示全部帖子

Re: If I become full time mama, should I ...

Thanks ngchunyeemama and sweetiebarney for sharing. You are right. Sometimes when I am with my boy, just don't find 1 minnute to go to the toilet because he always needs a companion. And when I can't do other things and rest well, I become very angry and not enjoying motherhood. Think I shall employ a bun bun.


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發表於 05-7-20 12:25 |顯示全部帖子

Re: If I become full time mama, should I ...

如果你有此想法, 姐係你都有能力請, 而家既疑問就係有冇咁既需要而已。

請的話: 你所有家務可以比曬佢做, 你有更多時間同小朋友一齊, 教下佢野, 同佢玩。 更重要既就係有返自己d私人時間, 有時想抖下氣自己出去行下, 或者約朋友食個晏仔都有人睇住個仔。

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發表於 05-7-22 09:48 |顯示全部帖子

Re: If I become full time mama, should I ...

Mummy, you are right. I totally agree with you! Sometimes when I go out to have lunch/dinner with my boy and my husband. I just CANNOT eat or talk because of my boy. And my husband is not really a family oriented guy, and doesn't look after baby as such. The best he can do is to watch TV together. He will put him down after carrying him/playing with him for 2 mins. I am actually thinner than before pregnant. And my big boy (ie my husband) wonders why I am always so tired.

Do you have a bun bun or yan yan? How old are your kids? How long have you been a full time mama?


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發表於 05-7-30 00:14 |顯示全部帖子

Re: If I become full time mama, should I ...

Agree to what Mummy said.... When I had my 1st kid, I had my mother-in-law taken care of her and the helper did the housework. Then when I had my 2nd kid 3 years old, I quitted my job and become the helper "number two". My mother-in-law resumed her "very busy social life" (very jealous). Understanding that there are many mums from low income families, who can "one foot kick". However, If your financial situation is ok, why not hire a helper? You know, a full-time mother is always needed to standby/work 24 hours. If you don't have someone to look after the kid for several hours and go out for some relax, you must be mad !!!


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發表於 05-7-30 17:04 |顯示全部帖子

Re: If I become full time mama, should I ...

totopiggy,

我生左個仔之後就quit左份工, 我個仔差唔多一歲, 我先請工人 (印印), 因為我老公要求我生第2個, 我開出左呢個請工人條件, 如果唔係唔使指意我生, 所以我完全知道做full time mum without maid會係一個 "惡夢", 食冇啖好食, 訓冇教好訓, 完全斷六親兼自閉。 自從請左阿4之後, 我先似番個正常人, 有番朋友, 有番自己少少既時間, 跟住阿女出世勒, 就用工人用到而家, 我個仔而家4歲半, 個女1歲8個月, 冇工人果段日子我永遠唔會忘記。 我亦唔expect會有奶奶或阿媽幫我, 我不嬲係 "不求人", 所以以前咁辛苦我都自己挨。
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