Just hire a maid, but I feel so uneasy, what to do?
My maid just came few days and so far she is ok...but I feel so uneasy to stay with her...and my BB is expecting to come at anytime...now, I feel like I have no choice but to keep her with me....how and what should I do to ease myself ah?????
Re: Just hire a maid, but I feel so uneasy, what to do?
thanks ah for your respond.....I really have no idea of how to live with her.......my husband said it's my problem....why always our husband said it's our problem gar? Men are are all like that?
Re: Just hire a maid, but I feel so uneasy, what to do?
Hi meowbaby,
How uneasy you feel when you stay with her?
You said "I really have no ideal of how to live with her......"
=> Can you give some actual examples?
I think you just relax and see what exactly you want her to do for you. Tell her what you want her to do during your stay (are you now in maternity leave?)
As you said you are expecting a baby, you may work out a plan for your baby. Ask her to get familar with your "expectation". Communication is very important.
Re: Just hire a maid, but I feel so uneasy, what to do?
Hi Ichun and Holiday,
Thanks for reading my posting...yeah...this is my 1st time to hire a maid. Most of my friends said don't treat the maid too nice in the beginning and show them a bit of how serious you can be as a master ....so, I just follow la..but I'm not that kind of person can be serious all the times, so I feel a bit "tiring"...plus, my Indo maid is ok so far(just 5 days with me)...so, I really have not much to complain regarding her performance. BB ma..yeah...actually today is my due date but my BB doesn't have any symptoms that want to "face people" la....so, how should I let my maid know my expectation about taking care of baby nei? I'm 1st time to be a mom...so, even myself have not much idea...but I want to do my best la of coz....
Ichun,
What examples? Um....like I can't talk to my husband free...bcoz she can speak/listen v good Cantonese la....I feel so strange that at home, but I can't talk freely... I don't have sense of secure towards her..always afraid that I'll lose something but in fact, I have nothing much to lose.... maybe I heard too much negative feedback before, so I don't really trust them even though I'm lucky enough to have this maid with me....(you know, I already get some other agents phone no to get replacement before she come, my friends told me that 99% I will need to change maid).
Hoilday,
thank you so much for comforting me la.....I'm really touched.....maybe I really need time to adjust myself la..and I hope I'll be like what you said, prefer eat litttle but hiring a maid... how's your maid ah? how old is your BB ah~~?? your's must be good!!
Re: Just hire a maid, but I feel so uneasy, what to do?
Of course, everyone will become uneasy with a stranger at home. It's normal. It will become better when you start to change a bit of your living habit and your living habit will change a lot anyway after the baby born.
You can plan now how the baby would be taken care. e.g. where to put the baby clothes, diaper, detergent, steamer, baby bottle, milk powder. when to take bath for the baby, who do it? Where to put the toys? how frequent the floor need to be wiped, the bottle need to be cleaned? etc.
Re: Just hire a maid, but I feel so uneasy, what to do?
Dear meowbaby,
Not every maid is worse.
I hire my first Indo maid to take care my newborn baby five years ago.
She helped a lot.
我初頭都係萬分唔習慣有個外人係屋企, 但是慢慢會慣!
Relax! Relax! Relax!
Good Luck!
ii-3
Re: Just hire a maid, but I feel so uneasy, what to do?
I've got my maid 3 weeks only . before she arrived. i could not sleep and eat well and always worry worry .... so far. she did quite well. no big mistakes ! me and her work like a team to take care the kid and the family.
before she arrived, many friends told me i should act like a boss and never smile with her. ... but i could not do that . we live and eat and stay in the same house. i just want to be myself, and the more i chat with her, the more i know her.
but as other mummy said, i also give her clear instructions e.g. house rule, time table and food arrangement for the kid. and i also lock my masterbedroom because i want to keep my privacy ! It's true that i feel comfortable to lock the door when i am not at home.
i hope if i treat her good. she will treat my family good too !
Re: Just hire a maid, but I feel so uneasy, what to do?
It's understandable that there will be a change in lifestyle especially privacy. As time goes by you will know how to get along with her.
My sister's maid is very good even she had a financial problem in the past and terminated her, she worked again for my sister when she restored her financial position. She can manage to serve feast for us especially during festive season.
For me, I am not so lucky my maid will easily become moody and said she wanted to quit when she did not do her work well. Also, she is never willing to change holiday. BK mummies, pls let me know what I shall do.
Also, I need to get use to their treating male boss better than mum. Sometimes my husband will stand on her side without knowing the details why I have concerns on her work as men are not so detailed in terms of household chores.
So, must be patient and never let minor things disturb the family's harmony as it's not worth it.
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