My mother always gives things/gifts to my maid and never tell me about this even my current maid resigned and leaves not soon. She also assume the maid will not tell me. What I can do? My maid compares the treatment between me and my mother. I tried to talk to my mother but she insist to do it (to both the current one and the new one forever) and she even said I will not go to your home that I will not be familiar with her...
We do not live with my parents but nearby. My mother will always go to my home to visit my son and play with him. It's good to my son and very good before as my ex-maid treated my son not good. She came to observe her and protect my son. However, she's recently treated my current maid very friendly and always gives her things/gift though not expensive/valuable without notification. She asks me to treat the maid better no matter she is good or not in actual. She never listens what her performance is and even she never asked me why she resigned. (Actually, my current maid cannot adapt the living style in HK and the demands of HK employer. She is not willing to work in HK as a maid as it is out of her expectation. She blames to work hard and not sleep good at night due to my son sickness, especially needs to work on day off.)
Please give me advise and share your similar experience if any. Many thanks.
my "99" is the same as your mother. so my first maid not quite listen to me. Start from the 2nd maid, I keep on reminding the maid to definately know who is your employer and who pay you salary. And also tell her not to receive any gift/money from my "99", otherwise I will be angry on her. But of course, if maid and "99" aimed at not telling you and hiding the thing, you really can't control. "Old people" always like this. As far as you think you are fair and not bad to your maid, don't care what they think. Just ask them to do the thing they need to do.