Yes, same as yours, she always demanding from our family, but never help if we need...
It happen few years ago, when she moved to our next block, she had fired her maid and new maid not yet ready to HK, she ask my 99 to take care her daughter (IN OUR HOME, we live with our 62 and 99). Although me and my husband don't like, just let her do so (cos we know my 99 will be unfair to my daughter and her daughter when the children have conflict).
It really happend and made us very unhappy.
So, a year ago, my 99 have serious arguement with 62 and she ran away...... I am a working mom, and didn't know if I could find a ready part time/full time maid. So I ask mom and 嫂嫂 if they can help .... both of them promise if I need (but they live quite far away from me), but I wanted one more back up (she lived near us), but ....... my 姑仔 refused, even I just ask if my daughter would stay only after school, and my 62 will pick her up around 5:00... she refused.....
I was so disappointed, she always asked my opinion when something happened to her, and problems happened with her husband ....... it really waste a lot of my time ....
Now I understand that I WILL never help this kind of person again, I sware....