最近再看完另一本"我家小孩教養好 ~ How to behave so your children will, too!" by Sal Sever.
這本書亦有提及magic 的方法去糾正偏差的行為
還有更多实際例子e.g. 父母不小心在孩子面前說髒話的補救方法/如何鼓勵or提升孩子的自尊心,如何合理地處罰孩子 etc...
此書可於公共圖書館借閱
ks, after I hv read more other books, I think we need to take a mixed approach. Magic 1.2.3. in some way will work. However, if measured by 《心灵》ruler, Magic 1.2.3. might be too harsh, risking to trap into discouraging 'self initiative' (coz the kids are banned to do something considered not good by the parents (thou by Magic 1.2.3. method)). Parents must be very wise in using different methods but not to rely on one only. My conclusion is that Magic 1.2.3 should not be used (esp the method to deal w/ negative behaviour) on very young kids (even not too often for yrs 2-3 when such kids are still exploring the world).
Btw, does the book you mentioned say anything -ve about the Magic 1.2.3. method?
Gloria,
我家孩子教養好亦很贊成Magic1.2.3的Time out approach.其實我很同意你的分折Time out approach 不是很适合較細的小朋友 (e.g.我个女就快3yrs,time out 對佢無物用)所以我仍在不停的試各種方法來教導佢.
心灵一書內容如何?作者/出版社是誰?等我有時間去睇睇!
thx. This is the book 心灵的成长 I referred. [img align=left]http://www.hongniba.com.cn/bookclub/images/books/book_20000581_b.jpg[/img]
(日)平井信义 著
陆浣 译
江苏少儿 2001年02月 出版
Details see the posting at FXPC topic. This book is avail at hongniba. Only RMB 6.5 cha!!!
I hv finished half. It is very good in telling us to how give 'freedom' to our kids without spoiling them at the same time. It gives examples about how to build kids’ four essential psychological foundations so as to be a good person. The elements include 'self-initiative', 'considerate', 'ability to adapt to diff circumstances' and 'cognition 智性'. Without these, even if your kid has IQ200, he/she won't grow up into a mature, independent, reasonable person with life aspirations!! It also teaches us the skills of not just creating 乖乖仔/女 (only listen to instructions but don't know what to do without them). 平井信义's points are highly convincing as he gets the conclusions from his contacts with child at his actual experience. Bear in mind that he is a doctor and a psychologist.
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